Author LenaBean94 Posted December 26, 2017 Author Posted December 26, 2017 No you should remove him from social media and go nc. So his merry Christmas didn’t mean anything?
HumanMachine Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 So his merry Christmas didn’t mean anything? No he was just being pleasant, it is what is known as a ‘breadcrumb’. They do not help you in the healing process. 1
Author LenaBean94 Posted December 26, 2017 Author Posted December 26, 2017 No he was just being pleasant, it is what is known as a ‘breadcrumb’. They do not help you in the healing process. Hmm I see. Let me guess. If he wanted more he would’ve at least tried to have a conversation after I said thanks merry Christmas to you too?
HumanMachine Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 Hmm I see. Let me guess. If he wanted more he would’ve at least tried to have a conversation after I said thanks merry Christmas to you too? Exactly. 10
Author LenaBean94 Posted December 26, 2017 Author Posted December 26, 2017 Exactly. 10 But all I said was thanks Merry Christmas to you too. What else was he supposed to say since I didn’t say much either?
CantTakeMySmile Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 But all I said was thanks Merry Christmas to you too. What else was he supposed to say since I didn’t say much either? You weren’t “supposed “ to do anything. But, you don’t have much to stand on. I think your plan was transparent. If you didn’t want to reconcile then... why now? It is not about winning or losing. It is about love. You were over it enough to go on a date.... lead with that feeling, and keep moving. If, and only if, you REALLY want to reconcile, be honest with him. Tell him you acted like a fool and maybe you can reconcile. But, in my opinion, he is over it.
basil67 Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 Hmm I see. Let me guess. If he wanted more he would’ve at least tried to have a conversation after I said thanks merry Christmas to you too? He wanted more when he asked to get back together with you. But you said No, started dating again and he's now made the choice to move on. As he should. 4
Emmafive Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 (edited) You weren’t “supposed “ to do anything. But, you don’t have much to stand on. I think your plan was transparent. If you didn’t want to reconcile then... why now? It is not about winning or losing. It is about love. You were over it enough to go on a date.... lead with that feeling, and keep moving. If, and only if, you REALLY want to reconcile, be honest with him. Tell him you acted like a fool and maybe you can reconcile. But, in my opinion, he is over it. This. You weren’t supposed to do anything. I do disagree that she was over it enough to go on a date though. I believe she wanted to punish him because he broke up with her. When he didn’t beg and plead for her after she told him no only a week later she realized she screwed up. Hence why she harassed him with messages the same night and told him she was having a hard time. After weeks went by and he still didn’t beg for her back she resorted to being childish and posted her date where she knew there was a very good chance he’d see it. If she had moved on enough to date she should’ve moved on enough to ignore his messages or say thanks to his well wishes of her moving on. Instead she double texted him and proceeded to go like his pictures on social media. OP hasn’t realized part of being an adult is owning to your behavior and being honest about it. OP was and far is from over it. Unfortunately she dug her own grave and now it’s too far gone. Edited December 26, 2017 by Emmafive
CantTakeMySmile Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 This. You weren’t supposed to do anything. I do disagree that she was over it enough to go on a date though. I believe she wanted to punish him because he broke up with her. When he didn’t beg and plead for her after she told him no only a week later she realized she screwed up. Hence why she harassed him with messages the same night and told him she was having a hard time. After weeks went by and he still didn’t beg for her back she resorted to being childish and posted her date where she knew there was a very good chance he’d see it. If she had moved on enough to date she should’ve moved on enough to ignore his messages or say thanks to his well wishes of her moving on. Instead she double texted him and proceeded to go like his pictures on social media. OP hasn’t realized part of being an adult is owning to your behavior and being honest about it. OP was and far is from over it. Unfortunately she dug her own grave and now it’s too far gone. Yup, agreed
Author LenaBean94 Posted December 26, 2017 Author Posted December 26, 2017 He wanted more when he asked to get back together with you. But you said No, started dating again and he's now made the choice to move on. As he should. But what indication is there that he’s decided to move on?
basil67 Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 But what indication is there that he’s decided to move on? The fact that he's not trying to be with you right now. 2
CantTakeMySmile Posted December 26, 2017 Posted December 26, 2017 But what indication is there that he’s decided to move on? What indication do you have that is has not moved on?
Author LenaBean94 Posted December 27, 2017 Author Posted December 27, 2017 The fact that he's not trying to be with you right now. But couldn’t he say the same thing since I haven’t made a move? And I think we all know that I still want him.
