bmne90 Posted January 4, 2018 Posted January 4, 2018 So there's this girl in my college class that I've had a crush on for a while. We'd never talked/interacted before, but I think she knew about me, since I'm the only out-of-state student in our small class. Just the other day, she mustered up the courage and asked me where I'm from, since she had a project that requires her to interview someone from out of state. Being that I fulfilled the requirement, I gladly accepted her offer and asked for her number so that we could set up a meeting for the interview. We met up the next day to shoot the interview with two other members in her group. Once we were done and headed our separate ways, she texted me "thanks" and how much she appreciated me coming out on such short notice...even went as far as apologizing if it was too much trouble for me, but added that it was nice meeting me. We texted the whole night, and it seemed like she was thinking of things to talk to me about. When she talked about her favorite restaurant, I proceeded to ask if she'd like to go with me one day, since I've never been. But she replied that she's "really bad at showing people around", and talked about how many times she screwed up during the interview and how we might have to re-do some parts. Like, what?? And then she told me she was gonna go sleep and advised me to get some rest soon as well. The next day, nothing. No text, no.... nothing. I started wondering if I pushed the envelope too far or if I'm missing something here. Is she just being nice since she's appreciative of my help, or is this a no-brainer that she's interested? What's going on here?
lo3223 Posted January 4, 2018 Posted January 4, 2018 My quick, out of the box feeling? She isn't interested. She was simply being friendly. That being said, you DO need to be more specific with girls. Saying "Will you go with me to the restaurant one day?" in that context it was brought up can be ambiguous. My suggestion? Assuming the semester just started; I would wait until closer to the end of the semester and IF you are still into her I would ask her straight up IN PERSON for a date and set a solid plan. Obviously throughout the semester get to know her a little more (IN PERSON) and be a little flirty to gauge her response. I say wait til the end of the semester because in my experience when you start dating a classmate early on it can go south quickly because you are seeing each other almost every day and it kills things like momentum in mystery. 1
Maggie4 Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 Because you had a crush on her, you read into it things that weren't there. This is what happens when you think too much about someone. You perception is distorted. For example, you don't know that she had to "muster up courage" to ask you to do the project. She didn't want to go to the restaurant. I think that's your answer there. Maybe she has a boyfriend.
LilySun Posted January 5, 2018 Posted January 5, 2018 She does seem somewhat interested to carry on a casual texting conversation with him that night. But everything else just sounds friendly. So it's hard to know. I agree to just let some time go by and see if there continues to be casual talk.. And ask her out in person when it feels right.
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