She thinks I don't deserve to be in her life cause it's bad. What do I do?

[Heartshattered2]

Been daiting this girl for a year and a half and in the past 2 months our relationship got bad cause her life as she says it, is depressing and she has a mother who controls it all and makes her mad and her life is miserable and going nowhere and that I shouldn't have to deal with any of it. And now she's pushing me away even tho I've seen the worst in her and never left her yet cause she's my all my life the best thing ever and I love her so much. And she's not trying to leave me cause she dosent love me she dose love me she just thinks her ****ty life isn't something I should have to deal with and tells me this will be her worst year yet and I'm not gonna like her mood swings. What do I do? I don't want to loose her

[mikeylo]

Give her space and don’t smother

[stillafool]

Yes walk away. I guarantee she doesn't mean what she is saying and will want you back. She's saying this because she doesn't really think you will walk away. Do it so she won't say this to you again when she knows you will.

[todreaminblue]

Its pretty common if you feel there's going to be a car crash and the one you love is standing in the traffic you will try your hardest push them out of it....just tell her you love her regardless and that you intend on staying......her family is not who she is or what makes you love her......tell her you will give her space when she needs it....but you are staying...so she might as well get used to it..........deb

[basil67]

You've changed the story. In this post http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/647204-she-can-t-even-breakup-me-person-all you say she ended it because she has feelings for someone else.

 

In this other post http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/646886-think-she-will-regret-leaving-come-back you also mention her caring for someone else AND you made big mistakes and there were a lot of fights.

 

I don't know where the current story fits in, but she's clearly checking out of the relationship. Time to let her go.

[d0nnivain]

It's one of two things:

 

1. She's a drama queen who wants you to make some sort of daily grand gesture to chase her & prove that you care. She should be avoided because she is refusing to take responsibility for her life & wants to be rescued. A partner with no problem solving skills of her own is no bargain.

 

2. She wants out for other reasons but is trying to sound noble about it to soften the blow of hurting you.

 

Either way no matter that you don't want to lose her. The choice may not be yours.

 

How old is she? If she's young enough that mom still controls things, then you have an insurmountable problem. If's she old enough that she should be independent of mom, but isn't her life will never change unless she has the wherewithal to change it. It doesn't sound like she is willing to make the effort. She'd rather wring her hands & cry whoa is me.