nme Posted December 24, 2017 Posted December 24, 2017 So I met this girl (25yo) about a month or two ago. Since then, we've met twice for coffee/drinks, since she's really busy with work, friends and all that. She also went to Europe for vacation a few weeks ago and brought some gifts back for me. As the holidays are approaching, she suggested the idea of us going to make our own desserts at this store in downtown. I happily take her up on the offer, but a few days later, she said she's only free after the holidays, around January... And then yesterday, she posted a photo of her with another guy with a caption: "lonely together for Xmas (+ the couple emoji)"...... After browsing some more pics, it seems they've known each other for quite a while, since they're college classmates. Since this came out of nowhere, I'm completely blindsided, as she's never once mentioned she's going out with anyone. Plus all of her daily pics on social media over the past year are of her and her girlfriends. So what does this mean? Is she taken and should I move on?
Flame Aura Posted December 24, 2017 Posted December 24, 2017 Serious? Known her 2 months and haven't asked if she's single? That's a question to ask within 10 minutes of meeting.
d0nnivain Posted December 24, 2017 Posted December 24, 2017 Because the caption said "lonely together" & you have discovered they have known each other for years, I suspect he may be a long term college buddy who she spends time with. There's not enough to conclude they are having sex but you can't rule it out. See what happens after the holidays but one of the 1st things is you need to ask her about him.
Kevinehv Posted December 24, 2017 Posted December 24, 2017 First thing that comes to mind is that he could be some guy friend(zoned), although I do not know what the actual couples emoticon looks like (facebook?). She doesn't know you well enough to spend christmas with you. Still, 2 months is quite a long time when it comes to dating. If she was really interested She would've put more energy into getting to know you.
Poutrew Posted December 24, 2017 Posted December 24, 2017 She doesn't want to spend the holidays with you, yet posts a lonely hearts picture with another man with the caption that they are feeling lonely - she sees you as a friend, that's all. And, not a very important one at that. My thinking is that you should be grateful she got you a few trinkets from Europe when she went there. Also, don't get hung up on her. Go out on some real dates and have a good time, and the more of that you do, the less she will matter to you.
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