ExposedBrick Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 Its brutally cold here on the east coast, although not too snowy in my neck of the woods. I was supposed to go on a third date with a woman to a dinner and comedy show tomorrow. However, its going to be a zero degree wind chill at the beginning of the date and only get colder as the night progresses. I went to her place at the end of the second date and watched part of a movie which then turned into a make out session. Do you think it would be too aggressive to propose her coming to my place for making dinner/ordering out and watching a movie/Netflix as an alternate at this point?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 Its brutally cold here on the east coast, although not too snowy in my neck of the woods. I was supposed to go on a third date with a woman to a dinner and comedy show tomorrow. However, its going to be a zero degree wind chill at the beginning of the date and only get colder as the night progresses. I went to her place at the end of the second date and watched part of a movie which then turned into a make out session. Do you think it would be too aggressive to propose her coming to my place for making dinner/ordering out and watching a movie/Netflix as an alternate at this point? How much walking outside is involved in the planned date? Is there a parking lot?
Interstellar Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 At your house is too much too soon. You’re already moving way too fast for this babe. Watching TV/Netflix date is the type of thing you do after you’ve been married for thirty years and miserable. I would reschedule for next week.
LilySun Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 It's that cold in my state too. I would probably be just fine with that idea. Maybe present it to her as an option because of how cold it will be,and just remain open to Plan A if that is still what she prefers to do. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 It's that cold in my state too. I would probably be just fine with that idea. Maybe present it to her as an option because of how cold it will be,and just remain open to Plan A if that is still what she prefers to do. I think I'd say something like, "ready to brave the cold tomorrow night?" and gauge her response. If she sounds like she's dreading that, then propose the Netflix idea.
LilySun Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 At your house is too much too soon. You’re already moving way too fast for this babe. Watching TV/Netflix date is the type of thing you do after you’ve been married for thirty years and miserable. I would reschedule for next week. Well she invited him to her place once already, so she might not think it's moving too fast. 1
Interstellar Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 Well she invited him to her place once already, so she might not think it's moving too fast. That doesn’t mean I have to go along with what she *thinks* she likes at least with being physical and all that. You gotta spoon feed yourself with this babes. This girl could hurt you.
Author ExposedBrick Posted January 5, 2018 Author Posted January 5, 2018 How much walking outside is involved in the planned date? Is there a parking lot? I live a public transit/Uber oriented area. The walk from the restaurant to comedy place is about 10 minutes.
lovephule Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 Would you be picking her up or would she be fending for herself? Curious mostly.
basil67 Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 Let me understand.....the weather is too horrible for a date. But not so horrible that you'd ask her not to travel in it to your place. If you're OK asking her to travel in it, why are you not OK to take her on a date in it? 2
Author ExposedBrick Posted January 5, 2018 Author Posted January 5, 2018 Let me understand.....the weather is too horrible for a date. But not so horrible that you'd ask her not to travel in it to your place. If you're OK asking her to travel in it, why are you not OK to take her on a date in it? good point, might as well just go on the date, its not like we'll be at an outdoor event or something
Interstellar Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 Does she live close? are you gonna pick her up? how bad are the snow conditions? We’re buried twelve feet in snow here in the East Coast. Girls have a tendency to flake with bad weather especially like this. However, if she invites you to her place then I would take it because it’s incoming interest.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 I live a public transit/Uber oriented area. The walk from the restaurant to comedy place is about 10 minutes. Take an Uber! 10 minutes is too cold in this weather!
LilySun Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 That doesn’t mean I have to go along with what she *thinks* she likes at least with being physical and all that. You gotta spoon feed yourself with this babes. This girl could hurt you. But he's not doing it to go along with anything. He is just trying to come up with an alternative idea because of weather. And as a woman I don't think dinner and movie at home is too much for a 3rd date,(long as I really like the guy) but weather or not she thinks so is for her to decide.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 But he's not doing it to go along with anything. He is just trying to come up with an alternative idea because of weather. And as a woman I don't think dinner and movie at home is too much for a 3rd date,(long as I really like the guy) but weather or not she thinks so is for her to decide. Yeah, but a good point was made that SHE will still have to go out if she goes to his place....he's the one who would get to stay cozy lol. Stick with the date, OP!
