girlinNYC Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 (edited) Hopefully I will get more responses on this one. 3 days ago I gave my 10 month friend (posted about him in the past) my number after months of face to face conversation. I figured after the interest he’s shown body language wise I would take it in my stride to express some back. He responded quite well to the number with a warm smile and called me a ‘champion.’ I didn’t give him mine just because I wanted to leave the ball in his court in this instance. I’m all about 50/50 effort but if he makes the first text he’ll feel like a man. Two questions: 1. I haven’t heard from him yet (I get it’s Christmas) - I know the whole ‘if he’s interested he won’t wait more than a week to call’ thing, but do some guys wait at the start so they don’t come off as desperate to not mess anything up? I also know it can vary case by case. 2. What does the whole smile and a “champion” response mean? I have never been good at reading signals so on that token I’m not getting carried away with his reaction, just want to know how his reaction come across to outsiders looking in Edited December 26, 2017 by girlinNYC Detail
clia Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 I thought you were going to ask him out? You've given him every indication possible that you are interested, short of flashing a neon sign telling him to ask you out. To me, it's not a good sign that he hasn't asked you out over the past 10 months, never asked for your number over the past 10 months, and even after you gave him your number did not wish you a Merry Christmas. I don't care what kind of body language or words he is giving you -- he's taken no action. My honest opinion is that he is not interested in you and you need to move on. However, I know you won't do that. So, just ask him out for a drink after the new year and see what happens.
stillafool Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 It would seem after knowing him for 10 months he would have asked you out by now if he were interested. I think you have made it clear you are interested by giving him your number so the ball is in his court to call you. I think if you push it further you will be chasing and that is usually a turn off unless they want you.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 How do you know him? I ask because you said you've had face-to-face conversations for 10 months, but you don't have each other's numbers. So I am curious where you met and how well you know him at this point. Perhaps he's not single?
ExpatInItaly Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 How do you know him? I ask because you said you've had face-to-face conversations for 10 months, but you don't have each other's numbers. So I am curious where you met and how well you know him at this point. Perhaps he's not single?
Author girlinNYC Posted December 26, 2017 Author Posted December 26, 2017 How do you know him? I ask because you said you've had face-to-face conversations for 10 months, but you don't have each other's numbers. So I am curious where you met and how well you know him at this point. Perhaps he's not single? We met through work, different departments but our buildings were nearby. Just an all round confusing situation given he is quite reserved but has given me signs he’s interested on some level. I’m becoming resigned to the fact it won’t work. I have him on social media and there’s no indication of a girlfriend. No posts with any girls.
Author girlinNYC Posted December 26, 2017 Author Posted December 26, 2017 It would seem after knowing him for 10 months he would have asked you out by now if he were interested. I think you have made it clear you are interested by giving him your number so the ball is in his court to call you. I think if you push it further you will be chasing and that is usually a turn off unless they want you. It’s all I’m doing at this point. I deliberately didn’t take his number because giving him mine was doing enough on my end. Anything more would be overkill.
she'stheone Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 Two questions: 1. I haven’t heard from him yet (I get it’s Christmas) - I know the whole ‘if he’s interested he won’t wait more than a week to call’ thing, but do some guys wait at the start so they don’t come off as desperate to not mess anything up? I also know it can vary case by case. 2. What does the whole smile and a “champion” response mean? 1. Yes, some guys will wait at the start so they do not come off as desperate but... They will not wait very long 1-3 days. The longer we as men, wait the more our interest either grows or decreases. If we haven't called by the end of three days, it is unlikely we will call. You got it right that if he's interested he won't wait and you got it wrong about the week. Case by case is true for everything in life and there are exceptions to every rule too. It's still a bad idea to go to a roulette table and bet everything on "00". (If you don't know, anything about the odds of getting "00" it's 36 to one. Sure it's a great payout but probably not worth the risk). Wishing you much love and light
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