Mkn1010 Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 Hope everyone had a lovely Christmas! So I'm feeling a little awkward because the person I've been seeing for approx. 2 months just gave me a Christmas gift (it wasn't overly expensive but it was thoughtful - which is my thing), but I didn't buy him anything. He doesn't mind at all, but this really made me think about my reciprocation in this overall. And I really like this guy, he is very good to me and yet, I am stifled by fear of making any 'drastic' moves (and they all seem drastic to me lol). Like texting him first sometimes makes me nervous, I'm nervous when we hang out, even now. And I'm just incredibly shy around him. When I talk about emotional topics with him, my hands literally shake. But strangely, I found all of this easy with the numerous a-holes I dated over the last year. I have not been in this situation in ages (having feelings for a great person) and I'm not sure how to move past this mental block I have going on at the moment in reciprocating interest? And I don't know if I need to do anything to rectify the Christmas gift situation?
d0nnivain Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 At this point he knows you didn't get him anything. You can't un-ring that bell. Do something over the top nice for him in the coming weeks, like treating him to a nice meal. 3
she'stheone Posted December 28, 2017 Posted December 28, 2017 Like texting him first sometimes makes me nervous, I'm nervous when we hang out, even now. Hi Mkn1010, I agree with d0nnivain, you can't change the past. Do something nice for him "just because". As for being nervous, I don't know about your past relationships so I can't speak to how easy it was with "the numerous a-holes". What I will say is, many times, when we step out of our comfort zone, we feel nervous. It's not a bad thing, in fact it's a good thing. It let's you know your doing something different. And while different isn't always a good thing, if you haven't had success in the past, different is usually good. Keep stepping out of your comfort zone. Sending you much love and light 1
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