Have I gotten over him yet?

[Ufo1205]

I broke up with my ex officially 6 months ago. It was a vicious relationship when I was always the one who made the effort while he was always making excuses for doing nothing. We were working in the same place and NO ONE KNEW about our relationship though we had met each other's family. He did mention the wedding several times then now i felt so ridiculous 'cause he had never ever done anything for our future. He used to cheat on his ex, sleep with a prostitute and gamble sometimes. He has a modest manner and not many ppl knows about his real personality. At first i was hesitated because I thought we would never match but dont know why i still felt in luv with him. At the beginning he treated me like a queen then gradually he lost his interest. I found out he gambled every week, his friends dragged him to parties all nights and he even asked me to help him with his tasks at work. In the final stage of the relationship, he made a confession to me that since we were together, he lost all motivation to work because I was too good at everything and he wouldn't have to worry about anything, house stuff, making money etc. Definitely he lost all of my respect and i deciced to stop. But it was such a difficult time for me. I was crying every night for about 3 months, suffering from terrible headache and all of the nightmares. But i did all the things to overcome, i went travel a lot, took care of my appearance and play new sport. 3 months passed by, i got a new job offer and became a staff in a university. Then during some extracurriculum activities which I was in charged, i had some kinds of romantic things with 2 of my male students. One of them texted me a lot, bought me breakfast every day and even asked me to visit his family for xmas (but i refused). The other was less enthusiastic but he gave me a present for xmas and asked me out sometimes. Im not in charged of their classes but they are still students in the faculty. They are both extremely hot and cute ( especially compared to my ex). The thing is that im still thinking of my ex all the time. Idk if im still in luv because i have no respect for him anymore as i said before. But all the things in the pass still hurt me alot and i cannot forget any little detail of the relationship. I still cry a lot and cannot focus on my current life.

I dont know how to forget the bad guy and start a new chapter of my life.

Thank u for reading and pls give me some advice.

[Akashsingh]

I broke up with my ex officially 6 months ago. It was a vicious relationship when I was always the one who made the effort while he was always making excuses for doing nothing. We were working in the same place and NO ONE KNEW about our relationship though we had met each other's family. He did mention the wedding several times then now i felt so ridiculous 'cause he had never ever done anything for our future. He used to cheat on his ex, sleep with a prostitute and gamble sometimes. He has a modest manner and not many ppl knows about his real personality. At first i was hesitated because I thought we would never match but dont know why i still felt in luv with him. At the beginning he treated me like a queen then gradually he lost his interest. I found out he gambled every week, his friends dragged him to parties all nights and he even asked me to help him with his tasks at work. In the final stage of the relationship, he made a confession to me that since we were together, he lost all motivation to work because I was too good at everything and he wouldn't have to worry about anything, house stuff, making money etc. Definitely he lost all of my respect and i deciced to stop. But it was such a difficult time for me. I was crying every night for about 3 months, suffering from terrible headache and all of the nightmares. But i did all the things to overcome, i went travel a lot, took care of my appearance and play new sport. 3 months passed by, i got a new job offer and became a staff in a university. Then during some extracurriculum activities which I was in charged, i had some kinds of romantic things with 2 of my male students. One of them texted me a lot, bought me breakfast every day and even asked me to visit his family for xmas (but i refused). The other was less enthusiastic but he gave me a present for xmas and asked me out sometimes. Im not in charged of their classes but they are still students in the faculty. They are both extremely hot and cute ( especially compared to my ex). The thing is that im still thinking of my ex all the time. Idk if im still in luv because i have no respect for him anymore as i said before. But all the things in the pass still hurt me alot and i cannot forget any little detail of the relationship. I still cry a lot and cannot focus on my current life.

I dont know how to forget the bad guy and start a new chapter of my life.

Thank u for reading and pls give me some advice.

 

Sounded like the girl I worked with until I read you got the job at the university.

[bluecastle]

Getting over someone is a long, complicated process with no timeline. I think accepting that is the first step toward being comfortable with whatever you're going through.

 

Whenever you feel frustrated about still having feelings, just take a deep breath and remind yourself of that: these feelings are a phase that will pass. Don't get angry with yourself for feeling them, don't try to pretend you're not feeling whatever you're feeling, and don't try to suppress them through hiding out in other people. Just feel it all and listen to the feelings—there are lessons there. When you can start being grateful for what you've learned and are learning you'll find more peace.

[clam]

I’m not sure whether or not you are over your ex, but I CAN offer you one piece of solid advice:

 

DO NOT GET ROMANTICALLY INVOLVED WITH STUDENTS when you are faculty.

 

Talk about a career killer...