avoforastig Posted January 1, 2018 Posted January 1, 2018 I am trying to plan(and overthinking) a third date. The first date was drinks. The second date was dinner, drinks, and went back to her place for a movie(which turned into a steamy makeout). The second date was on a Thursday, but we both had the day off the next day. She is into art and there is an art gallery having an event with drinks on this upcoming Thursday, which would be a somewhat unique date. However, it wouldn't allow for a very long date. I have a party I have to go to on Saturday. Should I propose the art event or hold out for a possibly longer Friday date?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 1, 2018 Posted January 1, 2018 I am trying to plan(and overthinking) a third date. The first date was drinks. The second date was dinner, drinks, and went back to her place for a movie(which turned into a steamy makeout). The second date was on a Thursday, but we both had the day off the next day. She is into art and there is an art gallery having an event with drinks on this upcoming Thursday, which would be a somewhat unique date. However, it wouldn't allow for a very long date. I have a party I have to go to on Saturday. Should I propose the art event or hold out for a possibly longer Friday date? Definitely the art date. There's no reason you can't go for a drink or something after the event. 2
bachdude Posted January 1, 2018 Posted January 1, 2018 I am trying to plan(and overthinking) a third date. The first date was drinks. The second date was dinner, drinks, and went back to her place for a movie(which turned into a steamy makeout). The second date was on a Thursday, but we both had the day off the next day. She is into art and there is an art gallery having an event with drinks on this upcoming Thursday, which would be a somewhat unique date. However, it wouldn't allow for a very long date. I have a party I have to go to on Saturday. Should I propose the art event or hold out for a possibly longer Friday date? I’m in the arts, a classical musician, and it sounds like a decent idea. There are a lot of different types of art out there, from more traditional to avante guarde “conceptual art”. Do you know what will be at the gallery?
Author avoforastig Posted January 1, 2018 Author Posted January 1, 2018 Definitely the art date. There's no reason you can't go for a drink or something after the event. I was concerned the date would be too short or we wouldn't have an opportunity to get more intimate. I'd like things to continue to get more intimate but I'm afraid we'll be too restricted on time if its a weeknight, even though I have to work on Saturday and have Friday off, due to my weird work schedule. I live pretty close to the art gallery, I could invite her to my place afterwards?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 1, 2018 Posted January 1, 2018 I was concerned the date would be too short or we wouldn't have an opportunity to get more intimate. I'd like things to continue to get more intimate but I'm afraid we'll be too restricted on time if its a weeknight, even though I have to work on Saturday and have Friday off, due to my weird work schedule. I live pretty close to the art gallery, I could invite her to my place afterwards? If the vibe is right, absolutely. Make sure to have a wine she likes on hand . She's already been there once so if she likes you, it's likely she will go for it again. And maybe you'll get a date Thursday AND Friday out of it that way.
Author avoforastig Posted January 1, 2018 Author Posted January 1, 2018 If the vibe is right, absolutely. Make sure to have a wine she likes on hand . She's already been there once so if she likes you, it's likely she will go for it again. And maybe you'll get a date Thursday AND Friday out of it that way. we went to her place, not mine, on the second date. The art event ends at 830, what is a good excuse to get her to my place? order takeout? netflix and chill?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 1, 2018 Posted January 1, 2018 we went to her place, not mine, on the second date. The art event ends at 830, what is a good excuse to get her to my place? order takeout? netflix and chill? Coming up with an "excuse" is creepy and sends the message that all you want is to get into her pants without regard for what she wants/is ready for. Simply ask her if she wants to because her desires matter too here. 2
Miss Spider Posted January 1, 2018 Posted January 1, 2018 You don't need a reason. Just ask her if she wants to come over 1
Iseult Posted January 2, 2018 Posted January 2, 2018 Art gallery. It's the not the length of time spent together that matters, but the quality of it. 1
Author avoforastig Posted January 3, 2018 Author Posted January 3, 2018 You don't need a reason. Just ask her if she wants to come over I texted her a link to the event's website last night about 930 pm and asked if she wanted to go but I haven't heard back yet and its been almost a full 24 hours. She was out of town visiting friends in NYC over the weekend and imagine she is busy trying to get into the swing of things at work after all the holidays. However, the event is Thursday. I didn't state it was Thursday, I assumed she would look at the link for details. What should I do?
staggerlee71 Posted January 3, 2018 Posted January 3, 2018 Art gallery great idea. But whoa on the lets go back to my place at 830. go for a drink first and then back to your place later that is if you don't talk her out of it first!! Looks good for you,,,have fun
heavenonearth Posted January 3, 2018 Posted January 3, 2018 Art gallery. It's the not the length of time spent together that matters, but the quality of it. THIS. It's not like it will be the last time you see her (hopefully). Even if the date is somewhat short, maybe the next one will be longer.. Also, what's the rush getting into her pants? Relax. 1
Author avoforastig Posted January 3, 2018 Author Posted January 3, 2018 I texted her a link to the event's website last night about 930 pm and asked if she wanted to go but I haven't heard back yet and its been almost a full 24 hours. She was out of town visiting friends in NYC over the weekend and imagine she is busy trying to get into the swing of things at work after all the holidays. However, the event is Thursday. I didn't state it was Thursday, I assumed she would look at the link for details. What should I do? should I send her another text? I kind of just want to know so I can go with someone else if she can't make it.
Miss Spider Posted January 3, 2018 Posted January 3, 2018 should I send her another text? I kind of just want to know so I can go with someone else if she can't make it. My opinion is to not send another text because she got the first one and if she were interested she would respond. Set the other plans and if she gets back reschedule for the other day you were thinking 1
Author avoforastig Posted January 3, 2018 Author Posted January 3, 2018 My opinion is to not send another text because she got the first one and if she were interested she would respond. Set the other plans and if she gets back reschedule for the other day you were thinking hmmm, I don't know what to think now. She seemed very interested up to this point, argh!! How do you usually handle these situations? Give the person 24 hours, then make other plans if they don't respond? 1
Art_Critic Posted January 3, 2018 Posted January 3, 2018 Art gallery then on to your place to show her your etchings
heavenonearth Posted January 3, 2018 Posted January 3, 2018 why not take her to the party on sat? Personally, these kind of outings could be problematic. for example, if OPs friends are all there... third date meeting all the friends at once? I find that super too fast moving. I am with my BF for 7 months and we are just now starting to introduce our friends to each other... 1
Author avoforastig Posted January 3, 2018 Author Posted January 3, 2018 Personally, these kind of outings could be problematic. for example, if OPs friends are all there... third date meeting all the friends at once? I find that super too fast moving. I am with my BF for 7 months and we are just now starting to introduce our friends to each other... I asked her to the art gallery.. but she never replied
Miss Spider Posted January 3, 2018 Posted January 3, 2018 (edited) I would not wait 24 hours for someone to agree to go on a date with me. It's not normal or how interested people act. The only explanation would be if you made them wait 48 hours before and they were trying to get back at you or a life threatening matter occurred in which case the date would be off anyway. A person should respond in a few hours max if interested. Closer to a few minutes.. JMO Edited January 3, 2018 by Cookiesandough
heavenonearth Posted January 3, 2018 Posted January 3, 2018 I asked her to the art gallery.. but she never replied Weird, if I were you I'd just wait to see if she still replies. Maybe something was up. If she doesn't get in touch, just go alone to the event. I like going to art galleries alone. Much nicer to take it all in without having to wait on anyone.
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