Best NEWS EVER! Yay!

[AT15]

So, a few days ago I got back on Tinder. I met two hot guys on there last year. One of which, I really liked. We hung out, I waited 3 months to sleep with him, it was superb, I liked him even more after that. So, I suggested we either move toward something real or cancel this. His words said sure, but his actions said no.

 

Anyhow, when he didn't reply to two of texts, I was seriously bummed out. It wasn't love at first sight with him, more like impressed with his education and career and fantasized about things working out.

 

So, today I saw his pic on Tinder! Yay! Lol. He's just a Tinder junky F-boy.

 

For months I thought I was not good enough for some reason. I was seriously pained by his ghosting me. Now. I know it's him. Yay!

 

Happy New Year to me :-D!

[Steve51]

The best news would be if you stopped looking for guys on a hookup site like Tinder. That would be good news indeed and a better future for you. What kind of guys do you think use tinder? Why can't you meet guys in traditional ways?

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

I'm not at all following the logic here......

[AT15]

Ok. I didn't know Tinder was a hook up site. I was told the guys were better looking on this site so I logged on for the first time a year ago for only 3weeks. Met two guys. The first was very young and a " hook up" was ok with me. But the second guy, I thought had more than just hook up potential.

 

Yes, that was my mistake.

 

I'm on Tinder now because I'm bored and want to look at cuties again. I'm not looking for a twin flame.

[AT15]

And to be honest a lot of these guys on ANY dating site just want a hook up.

[AT15]

The best news would be if you stopped looking for guys on a hookup site like Tinder. That would be good news indeed and a better future for you. What kind of guys do you think use tinder? Why can't you meet guys in traditional ways?

 

 

 

Why? I'm a single mother who has a start up. I don't frequent the night scene.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Why? I'm a single mother who has a start up. I don't frequent the night scene.

 

I think meeting people online IS "a traditional way" nowadays!

[grays]

I have no idea what you mean here. You have determined that hes just a f-boy bc you saw him on tinder??? What does that make you?

 

I was on tinder for a solid 2 1/2 years. I'm not a f-boy.

[HumanMachine]

Oh dear.. looks for something more than a hookup on tinder, gets ghosted when pushes for a relationship then gets upset when you see the guy still on tinder months later.

 

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[fieldoflavender]

why does tinder get such a bad rep? There are people on there who are looking for serious relationships who just like the swipe thing. I met my nightmare ex on a "legit paying" dating website and met my previous ex to that through friends. Meh?

 

You just have to screen a bit more since tinder has less info re: intentions, but just be smart.

[AT15]

Oh dear.. looks for something more than a hookup on tinder, gets ghosted when pushes for a relationship then gets upset when you see the guy still on tinder months later.

 

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No. I am.not upset to see him on Tinder.

 

Here is some back story:

In 2001, I met my ex husband. I was 21. We were together until 2013. The marriage went sexless in 2010. It killed my self esteem. In the midst of my depression, I reconnected with a "friend" and we ended up getting into a serious two year relationship right after I left my ex husband.

 

Not allowing myself to heal from the breakdown of the marriage and long relationship was a very big mistake on my.end. I was just looking to fill what I felt was unfilled

 

I was also very naive and in a bubble for 12 years. I went from living with my mother to living with my ex husband, to living with my serious boyfriend.

 

So, in the fall 2015, when I found myself completely single and living alone. It was the first time since I was 21 with no adult dating experience.

 

I'm not opposed to just hook ups. But, i don't like sleeping around.

 

This guy could be a normal.man who just was not interested in a relationship with me. I can accept that. But, seeing him on Tinder again, and no other dating site I've been on, gives me the impression that he is a tool.

 

Being in a sexless marriage f'd me up a bit. But I'm.working on putting the pieces back together.

Edited December 29, 2017 by AT15

[HumanMachine]

How is he a tool? He’s on tinder to hook up and declined your suggestion of making it serious.

[AT15]

How is he a tool?

 

Me: it seems that you just want to keep this at a hook up level. I've started to like you more than just that. I say we just end this before things get weird.

 

Him: what?! No. I never said this is just a hook up. I've been traveling for work and I text you where ever I am. Your the one who is always busy. Let's talk about this in person.

 

Me: okay, sure.

 

We hang out one.more time then he ghosts me. That's a tool in my book.

 

I don't think every person on Tinder is a tool. But he is.

[grays]

I'm still confused about what it meant to you that he was on tinder when you went back. And how it would have been different if you had seen him on other dating sites as well?

[AT15]

I'm still confused about what it meant to you that he was on tinder when you went back. And how it would have been different if you had seen him on other dating sites as well?

 

 

I could be wrong. But, I get the feeling that he is a panty chaser.

 

Why it matters to.me? I don't.know. I definitely have the habit of being attracted to unavailable men. I felt I was honest and upfront with my intentions. He could have been like, I'm not wanting that with you. I would have moved along.

 

But, his protest (words) were different. It's not a huge deal. But, the fact that he's on Timder again made me feel better about the way things went down.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

I could be wrong. But, I get the feeling that he is a panty chaser.

 

Why it matters to.me? I don't.know. I definitely have the habit of being attracted to unavailable men. I felt I was honest and upfront with my intentions. He could have been like, I'm not wanting that with you. I would have moved along.

 

But, his protest (words) were different. It's not a huge deal. But, the fact that he's on Timder again made me feel better about the way things went down.

 

So, this is a case of, "Ha! I was right!"

 

Is this correct?

[grays]

If what you're saying is that you genuinely feel ok or better about it, that's a good thing.

 

The fact that he was on tinder again, though, really doesn't make him a tool or a panty chaser. You were also on tinder, after all, so you can imagine that good people can end up there.

[AT15]

If what you're saying is that you genuinely feel ok or better about it, that's a good thing.

 

The fact that he was on tinder again, though, really doesn't make him a tool or a panty chaser. You were also on tinder, after all, so you can imagine that good people can end up there.

 

So true. It definitely doesn't mean that. My feelings were really hurt by his actions.

[Robert]

All - "Vacations" will be handed out for members who continue to go against the Civility & Respect Community Guidelines (LoveShack.org: Community Guidelines) <-- posted here for anyone who needs a reminder.

 

Please feel free to give useful advice to the OP.

 

Thanks,

 

~ V