python23 Posted January 2, 2018 Posted January 2, 2018 18 months ago I had 3 great dates with a girl, she was very keen and made plenty of effort and even asked me for a 4th date a few times, but it was right at the time I was buying my house, I had lots going on, including still not being fully over my ex so I never saw her again, to be honest I wasn't ready to date at the time so I should have been more honest with her but I didn't, so we never agreed to another date even though I said we'd arrange it, my fault entirely. anyway, since then my life is stress free, my minds clearer, I know what I want especially in women and I've never been in a better position to date. I have continued to interact with this girl on social media, we've liked each others post etc and I've messaged her a few times, which just leads to a short conversation and thats it, around 4 months after our dates I explained my situation at the time and asked her out again and she said you're a lovely guy but too much times gone on and I'm seeing someone now. so I respected that and left it there, I then dated someone else which didn't work out and now I'm single again. so early December I went for it and after a bit of small talk I asked her out again and she said she would definitely take me up on the offer but was busy for the following two weeks to which I said thats absolutely fine. then after two weeks she then said I'm sorry but I don't think il be free till after Christmas now so again I accepted. so I wished her a happy Christmas on Christmas Eve and she replied the day after asking how my day was going. then again, she replied to me the day after asking if I was enjoying my time off. of course I replied but I haven't heard from her since. so im currently torn between asking her how her new year was then asking her again when she's free or waiting for her to get back to me. I expect her to play hard to get it was me that messed up. what would you do? what do you think she's thinking?
Miss Spider Posted January 2, 2018 Posted January 2, 2018 (edited) Edit: I'm sorry I missed where you said that you asked her out again before and she declined I think you missed your shot. I'm sorry. Oh well, it happens. Edited January 2, 2018 by Cookiesandough
SpinScratch Posted January 2, 2018 Posted January 2, 2018 Who really know what she's thinking.... maybe she doesn't even know what she's thinking. But I say go for it, what do you really have to lose? Just text her and tell her you want to see her again and get a straight answer from her.
Miss Spider Posted January 2, 2018 Posted January 2, 2018 Be honest, did you just want to go out with this girl again after seeing she was seeing someone new on social media? And sorry I missed something else. You asked her out again after she said she was seeing someone and she agreed but is lukewarm. Hmmm. She sounds like she's moved on but I agree with spinscratch. Just ask her once more then leave it at that.
Author python23 Posted January 2, 2018 Author Posted January 2, 2018 Be honest, did you just want to go out with this girl again after seeing she was seeing someone new on social media? And sorry I missed something else. You asked her out again after she said she was seeing someone and she agreed but is lukewarm. Hmmm. She sounds like she's moved on but I agree with spinscratch. Just ask her once more then leave it at that. I've never seen her on social media with some else. we dated in may 2016, I then explained and asked her out in September 2016. and finally again in December 17, after months of social media interactions. I'm wanting to see her again because we had a great time and I can truly see how much of a great girl she is, I just wasn't mentally ready to date seriously so you could say it was bad timing. ive text her tonight anyway, like you said, what have I got to lose? I personally think she's just seeing how long I chase her before going out with me. I could just be doing this to rope her back in for all she knows, thats not the case, she's a great girl and I think about her a lot.
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