Is this a good or bad idea?

[CasualDude10]

Long story short: This girl I worked with over the summer said she liked me, wanted me, etc. but we never did anything because she had a boyfriend at the time. During this time, she showed big interest in me, but we never did anything because of this. She was dumped by her bf a week before she left for college. She would keep in constant contact with me. Her college is like 6hrs away, so we never met up.

 

Over Thanksgiving break, I asked her out on a date. She pulled the "I'll let you know card" and didn't, but after the day of the date, she started hitting me up again.

 

A week before Christmas break, she started snapchatting me again and would occasionally text me just for conversation. She would also want to facetime with me. I invited her out to a Christmas college party at my place and she came for a few hours and left. Which was cool. Then, she texted me that night saying how awesome it was seeing me and that she had a good time even though she was not drinking.

 

Well a few days later I asked her out again and she pulled the same card she did over Thanksgiving break. She said she'd let me know but never did and after the date she snapchatted me again. I did not respond. Then a few days later she texted me, again I did not respond.

 

So tonight she texted me again saying "Thanks for responding to me !! brat."

 

I have not responded yet and do not know if I should. She has blown me off twice now but keeps hitting me up.

 

So I am rather thinking about just not texting her back or saying this

 

"Yeah after asking you to do something Saturday and you just straight up ignored me, it kind of just drew the line with me and I felt disrespected. I hold no resentment or anything, I am just over it."

 

Is this a good or bad idea?

 

(Note: over the summer I would talk to her constantly, which was a bad move. Since she moved to school, I would respond to her only when she reached out to me.)

[d0nnivain]

It's passive aggressive.

 

This girl didn't date you because she has always viewed you as a friend / little brother. She likes the status of your friendship. She does not want a romance with you.

 

There is no need for you to send that text. Also having an emotionally laden conversation through text is a terrible idea. If you want to talk to her, fine. You can tell her in person you feel disrespected & you would have preferred a flat out no. If you send the message you want to send she is not going to fall into your arms apologizing & declaring her undying love for you (which is what you really want). She is going to get annoyed & think F him, little S. I'm not gonna put up with his temper tantrums. Then you won't have a friendship either.

[smackie9]

Take the hint, she's not into you....she has you in the friends zone. Now if you are ok with being friends fine, but if not simply tell her you are not interested in a friendship...then she will get the hint to get lost.

[CasualDude10]

It's passive aggressive.

 

This girl didn't date you because she has always viewed you as a friend / little brother. She likes the status of your friendship. She does not want a romance with you.

 

There is no need for you to send that text. Also having an emotionally laden conversation through text is a terrible idea. If you want to talk to her, fine. You can tell her in person you feel disrespected & you would have preferred a flat out no. If you send the message you want to send she is not going to fall into your arms apologizing & declaring her undying love for you (which is what you really want). She is going to get annoyed & think F him, little S. I'm not gonna put up with his temper tantrums. Then you won't have a friendship either.

 

She doesn’t view me as a friend or little brother. She has literally told me she wants to have sex with me and asks me why i am so perfect. I should have included this.

 

Since i posted this post, she snap chatted my roommate asking why i haven’t texted her back.

 

So i do not think she views me as a little brother seeing as i am older than her and twice her size. Not to mention what she has said.

[d0nnivain]

I went back & re-read all the threads you posted about her all summer. In every thread everybody told you she was just toying with you. At least she's consistent.

 

After all the talk about being willing to have sex with you, especially now that the BF is out of the picture, she failed to do anything except tease you on social media. You boost her ego. She's not interested IRL anything other than getting her ego stroked Proceed at your own risk.

[CasualDude10]

I went back & re-read all the threads you posted about her all summer. In every thread everybody told you she was just toying with you. At least she's consistent.

 

After all the talk about being willing to have sex with you, especially now that the BF is out of the picture, she failed to do anything except tease you on social media. You boost her ego. She's not interested IRL anything other than getting her ego stroked Proceed at your own risk.

 

Damn you read all of that? So would you text her back or just not respond?

[d0nnivain]

I'd just not respond.

 

I skimmed it, actually. Because I remembered the story to some extent. Sorry I mixed up the part where you were a year older but I distinctly remember getting a vibe that she was happy to pat you on the head & have you follow her around, occasionally giving you a treat, but never being willing to actually date you.

 

That is still true. Sorry.

 

In the unlikely event that she shows up with open arms asking you out, go. Until then, stop chasing her.

[rushed]

I would not send that text.

 

Unless you like just being snapchat/texting penpals with her, I'd drop her from your life completely. She's just keeping you around to stroke her ego. If she wanted to actually go out with you and/or have sex with you, she would have by now.

[badfella]

I do this with some women. Its an ego power trip. Sorta like working a puppet and something to pass the time. She's doing it too you.