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Had a couple of dates with a girl. A girl who finally doesn’t bring up her ex, so that works for me. She always reaches out to me, replies quickly even if I take a couple of hours (I take that long if I’m busy), uses a lot of emojis, laughs at jokes, sends lengthy replies, asks questions, etc.

 

I asked her on a third date, however she was going back to her home to be with her mum for the Christmas week. She lives near me with housemates, but goes back to visit her mum.

 

This was our conversation:

 

Me: Just finished work, busiest day of the year so been juggling customers (not literally, but maybe I could). Hope you have fun :) Was wondering when are you free to get together next week? xx

 

Her: Iv just got in from work too :) we had a Christmas party which was nice! Haha do you have some hulk strength I don’t know about ;) I’m home for a week from this Saturday :/ but I don’t mind driving back up to do something one of the days? Which days are you free and I’ll see if I can move some things around? :) what did you have in mind? Xx

 

Me: Sounds like you had a good time :) Well I do have some super powers I haven’t told you about.. ;) I’m off all day next Thursday so I was thinking we could check out a museum and book a show at the comedy store, as we both like stand up? xx

 

Her: I did although I ate way too much food :) oh really? And what are these super powers may I ask? That sounds lovely! I’ll check family plans when I go home and let you know if that’s ok? What you up to tonight? xx

 

Me: Now that does sound like a good time. Ah you’ll have to wait until next time to find out ;) Alright, let me know when you check your family plans. Just been watching the grand tour and going to go out for a few drinks later. How about you? xx

 

Her: I will do! I’ll know on Sunday so I’ll let you know then! I’ll be free at some point on Thursday I just don’t know which part of the day it will be, if it’s not the evening then maybe we could do breakfast, museum, and maybe watch daddy’s home two as a back up plan? :) that sounds lovely! I’m having a very boring night of packing and cleaning my house before I go home! I have treat myself to a jack daniels though :) xx

 

It’s early afternoon on Sunday and usually she’ll reach out at some point. I will do later if I don’t hear anything. Should I assume she isn’t interested if she doesn’t bring up about meeting Thursday like she said she would? Or should I ask again?

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Had a couple of dates with a girl. A girl who finally doesn’t bring up her ex, so that works for me. She always reaches out to me, replies quickly even if I take a couple of hours (I take that long if I’m busy), uses a lot of emojis, laughs at jokes, sends lengthy replies, asks questions, etc.

 

I asked her on a third date, however she was going back to her home to be with her mum for the Christmas week. She lives near me with housemates, but goes back to visit her mum.

 

This was our conversation:

 

Me: Just finished work, busiest day of the year so been juggling customers (not literally, but maybe I could). Hope you have fun :) Was wondering when are you free to get together next week? xx

 

Her: Iv just got in from work too :) we had a Christmas party which was nice! Haha do you have some hulk strength I don’t know about ;) I’m home for a week from this Saturday :/ but I don’t mind driving back up to do something one of the days? Which days are you free and I’ll see if I can move some things around? :) what did you have in mind? Xx

 

Me: Sounds like you had a good time :) Well I do have some super powers I haven’t told you about.. ;) I’m off all day next Thursday so I was thinking we could check out a museum and book a show at the comedy store, as we both like stand up? xx

 

Her: I did although I ate way too much food :) oh really? And what are these super powers may I ask? That sounds lovely! I’ll check family plans when I go home and let you know if that’s ok? What you up to tonight? xx

 

Me: Now that does sound like a good time. Ah you’ll have to wait until next time to find out ;) Alright, let me know when you check your family plans. Just been watching the grand tour and going to go out for a few drinks later. How about you? xx

 

Her: I will do! I’ll know on Sunday so I’ll let you know then! I’ll be free at some point on Thursday I just don’t know which part of the day it will be, if it’s not the evening then maybe we could do breakfast, museum, and maybe watch daddy’s home two as a back up plan? :) that sounds lovely! I’m having a very boring night of packing and cleaning my house before I go home! I have treat myself to a jack daniels though :) xx

 

It’s early afternoon on Sunday and usually she’ll reach out at some point. I will do later if I don’t hear anything. Should I assume she isn’t interested if she doesn’t bring up about meeting Thursday like she said she would? Or should I ask again?

 

I have no clue in what part of this exchange you got the impression she might not be interested. Be patient; it's the holidays.

