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Christmas brings the men out of the woods

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PhillyLibertyBelle Established Member

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Totally agree and as others have said ex loves from years ago!

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CptInsano Established Member

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Wouldn't be surprised if this one is married...

 

She says she travels a lot on business ... so you might be indeed correct. :D And since I'm currently not looking it is not really much of distraction, other than wondering what in the world motivated her to reach out.

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Popsicle Established Member

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She says she travels a lot on business ... so you might be indeed correct. :D And since I'm currently not looking it is not really much of distraction, other than wondering what in the world motivated her to reach out.

 

Yes, that is the million dollar question...

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carhill Established Member

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Yes, even the rugged individualists of the forest appear out in the world now and again ;)

 

In my case, it was to visit friends. No way I'd trade the pristine peace of the woods for the chaos and noise of the highways and cities otherwise. And, yes, I encountered some women, and men, along the way. Just yesterday I was fishing on the pier by Hearst Castle and an older gentleman walked up and was asking me about fishing and I found out he farmed not a couple miles from where my shop was and we knew the same people. IME, if one is friendly, it's pretty easy to meet people everywhere. The holidays are perhaps a bonus because people who are festive tend to dominate that group and it's a pretty fun time and attraction often flows from fun and good times.

What_Did_I_Do Established Member

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I must be an exception, I have gotten 0 messages from any exes today haha

 

Same here. Nada, zippo, zilch.

 

Though I almost sent one to someone I dated very briefly last summer. I might send a belated greeting today. Hope he's still single!

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smackie9 Established Member

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Out of the woods and into the malls....so many guys were checkin me out/makin eye contact when I was out shopping.

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alphamale Established Member

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Out of the woods and into the malls....so many guys were checkin me out/makin eye contact when I was out shopping.

that's because you're cute smackie9 :)

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Purepony Established Member

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Spending Christmas alone has to be the hardest aspect of being single. I don’t doubt it would prompt men to reach out.

 

I spent the day alone today and am glad it’s over. I’m hoping that the new year brings me a woman I want to date long term.

 

Either that or all the dudes were avoiding having to buy a Christmas gift and now the coast is clear ;)

 

 

It’s not that bad. Time alone can be great but you shouldn’t rely on someone to make you feel good during the holidays because at the end of the day you are you

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Quagmire243 Member

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Not that I feel desperate (rather bored), but I did the same for the same reason.

 

I’m curious if women feel that way?

 

Well see I am desperate. I just try not to appear that way. I avoid even viewing profiles on Friday or Saturday night to try to give the illusion I have a life. I actually haven't messaged anyone since before Thanksgiving.

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grays Established Member

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Ha ha ha, the guy sounds wacky. Did you reply? I mean, what can you say except Merry Christmas?

 

I did. I thought about it for half a day before I sent, "it's been a long time, how are you?" Then took him nearly a day to come back with some totally non-flirty small talk. Who tf knows? Im not actually interested in going out with him but I texted because I would love to know what he's thinking.

 

If I had to guess, from the little I know him... He wants a girlfriend, he hasnt met anyone in all this time, there was something he liked about me but he doesn't think he can trust me. He's scared of me because he could sense that if he was interested I'd throw myself into it and he thinks if that's true then maybe Im too volatile to be with, too wild and maybe likely to cheat and hurt him. So I think there's something about me that he likes, but not enough to get him over the hump to really take the chance.

 

99% of the guys who text rarely just want to ****. But this guy is not a player at all. I feel pretty sure that he's looking for someone to grow old with.

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OnlyHonesty Established Member

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Spending Christmas alone has to be the hardest aspect of being single. I don’t doubt it would prompt men to reach out.

 

I spent the day alone today and am glad it’s over. I’m hoping that the new year brings me a woman I want to date long term.

 

Either that or all the dudes were avoiding having to buy a Christmas gift and now the coast is clear ;)

 

Quite a lot of our pain comes from resistance to our current situation, or present moment. Without that resistance, it's easier to change it to something we enjoy more.

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OnlyHonesty Established Member

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Goodness, I've gotten so many messages today on the dating app.

 

My friend said Christmas makes you feel lonely when you don't have someone to share it with. What do you think?

 

 

I disagree. Loneliness does not come from a holiday, or the absence of a partner, it comes from an absence that is within. When you figure out what that is, then loneliness changes form from enemy to Allie...it becomes solitude.

 

People can be surrounded by family all Christmas and still feel lonely, and a person that is alone all Christmas may not feel lonely. Loneliness is misunderstood and the solution for it is sought in the wrong place because our culture focuses on external solutions to most problems.

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OnlyHonesty Established Member

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I feel like an odd duck in that I spent almost all day alone (kids were here in the morning and then back at night) and enjoyed it. I binged watched Ray Donovan and stayed in my PJs all day.

 

 

I declined all invites and chose to spend all Christmas alone as well. I relaxed, discovered a new hobby, watched a few of my favorite series, played a few games, had a workout, enjoyed a nice meal, and hopped into a steaming hot Jacuzzi with essential oils and lots of bubbles, with soft music in the background and dimmed led lights.

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Sm12345 Established Member

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I was tempted to send my ex a Merry Christmas message, but she has a new boyfriend and I had a date that went really well, so it totally slipped my mind. ?

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alphamale Established Member

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I declined all invites and chose to spend all Christmas alone as well. I relaxed, discovered a new hobby, watched a few of my favorite series, played a few games, had a workout, enjoyed a nice meal, and hopped into a steaming hot Jacuzzi with essential oils and lots of bubbles, with soft music in the background and dimmed led lights.

 

I also had 3 or 4 women that wanted to spend time with me over the holidays and I declined each of them. I had the best time by myself.

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