Final Heaven Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 To make long story short. I met this girl at work, I am 23 and she is 2 years my junior. Well she isn' the only one but a few others, it just so happen she was the nearest to me just like 5 steps away from my desk. At first I didn't really notice her until somehow she just came forth when I was having a conversation with another colleague, and somehow she and I managed to start a conversation. Alot of guys in my work place tell me she looks hot and she is one of the most attractive girl at my workplace. At first I didn't find her very attractive, but then after talking to her for sometime my perception of her changed. Apparently girls like these one the ones alot of guys would go after, and I have met quite a few others like her. So I just thought to myself and kept it cool, while our friendship progressed. Everything progressed faster then I expected, a few days and we were like we known each other before. We talked and joke about lots of stuff, and at some point she would just talk about sex then she would just tease me in a joking manner. It's like there wasn't any barrier between us conversation wise, so anything goes. Sometimes when we are talking and another colleague of mine says something she would just grab my hand, or she would just put her mobile into my pocket when she goes to the washroom and when she comes back she just put her hands into my pocket and take her mobile out. Sometimes I would just said jokingly that I lost her mobile and she would start searching all over in both my pockets and always finally we will just end up laughing among ourselves. I know this is a form of flirting but people flirt all the time so I thought it was nothing new. Anyway I decided to ask her out for lunch one day to see if she was still single and she told me she would be meeting her boyfriend for lunch sort of answered my question. After that ever since I never asked her out to lunch again. Then one day she asked me what time I would be going for my lunch and I asked her why. She aswered maybe we could go for lunch together, so I thought to myself well ok. I was thinking to myself then what happened to her boyfriend? Soon after hey boyfriend came earlier then expected and they both went out. When she came back I was leaving for lunch and she asked me where I was going for lunch so I just told her where I was going and she just ask how I was going, and then she just kept silent after that. Things went on normally until she asked me one day if I was free to accompany her for her next work interview. I didn't quite give her a exact reply so I just said err sure if I am free on that day. Which get me thinking what does she want from me? She has a boyfriend, and from what I see both of them are getting on fine so why does she ask me to accompany her instead of her boyfriend. Why does she ask me if I was free for lunch when she is already going of with her boyfriend for lunch? I don't even know what I should do or say now. I am taking precaution regarding this because I know the outcome of this kinda things. I have met girls like these before where they flirt,tease and get you thinking that they like you just so they can keep you as their rebound tool or personal attention giver. There was once where I liked this particular girl and I thought we were made for each other just to find out later she wasn't looking for anything more then someone to fill in for the time her boyfriend couldn't. Because of this I am more cautious now, but I am still confused. Any help or pointers on what I should do would be greatly appreciated.
fadi20 Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Your thinking is more than your age. You have think-ed it well. Your understanding for such kind of girls makes you alert. It is very good if you maintain a cool relation with her, and be friendly but with extra careness from falling in her net. Keep it up man Regards
totallyconfused Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 i defenitely agree with you and fadi. this girl sounds like she is playing games, trying to see how far she can take it with u all the while she has a bf. she is defenitely confused. she may have feelings for you and obviously unsure of her bf now. who wants that kind of a girl anyways? she obviously does not have the respect to not touch/flirt with other men when she is obviously taken. that just goes to show, she may do that to you if u were in a relationship. since she is 21, i bet that... she has been with her boyfriend now for 3-4 years and she is having those 4 year doubts kinda deal. females at that age with LTR often become fickle and start to think what else is out there, blah blah blah. either way if she has been in a LTR or not, she is obviously not ready for another relationship so quickly. its hard, IME, i've been there and done that - been the doubter and the doubted. Be EXTREMELY careful and keep your heart guarded or else she will walk all over you. As a chick thats played some of her games before, get outta there fast.
Author Final Heaven Posted August 23, 2005 Author Posted August 23, 2005 Yeah I am trying not to fall into her net, but sometimes there comes a time where you see the net and you willingly jump into it. Thats the thing I am trying to avoid now. There is another problem I am facing now is I ain't sure what I even want. I don't know if I want something more then friendship from her or just plain being friends. If I do what should I do instead and if I don't how else do I carry on? Thanks for the headups. It's greatly appreciated.
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