Caitabug724 Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 My fiance is currently in the process of getting his GED; we feel that it is important for him to have this before we get married. The problem is, it's taken him a year-and-a-half... WHAT on earth could take so long to get it? How do I encourage him and motivate him to really strive to get this GED without sounding like I'm complaining or nagging at him???
curiousnycgirl Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Offer to work on the material with him. To be honest I am not exactly sure how one gets a GED - I thought it was just a test - so perhaps you can be his study partner.
Cecelius Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Don't offer to work on it with him -- chances are a man may take that as evidence that you think he needs help. Tell him that you are honestly impressed and wowed with his ambition and success to this point and that it really shows you what kind of man he is (or temper it to match your feelings). If that doesn't work, tell him that he gets a BJ for every day he shortens the process.
Craig Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Originally posted by Cecelius Tell him that you are honestly impressed and wowed with his ambition and success to this point and that it really shows you what kind of man he is (or temper it to match your feelings). If that doesn't work, tell him that he gets a BJ for every day he shortens the process. Encouragement without nagging is called motivation and Cecelius gets 500 points! People aren't lazy they are either sick or unmotivated and your learning what will truly motivate him is the challenge. Cecelius gave a good answer in the first paragraph above. The bj idea might work well in the beginning but would probably have less of a motivating effect over time. When you discover how to motivate your man you are going to be impressed with what he can do. Just remember when he becomes motivated to keep motivating him and finding new ways to motivate him. You're a good woman and a leader but don't let it go to your head the most successful motivating leaders don't take credit for what their team has done but instead give all the credit to the their team. Your reward will be knowing deep down that you are responsible in large part for his success.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 You maybe see getting the GED as a simple task. For him, this could be a huge deal. The big picture, getting his GED may be so overwhelming he could be doubting himself now and then. He needs to break it down into smaller goals and achieve them one at a time. Then he can reward himself each time he reaches one of those goals....whether it's something he sets for himself, or you set together. You can help him along by asking questions about "the next level" or however it's broken down. Base it on what he has accomplished in the last year.
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