Author SpinScratch Posted January 1, 2018 Author Posted January 1, 2018 I am a 32 year old virgin. The only reason I stayed a virgin was because I was in an on again off again relationship with a guy for ten years who didn't want sex. He is literally the only guy I've ever been out with, it's not like I've had tons of options. He's been out of my life for almost 3 years and I'm STILL single & sexless. Not a single date of any kind. I'm totally not the clingy type at all. Nor am I inhibited, sexually speaking. So don't go by those stereotypes. wow a ten year relationship with no sex... that deserves its own thread
Miss Spider Posted January 1, 2018 Posted January 1, 2018 I was one. It's like dating anyone else. Except the first time together is a lot more a awkward and a lot of pushing and pulling away 1
fireflyingaway Posted January 1, 2018 Posted January 1, 2018 I was 23 when I had sex for the first time. I hadn't really put myself out there and I didn't meet anyone I wanted to have sex with or felt a connection until I met my first "adult" boyfriend. It took us about eight weeks of dating (we were exclusive by then) before we had sex together. I was with him for almost two years, but I realized after a while that he wasn't the right one for me and that I needed to date other people. Experience things for myself. If you're 34, I'd be aware of that. My ex was older and he was set that I was the "one", but me with little experience...I realized that I needed to explore other things. I never have regretted the decision to walk away.
SevenCity Posted January 1, 2018 Posted January 1, 2018 Yeah loyalty... The one thing Ive never really had from a woman. If I take this girls virginity and we hit it off... I'd probably die for her, with that level of loyalty. Even if the sex isnt up to par. For once that would be only mine and I would kill for her. Maybe its just a myth. We'll see. Don’t be assume she’ll be loyal. Assume she won’t be until she proves otherwise. I’ve dated very few loyal women. And I don’t mean they cheated, but they were not loyal to the relationship and can bolt at anytime.
Miss Spider Posted January 1, 2018 Posted January 1, 2018 Truly if you're her first once she conquers that summit she may get an itch to go out and sow her oats afterwards. See what else is out there. It could go any way. I would start talking about death pacts and bloods oaths yet
justwhoiam Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 Hi SpinScratch, I think there are no set rules. Being a virgin doesn't necessarily mean being clumsy. When I was a virgin, I had around 17 months of dating and making out (and oral sex) with my boyfriend, before getting to intercourse. But I was younger than this girl you mentioned. So it made sense for me. I have always had high sex drive, in general. I've only had intercourse with 3 guys my whole life, in 26 years being sexually active. And maybe that will be till my last day. That's pretty below usual standards regarding the number of partners, I guess. This apparent lack of experience in bed (as in not being with many men) didn't affect my pleasuring skills. Men didn't have to teach me much, other than their personal preference about being touched a certain way. All the rest just came natural. I don't feel inhibited, I just don't like being looked at while naked and I prefer flesh to toys. I've always been pretty open to do it wherever (car, movie theater, balcony, underwater, you name it), as long as it involves just me and him (no orgies/threesome, or swinging). So don't be prejudiced. You'll only know what it is like by being with her. The risk is if you feel she's not a match. She's been holding out so far for that guy who's serious with her. And if it doesn't work, it'll be a real low blow for her.
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