TheJollyPotter Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 (edited) Hey all, first time poster over here. Would appreciate any help / advice. I met a wonderful girl just over a month ago, so friendly and bubbly and constantly asking me questions. I maintained an air of mystery and never divulged anything more than drip-fed information to keep her interested. I gave her my contact info and she reached out that night and we started speaking. She was the same bubbly person I had met and was asking me more questions trying to test me so early on with questions such as "Do you have a girlfriend" etc she was keen. A few days later we arranged a date, met up and had a wonderful time. She was still bubbly, friendly and with a very high interest level. I know this from her body language and her initiating physical contact. She also mentioned she wanted to see me again. All was well with the world. The date couldn't have gone any better. My only mistake on the date was not going in for that all important first kiss as she was certainly showing the signs. On the first date she said she wanted to see me the following Saturday but we had some heavy snowfall and the place we had arranged to go to would have been impossible to reach so we left it to reschedule once she got her schedule from work. Our texts are laid back as I'm the kind of person who only texts to arrange dates and times and create small-talk rather than long blown out conversations (in short, I suck at texting but I'd rather save all the convo for in person). If she takes longer than usual to reply she's always apologising but never fails to get back to me. We have short convo, a little teasing, never coming across needy or insecure and all convo has the end goal of setting up that all important date. We organised a second date and a time and off we went. A few days before the date she had messaged me whilst I was asleep and I woke up to a message from her saying "I hope you got my text and you still want to speak to me". Needy behaviour usually freaks me out but I took it as a sign she was still interested (going a few days without texting etc, the mind does wonder how interested she really is). We had our second date last week and it went amazingly well, we did various activities and made out a few times, she opened up to me about things that I'm not sure many second dates would get to hear about but I took this as a sign of her feeling comfortable with me. She has been out of a 2 year relationship for 7 months now, her ex had cheated on her and her barriers are still up for the most part but for a split second she was letting me in, which was nice. I listened, made her laugh and she suggested meeting up in the new year and even suggested a place she'd like to go with me. That's twice she has mentioned seeing me again as usually I'd wait a few days before arranging and both times she beat me to it and stole a bit of that ye ol masculine power away from me. Once again, I'm thinking it's a sign of a high level of interest. Once again, all was well in the world. We hadn't messaged for a few days (both busy with family in the run up to xmas) and I sent her a message on Christmas just wishing her and her family happy holidays. She responded quickly as usual and even text me later in the afternoon on xmas day to see how my day was going. I responded with a longer than usual text that may have had the first ever-so-slightly sign of neediness to it. I mentioned that it was weird timing as my brother just asked about the date on Friday and I teased her about her beating me at an arcade game we played. It was still friendly thou however and full of well wishes. Very breezy for the most part albeit slightly longer than stuff I'd usually send. The replies then started to become smaller and rather basic and after another few inside jokes she said she had to go to work, I replied to that last message. Now silence. The text I sent didn't warrant a reply, she was still adding kisses and her usual loveliness onto the end of the texts but now there's just silence. Her messages were overly bubbly and friendly for the first week, then it started to calm down and now I get the odd bouts of "Hope you're okay" OR "Hope you're having a good day" i'm always the friendlier of the two now and it feels as thou her interest has dropped yet she still meets up for dates etc. Hard to speculate over a text message so I don't really think too in-depth about it. Three days later and still silence which is unusual as she's always reaching out within a day or two max. It's too early to jump to conclusions and naturally I'm going to wait until next week to shoot her a message but I just wanted an outsiders opinion and see if you could spot something I can't see. Usually interest would drop over time but from our amazing date on Friday to her seeing how my xmas went. I can only speculate or jump to various conclusions that something has happened out of my control over the last few days. Is the ex still around? Is she not emotionally ready? How many others is she dating? Is this a game to test my confidence as her ex was needy and controlling? Any help would be great and apologies for the novel! Edited December 28, 2017 by TheJollyPotter
d0nnivain Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 The title of your post bears no resemblance to the Q inside. Who knows why the texting slowed. I'd chalk it up to the time of year. Pick up the phone -- use the voice feature -- & ask her out on another date. 1
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