Mr Weir Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 fathom the actions of my ex g/f Post: 1 | Quote: My first posting! OK I would like a female viewpoint please. I split with my ex g/f 14 months ago and it ended in an unpleasant fashion. But I moved on by brushing the whole thing under the carpet. But in February she turned up and returned two books and some wine glasses. I'd forgotten she even had them! Barely a word was spoken and she took off. Then for 6 months....nothing. But then she texted me out of the blue. Initially wanting answers to "what when wrong" and that she was angry. She included her new house phone number as she'd moved ( I didn't phone her ) She also phoned for a brief chat. Anyway we fell out and the texts stopped. She actually has a b/f but apparently is an on-off saga. Curious she never mentioned him once in her texts. They bought a flat together but he didn't move in. Instead he lives 20 miles away! Now, my ex has a 4 year old son and the curious thing is that this house is 5 metres from a v busy road. Not the actions of a man who wants children in his life! ( but not my business I suppose ) We bump in to each other now and again and the atmosphere is v awkward ie love/ hate/passion and butterflies etc However we never speak The big question is; was she after closure has has she failed to let go bearing in mind her current relationship is obviously is bad nick. Help!
Merin Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 After 14 months of not being together it does seem odd that she would turn up again asking what went wrong.. My only conclusion would be when the relationship ended to begin with it wasn't her choice but yours and it would seem that while she went on about her life in meeting other people and obviously getting into another relationship, it seems she may have gotten into the currant relationship she has now as more of a rebound (from you) Her not telling you about her currant BF in my mind would be consistant with someone possibly wanting a second chance, as I've found when a person has a romantic interest in another they DO NOT mention a rival or someone else of interest to thier crush... Where it goes from here, I don't know.... Good Luck
m weir Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Thanks Merin I too think she's looking for a way back in. But the relationship was v hard work because she was a touch self-centred and hard to fathom. I don'y need all that hard work at my age! I just couldn't decide what she wanted.
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