LightNecro Posted January 4, 2018 Posted January 4, 2018 I have a huge crush on this lady I work with. She is 31 and I am 26. We work in a pharmacy and she is the pharmacist there. I am an intern with two years left before I graduate. Usually, I end up being with girls who aren't compatible with me, but when I'm around this person, she makes me feel happy and energized. I admire her brilliance, outgoing personality, how silly she is, and she's very pretty I feel like she might be flirting, but I can never tell. Her personality is very playful (almost kid like) and she is generally kind to everyone. But here are some signs that I think suggest otherwise: She's asked me if I'm single. Today we accidentally touched hands and she said "oh you're trying to hold my hand ;)". I accidentally bumped into her and she gave me a huge hug from behind and said "I didn't see you there." When she gave me a shot, she said I was more muscular than she expected. I feel like maybe I'm trying to invent reasons, but I also feel like there good be a chance. I wouldn't know the best way to approach this without being too blunt or creepy, and without creating awkwardness in the workplace.
Iseult Posted January 4, 2018 Posted January 4, 2018 Here's what I would do, and I'm totally being serious. You know those notes kids would pass to each other in class? Make one of those that says "I like you. Do you like me?", and on the bottom of course you'd make a check box for YES and NO. Depending on how well you know her and how risqué you want to get, you can add another checkbox that says "Not sure but I'll give you a handjob anyways". Just make sure she's cool with something like this. I think this is a fun way to show you like her and to gauge her interest in you. Good luck.
d0nnivain Posted January 4, 2018 Posted January 4, 2018 Cannot be done at this stage. She is your boss. Don't even try it. When your internship ends, ask if you can keep in touch. After you are no longer working for her, then you can ask her on a date just like you would ask any other woman. If you even attempt this now, she will reject you solely on the fact that you are a lowly intern & she already has a job. Wait until you don't work under her. At present if she agreed to date you, she'd be setting herself up for a claim of sexual harassment. Anybody with a brain won't do that. 1
smackie9 Posted January 4, 2018 Posted January 4, 2018 Try to get your internship somewhere else. Then ask her out. IMO her behavior is very unprofessional. There is friendly and then there is overly friendly with sexual undertones. She's over stepping her professional boundaries, and it's confusing you. This is not a good thing. I don't think you will last the two years as this starts to escalate.
CptInsano Posted January 4, 2018 Posted January 4, 2018 (edited) Try to get your internship somewhere else. Then ask her out. IMO her behavior is very unprofessional. There is friendly and then there is overly friendly with sexual undertones. She's over stepping her professional boundaries, and it's confusing you. This is not a good thing. I don't think you will last the two years as this starts to escalate. While I agree that it is somewhat unprofessional, it is also exceedingly common. I've been working for female bosses exclusively for the last seven years, and the tendency to overshare and be very friendly is pretty much the norm. It's not hard to understand why, because that behavior is common outside the workplace among people who trust each other. A woman touching your arm during a friendly chat means nothing. My last boss told me that she liked how my blue eyes matched blue shirts. That's fine, I simply bought a few more blue shirts to keep her happy. Was it appropriate that I worked out with one of my bosses? Maybe not, but that's what happens when you are friendly beyond a purely professional relationship. It doesn't signal any romantic interest, either. Edited January 4, 2018 by CptInsano 1
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