Lardalish Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 OK, I have recently moved back to college, about 2.5 hours from my home town. Back home there is this girl that I have been dating, I like her and I'm pretty sure she feels about the same way. The problem is that I don't think she is "the one" if you know what I mean. I like her but with me being 2.5 hrs away I'm wondering if I should try to keep the relationship up and let it go its way or if I should go ahead and put us back onto friendship terms (if thats possible). It just seems that it isn't fair to her to try to keep her with me when I can't be there with her. I know I need to make the final decision but some feed back on the situation would be appreciated, thanks.
Cecelius Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 My only advice is to stop thinking about "The One". There's no such thing unless you are a Hollywood producer or a teen girl. There is someone who is good enough for you to make certain sacrifices for; there is no magic to that -- you're a man, so you are in control of what is right and wrong in your world. Only you can decide if she's on that level or that you're prepared to sacrifice for her. Other than that, you identified lots of evidence that you are not prepared to think of her that way: too inconvenient, back in school (lost opportunities) and trying to do the right thing by her.
bhsunny21 Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 It seems, by what you have written, that you already know what you want to do. I think it would be very fair to sit down with her and let her know that maybe you can have a casual relationship rather than be "an item". Things will work out the way they are supposed to eventually. That's just what I think! Good luck!
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