Green_Eren Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 Hey guys. So about 1 month and a half ago I went on a tinder date with this girl. The date started off a bit stale but it quickly picked up and we ended up having a great time. We ended up talking outside of my place until 3am inside my car and making out a bunch, she even ended up sleeping over cause it was too late and she was tired. I was respectful and didn't try anything, we cuddled though. Fast forward 2 weeks and we had hung out several more times, had sex, and even held hands in public one time. Me and her are very similar in the way we are (Kinda chill personality) and I think thats why we hit it off so well. She's from (Lets say California), she has always lived there, I however was new to town because I transferred to a college out there. So I had to return back to my home state for the holiday break since I already had booked my flight and everything to see my family/friends. My last 4 days in California, we legit spend them all together, 2 nights at my place and 2 nights at her place. A lot of talking, cuddling, and messing around. We got breakfast every morning, she even introduced me to all her friends and we all went out to a dance night club together one night and it all went great. Then I left for break, I would be gone for 5 weeks. So after I left Cali, we were snap chatting each other every single day and we even talked on the phone for 2 hours this one night. This was the case for the first 2 weeks I was on break. I would sometimes initiate it, sometimes she would. Then after new years she didn't mssg for like 2 days, I mssgd her and it turns out she lost her phone on new years. I felt slightly relieved and then tried getting convo going but she just left me on opened. Usually I'm kinda doing the work in keeping the convo going, I ask questions and stuff, she does sometimes too but its mostly me. Kinda how it is in real life too lol It's silly, but I feel kinda worried that whatever we had might fizzle out in these next 2 weeks until I got back to Cali. Should I be worried? We're definitely not exclusive so the thought has also come to my mind that she may be talking to someone new over there. I don't like always being the one to text first it makes me feel like I may be annoying her, so far she hasn't mssgd me first. I doubt she will by today and then it'll be another 2 days. I know I sound crazy but I just get the vibe that maybe she's moving from our 2 week thing. What do you guys think?
Author Green_Eren Posted January 5, 2018 Author Posted January 5, 2018 Hey guys. So about 1 month and a half ago I went on a tinder date with this girl. The date started off a bit stale but it quickly picked up and we ended up having a great time. We ended up talking outside of my place until 3am inside my car and making out a bunch, she even ended up sleeping over cause it was too late and she was tired. I was respectful and didn't try anything, we cuddled though. Fast forward 2 weeks and we had hung out several more times, had sex, and even held hands in public one time. Me and her are very similar in the way we are (Kinda chill personality) and I think thats why we hit it off so well. She's from (Lets say California), she has always lived there, I however was new to town because I transferred to a college out there. So I had to return back to my home state for the holiday break since I already had booked my flight and everything to see my family/friends. My last 4 days in California, we legit spend them all together, 2 nights at my place and 2 nights at her place. A lot of talking, cuddling, and messing around. We got breakfast every morning, she even introduced me to all her friends and we all went out to a dance night club together one night and it all went great. Then I left for break, I would be gone for 5 weeks. So after I left Cali, we were snap chatting each other every single day and we even talked on the phone for 2 hours this one night. This was the case for the first 2 weeks I was on break. I would sometimes initiate it, sometimes she would. Then after new years she didn't mssg for like 2 days, I mssgd her and it turns out she lost her phone on new years. I felt slightly relieved and then tried getting convo going but she just left me on opened. Usually I'm kinda doing the work in keeping the convo going, I ask questions and stuff, she does sometimes too but its mostly me. Kinda how it is in real life too lol It's silly, but I feel kinda worried that whatever we had might fizzle out in these next 2 weeks until I got back to Cali. Should I be worried? We're definitely not exclusive so the thought has also come to my mind that she may be talking to someone new over there. I don't like always being the one to text first it makes me feel like I may be annoying her, so far she hasn't mssgd me first. I doubt she will by today and then it'll be another 2 days. I know I sound crazy but I just get the vibe that maybe she's moving from our 2 week thing. What do you guys think?
Lobouspo Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 It sounds like a little no strings attached fling that has run its course. If you met on Tinder and she's halfway decent looking, I guarantee you she has been messaging other guys. Someone else has caught her eye and she's moved on to the next. The key with Tinder and dating/hookup apps is to have no expectations. If you like her and still want contact, message her again, but you may be getting the gradual fade out here OP. 1
smackie9 Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 There was no relationship established so she's probably dating other people. Having a couple of dates and crap means nothing...stop texting her and call her up when you get back.
Author Green_Eren Posted January 5, 2018 Author Posted January 5, 2018 I considered this too, but meeting her friends, sleep overs and getting breakfast, these things don't really add up to 'no strings attached'. We had some pretty deep conversations and she shared intimate things with me. Her friend texted her once and we were cuddling and I saw for a sec she wrote "I'm with a guy i've been seeing". The word SEEING to me implies like dating, no?
stillafool Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 5 weeks is a long time when you beloved lives in Cali. Too much going on and way too many options. I don't believe she lost her phone but okay. Just because you went out a few times, had nice conversation and sex does not mean you are in a relationship. It sounds like you two were just getting to know each other and it is casual.
Author Green_Eren Posted January 5, 2018 Author Posted January 5, 2018 Yeah you're probably right. What do you think I should do? I want to keep seeing this girl when I get back to Cali in 2 weeks
stillafool Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 Just get in touch with her when you get back and try to start it up again. Look your best!
Author Green_Eren Posted January 5, 2018 Author Posted January 5, 2018 Yeah I definitely will! I meant more like, in the meantime what should I do? I don't think I can just totally disappear for 2 weeks and then hit her up in Cali. But I also don't wanna seem needy/annoying by texting too much
Popsicle Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 I dunno, I get bored with texting or chatting too. I need the in-person to keep it alive. Some girls really get off on chatting though. Maybe she’s like me. In that case, all you can do is wait until you get back and see what happens.
d0nnivain Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 I think if you don't have enough to keep things together for 2 weeks while you are gone temporarily, there is nothing there. Lots of college students keep things going over winter break. Since you claim to be a chill person, do just that -- relax.
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