Author confused05 Posted August 23, 2005 Author Posted August 23, 2005 Thats what i plan on doing when she leaves to give me my space, im just going to keep to myself and if she contacts me she does if not oh well. Its going to be so hard and im going to be thinking a million and 2 things but i gotta do this. it stinks esp knowing shes probaly going to leave after this weekend to start this whole time to herself break, I know when shes out doing her thing she will be ok but i just hope it hits her when shes home tired from work and has school in the morning and has to sit in her bed by herself instead of in the living room of her own place with my company that it really hits her and makes her miss what she has. and really realize that it is good and shes not willing to loose / pass it up i really do.
orto Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Confused, I'm at the exact stage you are my friend. I have to try my complete hardest not to contact my ex. She says she stilll cares for me and loves me, which I do believe, but for a reason men can not understand. Women just need space, it's that simple. I gave my ex alot of space and we only saw each other maybe once a week, but I guess that got to be too much for her. She is a busy person with school and work, and she gave me a 6 month waiting period. I can think of alot of things WE can do to fix our relationship in a week tops, but I'm going to lay off, and give her what she wants. When she does decide that shes ready to be with me again, im going to lay down ground rules.
Author confused05 Posted August 23, 2005 Author Posted August 23, 2005 Man that sux. I feel you should be able to work through stuff like this and not need breaks. I told my girl look everytime u see a happy couple it doesnt mean they dont have these moments it means that they work through them instead of taking the easy way out and saying yeah its not working see ya. If its worth it which ive said before you work for it and ive told her i feel shes so worth it but I guess she doenst feel the same. She says she doesnt think she can do better she just needs time to clear her head and think about stuff. I wish she would just share what she needs to think about instead of keeping to herself.
orto Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 I wish my ex would share what's wrong with her as well. I wish this made sense, i really did. I pray that someday I can understand why she does this.
alphamale Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Originally posted by orto I mean do women need not to be given whatever they want to remain happy? basically you are correct ORTO. a strong man will be somewhat selfish and keep himself happy first and worry about his woman second. this is what women want. they want a man. don't listen to what women say they want cause its all bullkrap.... the key, as a man, is to do what YOU want most of the time no matter how much she bitches and moans...
orto Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 So should I try and contact her and tell her that this is all not worth it? That this whole "break" thing is totally uncessary ?
Author confused05 Posted August 23, 2005 Author Posted August 23, 2005 I really dont see a break usefull, you either no or you dont. I dont get it. SH|T or get off the pot. giving me hope and me waiting and thinking sucks.
Author confused05 Posted August 23, 2005 Author Posted August 23, 2005 Just giving it a bump looking to see some more opinions.. Also update : supposely shes moving out but went food shoping for the house tonight? I dont get it and also asked if she could go get a drink with her friend as if I could say no? so confused!
upsetnhurt Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Guys.....a break is technically a BREAKUP! You are no longer together and I assure you that what you once had with your significant other will never be again. That does not mean it can't get better yet both parties have to want that. What your ex's are attempting to do is to hold you on the backburner (sitting and hoping) while they both go out and experience other aspects of life (ie..men). Don't wait for the moment that they say they can't see getting back together with you....just move on and live your life. Don't you both want to be with someone who loves you as much as you do them?
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