Heartshattered2 Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 My gf had a decision between me and another guy. We dated 1.5 years and she caught feelings for another guy and needed time to decide. Well she decided and is avoiding telling me even tho the signs are there she's breaking up with me. She keeps avoiding seeing me in person to tell me and after a year and a half together. She Has not said officially were done but knows her answer and refuses to tell me at all not even in text or phone call. What dose that say about her?
elaine567 Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 My gf had a decision between me and another guy. We dated 1.5 years and she caught feelings for another guy and needed time to decide. Well she decided and is avoiding telling me even tho the signs are there she's breaking up with me. She keeps avoiding seeing me in person to tell me and after a year and a half together. She Has not said officially were done but knows her answer and refuses to tell me at all not even in text or phone call. What dose that say about her? No idea. It does however say quite a lot about you. If someone you are dating catches feelings for someone else, it is time to say Bye Bye, not wait around for them to make a decision... 3
Nilfiry Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 Well, if you know her answer for sure, then why do you need to wait for her answer? Just take the initiative to break up with her so you can all move on with your lives.
HumanMachine Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 NEVER let a woman pick between you and another guy. I’ve been in your position and it sucks, if I could go back I’d make the decision for her and walk!!!! You won’t do it but seriously the best thing to do would be to block this woman and never talk to her again. She has zero respect for you.
HumanMachine Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 And you know why she won’t give you a straight answer? Because she’s keeping you around just incase it doesn’t work out with the new guy. For your manhood, please walk!!! 2
Art_Critic Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 You make the decision for her... simple as that..
Author Heartshattered2 Posted December 28, 2017 Author Posted December 28, 2017 So break up with her if she can't officially tell me it's over? Wont I look like the bad guy to everyone
HumanMachine Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 So break up with her if she can't officially tell me it's over? Wont I look like the bad guy to everyone Why are you waiting around to be told the inevitable? She is making a complete fool of you by making you wait around for her to decide who she wants. Would you rather look like the ‘bad guy’ for ending it with your nasty girlfriend or look like a fool whilst your girlfriend is off with another guy ‘deciding’ who she wants to be with? Be the man and end it.
snowboy91 Posted December 29, 2017 Posted December 29, 2017 She's avoiding telling you because she hasn't got the guts to do so, and she's afraid how you'll react. No excuse in my opinion, she's done the wrong thing. Break up, move on. I know it sucks but there is no going forward from here without doing so.
basil67 Posted December 29, 2017 Posted December 29, 2017 So break up with her if she can't officially tell me it's over? Wont I look like the bad guy to everyone Why do you think that breaking up with someone who's stringing you along makes you look like the bad guy? I can't follow your logic. To me, someone who ends a relationship which isn't working for them is a person who has courage and self esteem.
Young mind Posted December 29, 2017 Posted December 29, 2017 My gf had a decision between me and another guy. We dated 1.5 years and she caught feelings for another guy and needed time to decide. Well she decided and is avoiding telling me even tho the signs are there she's breaking up with me. She keeps avoiding seeing me in person to tell me and after a year and a half together. She Has not said officially were done but knows her answer and refuses to tell me at all not even in text or phone call. What dose that say about her? First, it’s extremely difficult breaking up with someone, it’s is a choice that subconsciously haunts you when you hurt someone you were in love with and 1.5 years is genuine time, she might very well be confused, although this new guy seems like the new shining armor compared to you, there is very little you can do about it. I remember when I met my ex-gf , she pinned on me instantly, she had a boyfriend that time of a few months but like your situation now she wanted me and there’s nothing he could do to change her mind, he begged, his friends tried to persuade her, he even got into a fight with me once, something you definitely shouldn’t do, because that’s the point of no return, at that time I was the king and if I were smarter I would speak to him to let it go, so should you. I know your ego is hurt because she chooses another man, but it’s really nothing special, feelings change and we all have to live with it. Since you still love her, and assuming you’re not blocked yet, write her one final message, pour all of your heart out, don’t abuse or be rude about her choice, say your mind and try to move on
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