SmallWonder Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 I am having issues here, as you all know (or don't know). I am seeing a Guy's Guy and I am not sure how to proceed. He is always with his friends (I feel it's more HABIT than compatibility) and I am wondering how a nice girl like me can win the heart of a bachelor without playing TOO hard to get. Here are the facts as he has told it, and that I have seen: It's been one month... 1. He doesn't see, and is not interested, in seeing anyone but me. "I like you a lot." When he saw me (again after 10 years) "It was like I got hit smack in the middle of my forehead with a board." 2. He wants to take things slow because of his previous f*@ed up relationships. 3. I am the more normal girl he's EVER dated (this according to his best friend) 4. He wants me around when he's out but doesn't want me to get in his space. Annoying. 5. He calls - almost like clockwork - every Monday to see how my weekend was, whether I saw him or not. 6. He lives by the seat of his pants. He hates making plans in advance JUST IN CASE. He claims its because of his accident, which messed his body up really bad - taking life one day at a time.... 7. He comes over about once or twice a week and we talk. He said he has never felt more comfortable with anyone ever, and he's told me things he's never even said outloud. THIS makes him uncomfortable and scared. 8. His friends are idiots. He is not. 9 He LOVES his family like crazy and takes his grandma to dinner every Friday night. 10. His friends are ALWAYS at his house. ALWAYS. They like, sleep there. 11. He still hasn't taken me on a DATE DATE. 12. He bought condoms (that fit) but doesn't want to have sex until we're more serious. 13. I feel like an afterthought in this guys life, but when he LOOKS at me....it sends shivers to my toes. He doesn't even have to TOUCH me. So, how do I make this guy take this guy from Bachelor to Boyfriend? P.S. I'm in no real rush...... But a girls gotta plan......
alphamale Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Originally posted by SmallWonder So, how do I make this guy take this guy from Bachelor to Boyfriend? learn to cook....both in the bed and the kitchen
Author SmallWonder Posted August 23, 2005 Author Posted August 23, 2005 If he was interested in having a hot sexual relationship, I already have RediWhip in the fridge with his name on it. And he knows it. How else can I make him MORE interested?
Jolene Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Is he married? Have you actually met his "friends" or just heard them in the background on phone conversations? Does he live with his parents? Have you been to his house? Do you know where he lives. If, after one month, he is being elusive with you....run away or get hurt by sticking around to find out what his secretive life is all about....you know, the life he doesn't want to involve you with in a hurry....why? Get in his space, girl, and demand what you deserve....an open/honest relationship. Any guy that is truly into you will want to be all over you touching and kissing. You might want to consider that he is gay, married or just plain indifferent and hoping to get something out of it like sex or money. Just be careful emotionally. Any guy that makes me feel like I am an intruder (in his space) can kiss my keester and good riddance. What's next....?
kitkat826 Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Originally posted by JanieQP What exactly do you like about this guy? My thought as well. Example: the only mention you make of anything that benefits you in the post is that his look "sends shivers to your toes". Are you sure there is more to this besides physical attraction and the excitement of the chase (a.k.a changing him to suit your needs?)
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