Ex sent me a 14 page letter 6 weeks into NC.. still as manipulative as ever

[HumanMachine]

7 double sided a4 sheets of drivel

 

Talks about how much she has changed, how she is a better person, how she has taken responsibility for the downfall of our rship

 

Talks about how she has a new job and home, but she is leaving soon as the pay isn’t great (more on this later)

 

Talks about the past and how good we were together, how she misses “EVERYTHING” about me

 

With a bit of digging I find out-

 

Leaving new job on her own accord (yeah right) as the pay isn’t great, yet she doesn’t have another job to go to.. poor money is better than no money?!

 

She was saying exactly what she thought I’d want to here, she hasn’t changed one bit

 

She doesn’t miss “EVERYTHING” about me, 6 weeks ago she let me walk out of her life without a care in the world

 

Funny how her letter coincides with her ‘leaving’ her job right?

 

Sounds to me like she’s been fired AGAIN and is getting desperate

 

I showed 2 female friends her letter, 1 knew the history the other did not. The friend who didn’t know the history cried, and said that was the nicest thing i’ve ever seen someone be sent. Friend who knows the history looked me in the eyes and said “BS”. Carl Pilkington esque.

 

Sorry, had to vent.

[PegNosePete]

Talks about how much she has changed, how she is a better person, how she has taken responsibility for the downfall of our rship

Really, you actually read all that??

 

I would have put it in the circular file.

[HumanMachine]

Really, you actually read all that??

 

I would have put it in the circular file.

 

It made good bathroom reading

[anonymousbear00101100]

People do things when they're desperate. It's good that you know this is all a load of BS because it is. If she's writing this type of thing to you six weeks after breaking up she hasn't even accepted things, much less healed enough to work on herself.

[HumanMachine]

People do things when they're desperate. It's good that you know this is all a load of BS because it is. If she's writing this type of thing to you six weeks after breaking up she hasn't even accepted things, much less healed enough to work on herself.

 

She accepted things months before we split up. She knows exactly what she’s doing, she’s a manipulative con artist who knows how to get what she wants when she wants. A real Jekyl/Hyde character.

[alterest]

From what I read from you here on LS you do know that this letter is because her desperation. And you do know that you shouldn't take it seriously or anything. She isbidealizing you right now, and that is the worst time to get someone back, cause everything will running when reality kicks. If you want her back, do it slowly and don't play games (and I know that you won't do that cause you seem to know how to deal that kind of situation).

Do not belittle her feelings right now. She does feel it, but she is in a fog of desperation. It's true right now, but the trigger for that isn't genuine.

[HumanMachine]

From what I read from you here on LS you do know that this letter is because her desperation. And you do know that you shouldn't take it seriously or anything. She isbidealizing you right now, and that is the worst time to get someone back, cause everything will running when reality kicks. If you want her back, do it slowly and don't play games (and I know that you won't do that cause you seem to know how to deal that kind of situation).

Do not belittle her feelings right now. She does feel it, but she is in a fog of desperation. It's true right now, but the trigger for that isn't genuine.

 

Thanks.. appreciated. This girl does what works for her - simple. 2 hours writing a sob story for her is a worthy investment if she gets back with me, i’ve got a career and my life is in order. I’m feeling very cynical.

 

The chain of events leading up to her contacting me is just way too fishy.

[bluecastle]

I agree that it's important, for your own self-growth, not to belittle her feelings. They're as real and genuine as she's capable of, which of course is not nearly enough for you.

 

As you know, she doesn't have a firm grip on her feelings, or herself, which is what makes things like this indirectly manipulative and her a bad partner.

[Been]

That's funny. I got a 2 page typed letter stating how my ex didn't realize how much she needed and loved me. How she was "scared" to let me love her. I mean my ex really tried to pour it on until..........

I realized that their wasn't anything in the letter about the cheating,lying etc.

Also the best part was she had written something almost identical in a card to me- it was almost word for word lol.

[HumanMachine]

That's funny. I got a 2 page typed letter stating how my ex didn't realize how much she needed and loved me. How she was "scared" to let me love her. I mean my ex really tried to pour it on until..........

I realized that their wasn't anything in the letter about the cheating,lying etc.

Also the best part was she had written something almost identical in a card to me- it was almost word for word lol.

 

Yes interestingly enough in 14 pages she didn’t touch on her dishonesty and untrustworthiness. Funny that!