Interstellar Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 But he's not doing it to go along with anything. He is just trying to come up with an alternative idea because of weather. And as a woman I don't think dinner and movie at home is too much for a 3rd date,(long as I really like the guy) but weather or not she thinks so is for her to decide. I was just referring to the make out session part. 1
LilySun Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 Yeah, but a good point was made that SHE will still have to go out if she goes to his place....he's the one who would get to stay cozy lol. Stick with the date, OP! True but being this cold, traveling to a restaurant in the cold, then walking somewhere else in the cold, then traveling in the cold again to go home, doesn't sound appealing in zero degree weather. At least going to someone's home sounds like a lot less of being outside, lol. I went to a friend's for NYE instead of going out for very reason, but that's just me, this girl may not even be the slightest bit bothered by these temps. If they both agree the cold is too much, Plan B could work.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 True but being this cold, traveling to a restaurant in the cold, then walking somewhere else in the cold, then traveling in the cold again to go home, doesn't sound appealing in zero degree weather. At least going to someone's home sounds like a lot less of being outside, lol. I went to a friend's for NYE instead of going out for very reason, but that's just me, this girl may not even be the slightest bit bothered by these temps. If they both agree the cold is too much, Plan B could work. Oh I hear ya girlfriend. My friend asked me to go out to dinner tomorrow night (while calling me a hermit, because I am) and I'm already dreading it!!! 1
LilySun Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 Oh I hear ya girlfriend. My friend asked me to go out to dinner tomorrow night (while calling me a hermit, because I am) and I'm already dreading it!!! Haha.. I don't blame you I already decided to just stay in this entire weekend and try not to leave for anything whatsoever... Lol. But all that aside I do agree he should try to stick with original plans, unless they decide together that going to his place sounds much warmer and cozy, ') 1
Author ExposedBrick Posted January 5, 2018 Author Posted January 5, 2018 Does she live close? are you gonna pick her up? how bad are the snow conditions? We’re buried twelve feet in snow here in the East Coast. Girls have a tendency to flake with bad weather especially like this. However, if she invites you to her place then I would take it because it’s incoming interest. My main concern is that the time will come close to the date and she will flake, which is why I was going to offer it as an alternative. It was pretty cold last weekend when we went out, she didn't scoff at the weather at all, but the low was probably about 20 not zero. I can't invite myself to her place after all.
LilySun Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 My main concern is that the time will come close to the date and she will flake, which is why I was going to offer it as an alternative. It was pretty cold last weekend when we went out, she didn't scoff at the weather at all, but the low was probably about 20 not zero. I can't invite myself to her place after all. Might as well still present as a Plan B weather pending option. Never know if she ends up inviting you over to her place instead. Just put it out there you are perfectly happy to keep Plan A as well and that way it's up to her. If she is dreading the cold she might be glad you came up with the idea.
Author ExposedBrick Posted January 5, 2018 Author Posted January 5, 2018 Might as well still present as a Plan B weather pending option. Never know if she ends up inviting you over to her place instead. Just put it out there you are perfectly happy to keep Plan A as well and that way it's up to her. If she is dreading the cold she might be glad you came up with the idea. I was thinking about offering it as a plan B if she tries to cancel or flake out or do you think it would be better to present it today, ahead of time?
LilySun Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 I was thinking about offering it as a plan B if she tries to cancel or flake out or do you think it would be better to present it today, ahead of time? Well if she cancels we don't know that cold weather would be her reason.I don't see why not ahead of time,knowing the forecast.
Author ExposedBrick Posted January 5, 2018 Author Posted January 5, 2018 Well if she cancels we don't know that cold weather would be her reason.I don't see why not ahead of time,knowing the forecast. I went ahead and proposed the netflix and order food option without specifying location to see if she what she wants to do. This way it gives her the option of still getting together regardless of weather or deciding location. 2
d0nnivain Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 I was going to suggest making it a multiple choice Q. say something like Just checking that we're still on for tomorrow. I'm OK with our original plan but in light of the brutally cold weather I'd be happy to bring dinner to your place or you could come to mine & then watch a movie or something. Up to you. Phrasing it so she has to be cold to come to you is actually worse then the implication that you only want early sex. The request for sex is arguably complimentary; the idea that she delivers & is the one who has to be inconvenienced is far more insulting. With the right outwear a walk even through a cold place can be tolerable. DH & I had theater tickets in NYC 2 years ago one weekend when it was -5F & colder with the wind chill. We went. It was fun warming each other up.
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