Shehulk Posted December 24, 2017 Posted December 24, 2017 happy holidays !!! ive been seeing a guy, its fairly new, we hung out twice (and had sex) and weve been txting every day, he sends me good morning texte, kissing face etc etc. and when we hung out he was acting like we were in a relationship, always kissing me and cuddling all night, i even met his sister. heres the problems, he's seeing other people and i am not ok with that. i tried to explain to him that when i date i focus all my attention on one person and im not ready to take a chance and keep seeing him as i know he's seeing other people and i am basicly an option. i know that we are not in a relationship and he has every right to see other people BUT i also have the rights to not be okay with that. so i explained myself to him and told him that since we're not on the same page and not looking for the same thing we should stop talking and move on. he keeps sending me stuff like 'i wish i could see you', 'im down to hang out every time you want' or even 'im glad i didnt lie but i wish i kept my mouth shut about the other woman', last night he even texted me 'ok so if i get my **** together and stop seeing other people can i hit you up ?' (to what i answered yess) i tried to ignored his text but he just wont stop, from good morning to sending me random memes when i ignore him. I wouldnt say that im attached to him but a definetly care and i dont wanna get more attached knowing that he's basicly shopping girls right now. what to do ? NC and ignore him for good ? NC and only answer him if he says he's ready to be date exclusively ?
d0nnivain Posted December 24, 2017 Posted December 24, 2017 What else is there? He won't give you exclusivity. You are not OK with that. He seems to think that if keeps pestering you, he will wear you down & you will continue to sleep with him while he's unwilling to commit. It sounds like he's all around unwilling to respect any boundary you set. 1
BaileyB Posted December 24, 2017 Posted December 24, 2017 (edited) You said what you need to say, so now you have two choices... 1). Accept the fact that he is dating other girls and continue to date him. Have sex or don't have sex, it's your decision. 2). Say goodbye and tell him to look you up when/if he's not dating someone else. You are two dates into this, it is hardly a "relationship." I agree with Donnivain, he does seem to think that if he teases you and continues to pester you, that you will let it go and allow him to continue to have sex with him while he dates around. That's not very respectful of you, or the boundaries you have tried to set. If it was me, I wouldn't be ok with the fact that he's dating other girls and I definitely wouldn't be having sex with him. Edited December 24, 2017 by BaileyB
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