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Everybody's schedules are off but packed at the holidays. Everybody gets a pass on their dating schedules to deal with family. You offered a plan, she said she'd get back to you after checking with her family. The ball is in her court. At this point, you can't chase until after January 2.

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I have no clue in what part of this exchange you got the impression she might not be interested. Be patient; it's the holidays.

 

Hey, thank you for your response :)

 

I automatically see “I’ll let you know” and see it as a rejection, I guess going off past experiences. I’m also anticipating her not bringing it up too, even if she might forget. Just wondering if she does forget, is it worth bringing the question up again or will that make me look too eager? Is it something I have to let her bring up again?

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She said she'd get back to you on Thursday. Wait until then.

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Everybody's schedules are off but packed at the holidays. Everybody gets a pass on their dating schedules to deal with family. You offered a plan, she said she'd get back to you after checking with her family. The ball is in her court. At this point, you can't chase until after January 2.

 

So no reaching out and no asking her out again until then? I’ve always had no problem with her initiating contact as she does this everyday. On the odd time, I do too.

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She said she'd get back to you on Thursday. Wait until then.

 

No, no, she said she’ll get back to me on Sunday (today) about our date on Thursday :p So I guess I’ll just remain patient.

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No, no, she said she’ll get back to me on Sunday (today) about our date on Thursday :p So I guess I’ll just remain patient.

 

Holy smokes, it's still Sunday! Relax! If you don't hear from her, assume she's busy with Christmas Eve stuff, text her to wish her a Merry Christmas tomorrow, and when she texts you back to wish you the same, ask her if she knows yet when she's free on Thursday.

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Holy smokes, it's still Sunday! Relax! If you don't hear from her, assume she's busy with Christmas Eve stuff, text her to wish her a Merry Christmas tomorrow, and when she texts you back to wish you the same, ask her if she knows yet when she's free on Thursday.

 

I’ll go with this, thanks guys :)

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I think it's Christmas. She is probably busy right now, enjoying Christmas.

 

If she said she would make time for you next week, believe her. She'll probably get back to you when she has more time. But certainly, a text wishing her a Merry Christmas is a very good idea.

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I have no clue in what part of this exchange you got the impression she might not be interested. Be patient; it's the holidays.

 

I totally agree...

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Dude, short of her sending naked pics, I don’t see how this chick could show more interest. She’s offering to drive back to see you! I’ve had sex with many women who weren’t as excited as this one appears.

 

I totally get where you are coming from (talking about exes, I’ll let you know) but right now she’s sweet on you. Don’t let past flakes ruin this by making you desperate and needy.

 

Just hang back and let her respond. You don’t want to run the risk of being a needy stalker which can happen if you chase too hard in the beginning.

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At no point in this text exchange did I see there was lack of interest. Quite the opposite. She sounds like she is trying to see if she can get back out to see you sometime during her week back home, and it sounds like she'd be doing it only for a day, then go back home (lots of driving for her).

 

It's the holiday and she's probably busy. Text her a Merry Christmas tomorrow, or even tonight. Tell her you hope she's enjoying the family festivities. Tomorrow or Tuesday, you can bring up if she's able to come down on Thursday, which I suspect she will bring up on her own. She already told you Thursday evening/night might not work out, but suggested Thursday morning as an alternative. I think this is good, and you should really be appreciating the time she's taking to drive and juggle around her schedule just for you! Even if Thursday doesn't work out at all and you can't see her until she returns on Saturday (?), this girl is making some effort!

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um, going to chime in with what everyone else is saying: dude she is interested. You are getting caught up in the detail of her reaction time to proposed thursday date as the only indicator of whether she is interested--when everything else shows that she IS!!! plus your reaction time meter is set to anxious--dial it down. It's christmas and she is busy with family. Merry Christmas!

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Okay I guess I was overthinking haha.

 

She text me before and mentioned the buffet my family was having (cool points for her remembering). She hasn’t mentioned about Thursday though. Should I just go with the flow with our conversation and not mention it today, but bring it up tomorrow? (assuming she doesn’t bring it up in our currently conversation)

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Okay I guess I was overthinking haha.

 

She text me before and mentioned the buffet my family was having (cool points for her remembering). She hasn’t mentioned about Thursday though. Should I just go with the flow with our conversation and not mention it today, but bring it up tomorrow? (assuming she doesn’t bring it up in our currently conversation)

 

I would let her bring it up. It she doesn’t by Tuesday then mention it.

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