Author Jon5150 Posted January 14, 2018 Author Posted January 14, 2018 Ok so this is what may have happened. Assuming this is the message you sent to her to which she did not reply to: so I guess that means I'm drinking beer instead of whiskey on NYE lol. If you sent her the above message and she did not reply does not mean that she is confused or nervous or this or that (in my opinion) What you do need to know is that YES she is attracted to you and YES she does like you BUT what you also need to know is that girls who are involved in online dating are ALSO attracted to other men as well. How it works is as follows: Most (NOT all) girls involved in online dating make a shortlist of men whom they find attractive and with whom they want to have something romantic with and try them out one by one. Which is sensible. What I think is that this girl was busy talking to some other guy/s WHILE she was talking to you. And found him more prospective and wanted to give him a shot or some preference. That is why she did not reply as she was willfully engaging herself in a conversation with some other guy. The other scenario is that she was actually really busy doing something else. My advice to you is that since you have success in online dating, it must mean that you are above average in attractiveness. Use this to your advantage and date as many girls who are willing to date you. Do not waste time on one girl by thinking she is special/unique/shy/confused/beautiful/this/that etc... Some women (I am not saying that this woman is doing this) deliberately act this way: hot/cold/shy/confused in order to keep a guy hooked and questioning himself. In this way the guy remains in doubt and keeps thinking what he did wrong. The bottom line is to stop thinking too much of this girl because you think she is special or beautiful. There are other beautiful special women out there who do not play games. Invest your time to find one of them. It will be worth it. Did you read my last post? She told ne last night she's done with online dating because she met me lol.
preraph Posted January 14, 2018 Posted January 14, 2018 I think she likes you okay and I think you should have at least asked her out for NY, and been a good sport if she had other plans, which I doubt. Listen, for a lot of women, including myself, dating makes them nervous. It just does. I was always nervous on a real date (not too many of those in my generation ) Don't ask her about it or anything. Ignore it so you don't make her feel self-conscious. Pretend you don't notice because saying something would make her feel embarrassed. Just ask her out again, and go do something that keeps you active (bowling or street fair, whatever) so that takes some of the pressure off both of you to keep up steady conversation, which really is a bit of a strain for most people and is part of why we get nervous. I think she likes you. So relax and just take her out.
igotoverit Posted January 14, 2018 Posted January 14, 2018 I don't see how I'm being confusing honestly. I go out with her..treat her like a lady on dates..text her that night to tell her I had a great time and say goodnight..I text her 2-3 days later and "Hey how's your week going...yada yada..lets go out again." Text her a couple days later..hey how's your day...yada yada." Then I see her on the next date..repeat until we really get comfortable with each other and things take off. I pursue respectfully. If they don't reply to a message..I assume they're being flaky and I back off a bit. I'll stay persistent..but I won't beg for their attenttion either. It's like the used car salesman that keeps nagging you to sign off on a car when you barely know anything about the car..and not aure if you want to commit to buying it. Your date sounds like me, she is socially awkward but once you get to know her, I am sure it will change. She probably feels that she's awkward so yes text her this weekend.
preraph Posted January 14, 2018 Posted January 14, 2018 I would advise that it's hard enough to think of things to talk about the first few dates, so don't spend much time texting and when you do text, don't talk about your personal news and stuff but save that for the date. If you say it all in text, what you going to talk about that you haven't already? And keeping up the conversation can get very awkward once you hit that wall.
Boomerang3378 Posted January 14, 2018 Posted January 14, 2018 Did you read my last post? She told ne last night she's done with online dating because she met me lol. I apologize, I did not see your last post. This is really great news then !! Have fun.
igotoverit Posted January 14, 2018 Posted January 14, 2018 Sorry I shouldn't have commented before reading the entire thread. I just finished and you know what your doing. This is a very nervous women who needs time to warm up to you. Definitely keep us posted, I'd be interested to see how this turns out
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