Loveydovey101 Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 I started dating this guy. We’ve been dating for 1 month now and things moved fast. He’s the sweetest guy ever and we’re perfect together. He told me he loves me. I think I do too. However he just told me his parents are moving him away to Chicago for 7 months with his Grandma to take a semester of college off. I’m devastated. I know I can’t just let him go and start dating other people. So i have no choice but to do long distance. He told me he’s waiting for me, and showed he cares about me, that means a lot. I just don’t know how I’m gonna do it. I get really emotional and overthink and question everything if someone leaves a text on read or doesn’t text me enough. And all of that is KEY in long distance. How will I get through this without going crazy every night? I just want him to be in my arms. Send help.
mortensorchid Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 Are you remaining committed while he's gone? If so I would suggest using Skype / video calling to stay together. Phone calls are one thing, but now that we have this technology we can do something else with it in order to "be together" when we were not before. I knew a few people who are/were in LDRs who used Skype to talk to each other. I talk to an old bf of mine who now lives on the west coast a few times a year, we say that this is like we're actually together when we talk on a video call.
fooloflurve Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 Think of it in a good way, it's just a couple of months, if ur love for him is strong enough u will make it work and he will make it work, im not gonna sugarcoat **** to you that u wont feel miserable missing him but it's how u overcome it! Good luck!
Gaeta Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 You met this guy on December 9th that's 3 weeks ago and he hid from you he was leaving for 8 months after the holidays. Drop him. If he was capable of misleading you for 3 weeks he'll most likely be able to lie to you while he's away. 3
Lorenza Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 Did he tell you he loves after just one month of dating? Lovebombing isn't a good sign and usually leads to an abrupt ending. Sorry to be a downer, but I'm pretty sure this will end just as quick as it started. One more thing - you can't love someone after one month of knowing them. You've fallen into a trap of instant self-gratification and infatuation and mistake it for love. Love comes gradually as you learn more and more things about each other. I know, we're all eager to skip all the initial stages of getting to know someone and dive into the relationship stuff, but it rarely works out. I've been there before and "things moved fast" usually means "things moved fast towards an ending". I'd recommend you to walk away and spare yourself the anxiety that comes with long distance relationships. 2
d0nnivain Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 You fell hard & fast. If you are the type as you say who overthinks things & gets upset when somebody doesn't respond fast enough do not try an LDR. You won't be able to handle it. If you can manage to get a grip & realize that love at this point is an illusion & this guy is the say anything type, perhaps this can work. You will have to be extremely patient. However, it does seem based on how fast things went with you that he's likely to find somebody more local as soon as he gets to Chicago. 2
Whodatdog Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 There is no way that you have the emotional strength to do a long distance relationship. You're already pinging off the walls, and he hasnt even left yet. 2
smackie9 Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 You haven't had enough time invested for take on such a relationship. So to keep your sanity, I suggest like the others to let him go. When he comes back you can rekindle the relationship.
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