Leojax Posted December 27, 2017 Posted December 27, 2017 But what indication is there that he’s decided to move on? Maybe I’m in the minority here and I’m wrong but if anything it looks like you're the one who still wants him, not the other way around. 2
Author LenaBean94 Posted December 27, 2017 Author Posted December 27, 2017 Maybe I’m in the minority here and I’m wrong but if anything it looks like you're the one who still wants him, not the other way around. Wait, how does it look like I still want him? I was the one who turned him away.
CantTakeMySmile Posted December 27, 2017 Posted December 27, 2017 Wait, how does it look like I still want him? I was the one who turned him away. Because of the game playing to get his attention. Do you want to be with him? 2
Leojax Posted December 27, 2017 Posted December 27, 2017 Because of the game playing to get his attention. Do you want to be with him? This. Even the simple reply to his merry Christmas texts. On its own it means nothing, but coupled with everything just replying to any thing he says or does at this point shows you’re still open to communication. If you really wanted to move on you didn’t have to respond. 1
stillafool Posted December 27, 2017 Posted December 27, 2017 So his merry Christmas didn’t mean anything? He probably sent out a group text like a lot of people saying "Merry Christmas". I doubt you were the only one to receive one from him.
Author LenaBean94 Posted December 27, 2017 Author Posted December 27, 2017 This. Even the simple reply to his merry Christmas texts. On its own it means nothing, but coupled with everything just replying to any thing he says or does at this point shows you’re still open to communication. If you really wanted to move on you didn’t have to respond. So my birthday is coming up and he always sent me a funny card. If he sends me one and I tell him thank you, this still shows I’m open to communication?
CantTakeMySmile Posted December 27, 2017 Posted December 27, 2017 So my birthday is coming up and he always sent me a funny card. If he sends me one and I tell him thank you, this still shows I’m open to communication? It depends. What is it you want from him?
frigginlost Posted December 27, 2017 Posted December 27, 2017 As a guy, I'm exhausted just reading this thread. Here is the cliff notes through a guys eyes: He walked. He realized his mistake. He came back. You told him no. He said he understood. You then felt the wound was not deep enough and decided to pour salt in it. He saw it, realized that perhaps his original walking was the right thing. You now realize that your game playing backfired. And now you want to use games to get him back. If you want him back, tell him. Anything other than that is game playing and he will see it as such and push you further away. Life lesson for women: Don't ever try to use jealousy as a trick to manipulate a man, because a man worth his salt will bolt as it is a reflection of your character and immaturity... 5
Emmafive Posted December 27, 2017 Posted December 27, 2017 As a guy, I'm exhausted just reading this thread. Here is the cliff notes through a guys eyes: He walked. He realized his mistake. He came back. You told him no. He said he understood. You then felt the wound was not deep enough and decided to pour salt in it. He saw it, realized that perhaps his original walking was the right thing. You now realize that your game playing backfired. And now you want to use games to get him back. If you want him back, tell him. Anything other than that is game playing and he will see it as such and push you further away. Life lesson for women: Don't ever try to use jealousy as a trick to manipulate a man, because a man worth his salt will bolt as it is a reflection of your character and immaturity... From a man’s perspective do you believe he’s still interested?
HumanMachine Posted December 27, 2017 Posted December 27, 2017 From a man’s perspective do you believe he’s still interested? Did you not read his post?!?!!!!!!????????!!!!!
Emmafive Posted December 27, 2017 Posted December 27, 2017 Did you not read his post?!?!!!!!!????????!!!!! You can still be interested but realize the other person no longer wants you so you have no choice but to move on. Doesn’t necessarily mean a person isn’t interested.
anika99 Posted December 27, 2017 Posted December 27, 2017 You are playing games. Not just with your ex but here as well. I read your first thread from almost two months ago. In this thread you say your ex broke up with you, then a week later he tried to get you back and then you posted a picture of your date on social media. This is completely flipped from what you said in your old thread. In that thread you said you were the one who broke up with him. You were the one who tried to get him back a week later and he was the one who went on a date and posted a photo on social media. So which is it? Which of your stories is true? Also you mentioned in your old thread that your relationship with this guy is long distance. Good grief. All of this drama and game playing for a virtual relationship? Give it up, move on, go out in the world and meet real live in the flesh men. 3
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