ThisisIt606 Posted December 29, 2017 Posted December 29, 2017 I met a guy off a dating app. He let me know he would be away for xmas but would text me when he returned so we could hang out. We also discovered we lived about a 5 min walk from each other with him being in the city’s newest apt building. He texted me to hang out last night and we went to a local bar for a drink and appetizer. He said it’s rare he gets out of work at a decent hour (his company usually buys employees dinner as they have to stay late to help clients). So he was happy he was able to meet me. Conversation flowed easily as he seemed very relaxed, friendly and funny which made me feel the same. I’ve been on enough dates by now that I can tell within the first 5 minutes if there is any attraction. I was definitely physically attracted to him and liked his personality. We each had 1 drink and shared an appetizer. I reached for my wallet to pay but he told me he had this and I thanked him. He asked if I wanted to stop by his apt for a tour of the lounge areas and I agreed. He showed me the lobby, fitness center, and other amenities. Normally this would be a “who cares/this is weird” moment, BUT this is the new building that I could see from my apt and all the phases of construction , I’ve walked by and it looked SO nice I’ve been wanting to go in for the longest time to explore- he knew this. He said we can go to the roofdeck (indoor portion- it was frigid out!) to have a glass of wine and he’d pick up a bottle in his apartment. Entering his apt, I met one of (he has 2) female roommates and her date. She was very friendly and told him that the place was clean, so to give me a tour of all the rooms. We did quickly and then left with the wine and glasses for the roof deck. He gave me a quick walk around tour as you could see the entire city. Other residents were up there giving a tour to their guests. One person was also at the desks working/studying so it wasn’t completely empty. We watched some TV and cuddled on the couch, talked and eventually made out. We then moved to the otherside of this wall so we couldn’t be seen and made out some more/heavy petting. Nothing too intense as this was still an open space. He asked if I wanted to stay over or head home and I said I think I should head home. I told him he had to be up early for work anyways, plus I live so close, I can easily just go home. He seemed disappointed but said OK. We cuddled a bit more and finshed watching the TV show. It was getting late and I was getting tired so we brought the glasses down to his apt and then he walked me down to the main lobby/ exit. At the exit he asked if I could get home OK and said he’d normally walk me all the way home, but it was too cold (reasonable as it’s actual artic wind/temperatures and he wasn't wearing a jacket at this point) . I told him it was no problem and he said mult times he wanted to keep in touch. I told him that sounded good and I would like that too. We kissed and wished each other a goodnight and I walked home. Should I wait for him to reach out? Or go ahead and message him about trying one of the restaurants/places of interest we talked about? Also during the date I told him my NYE plans but they since got canceled (my friend had a family emergency). During the date, he confirmed that I would be away Sun/Mon as if he was trying to figure out my availability. Should I let him know that my plans got canceled and I will be in the city?
perpdartNY Posted December 29, 2017 Posted December 29, 2017 Lolol is this what girls do when they really like a guy? My last date I was really relaxed and kinda just closing my eyes. She asked me if I'm falling asleep and don't I have work tmrw early in the morning. Then I asked her if she's kicking me out jokingly and did get up and say I do have to wake up early. Anyway!!! I think you should totally reach out. It's damn nice to know that the other person is interested. Especially since he might have felt that you rejected his advance of sleeping together. I would perceive that as she's not interested. Why do people like to play so many games x_x do they really work?
Chilli Posted December 29, 2017 Posted December 29, 2017 Is that the norm these days perp. See someone on an app , next minute you meet, next minute same night your in the sack together? Don't think l'd be too impressed if all l had to do was turn on a bita charm and crack a few jokes to get her in the sack a few hours later. So op l wouldn't call that rejection at all , more like no thanks l'm not that easy and l'd respect the hell outa that. Anyway if he's genuinely interested you should hear form him before long for sure but eh, people do so much bs these days , who knows but it won't hurt for you to say hello anyway if you don't he sure won't mind if he is. Good luck with things 1
Maggie4 Posted December 29, 2017 Posted December 29, 2017 Ok so he did not text you to see if you got home ok, and he has not texted you today. Will he text you by tomorrow? I don't know. If you text him first, my guess is 70% chance he will reply. If you don't text him, my guess is only 50% chance you'll hear from him again. The numbers are low because people from online disappear mysteriously, even when dates seem to have gone well. 1
Author ThisisIt606 Posted December 29, 2017 Author Posted December 29, 2017 Ok so he did not text you to see if you got home ok, and he has not texted you today. Will he text you by tomorrow? I don't know. If you text him first, my guess is 70% chance he will reply. If you don't text him, my guess is only 50% chance you'll hear from him again. The numbers are low because people from online disappear mysteriously, even when dates seem to have gone well. Yeah, I agree with those rough percentages. I've noticed a downward trend in these online dating situations over the years, where people get lazier and generally more "eh oh well" if someone doesn't take initiative. He took a good amount of initiative last night, but was it all sex motivated, maybe? Not sure yet… I'm thinking of messaging tomorrow, seeing if he replies to that and then asking if he wants to go to this specific restaurant (one I told him about/he seemed excited about it).
Chilli Posted December 29, 2017 Posted December 29, 2017 Must admit , maggies right , forgot to mention the going home thing. l was surprised he let you go alone and didn't at least check later or next morning you got home alright and to thank you for the nice night and stuff. Could be the one trick monkey which just means it was all about getting you in the sack after the show but oh well, if you don't hear from him and wanna say hello , up to you. Don't think l'd expect much though if it comes to that.
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