Bat Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 Yesterday at Christmas I received a lovely message from a girl I liked and hadn't seen in a few months. The purpose of the message was that she wanted to meet up and asked if we could. So I replied a couple of hours later saying yes. However this was all through Facebook messenger and, understandably, she was logged off because it was Christmas - so my reply just sat in limbo as 'Sent'. She's been online today, and it still says 'sent' instead of 'delivered'. I was playing around with another Facebook profile. I found that if the recipients account is offline when a message is sent, then the message will not say delivered until the message is actually opened. If the inbox is opened and closed it will clear their message notifications, regardless of whether there are still unread messages. Its likely that Facebook never brought the reply to her attention properly, and it has since been pushed down the inbox being drowned by other Christmas wishes. My two options are: 1) Do nothing and wait. She may see it tomorrow and reply then, or she may see it in a couple of months and be too embarrassed to reply back so late (this happens). 2) Send a follow up message when she's online. She'll see the messages, but I then possibly risk being seen as either desperate or too demanding (which I'm not). What do I do?
dumbass2 Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 Wait another day or two and if no response, then ask how her Christmas was then see how she replies. If she doesn't mention getting together, then you can ask her to get together on a certain day and see what she says. Have a plan in mind for where you'd want to go. If you have her number, then maybe go through text instead.
she'stheone Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 Be honest. Tell her you responded to her, but you noticed your message still says sent and not delivered so there must have been a glitch. You wanted her to know if she was still interested and if so you were too. It's so amazing to me how hard we make simple communication between two people when it comes to dating. If she feels your too desperate or demanding then that's on her. If you are desperate you will come across as desperate. If you are simply communicating a desire to get together (after she expressed interest) then following up on a message, one you honestly believe got lost, is NOT desperate. Again, if she sees it that way then that's on her. If you see it that when, well... ...that's on you. Sending you much love and light. 1
Nilfiry Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 Wait a day, and if there is no reply, send a follow up asking something along the lines of, "do you still want to meet up?" If there is no response again after another day or so, then just pretend the whole thing never happened.
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