tamir302 Posted December 23, 2017 Posted December 23, 2017 Hi all, I'll appreciate any advice on this one: I'm a member of a Facebook dating/meeting people group (for geeks, ). It's actually not strictly for dating, and there are quite a few of group events like board games meetings and the like. So anyway, a couple of months back I saw pictures from a an event I didn't go to, and I saw this cute girl who was there. So I decided to send her a message (since it's a group intended for meeting I figured it's not too weird). I just told there I think she's cute and I would love to get to know her. She never replied or accepted my message request. Yesterday I did go to a group event, and there she was. We actually talked a bit (though not much one on one), and she's indeed very cute, even in person I have no idea whether she recognised me as the guy who texted her some time back. So, question is: should I text her again? On the one hand, it feels weird and uncofmortable to me; i'm not even sure what to say and how to "undone" my previous text. On the other hand, do I really have someting to lose by trying again? Oh, there is a possibility we'll meet again in other events, though no idea when that will be, but probably not in the near future. Thanks for any advice, T.
SevenCity Posted December 23, 2017 Posted December 23, 2017 If she liked you she would have messaged you back (assuming she saw the message). I would not send another. See her in person again and ask her out. You’ll have your answer pretty quickly. In the future, don’t say she’s cute. She prob gets that a lot and a lot of women feel objectified when you say stuff like that (unless they are not attractive then they tend to like it if they find you attractive). Bring up something in common from the group and try to get to know her as a person. Then be direct with a time and place, not “maybe sometime”. 3
Grey40 Posted December 23, 2017 Posted December 23, 2017 Random messaging out of the blue via social media I’ve found never works unless you’ve already met before or know of each other through either mutual friends or similar social scene/circle. Otherwise it’s just too random for them. If and when you do send those messages, I agree it’s best to leave out the “you’re cute” part, by asking them out they pretty much already know you think that. When I’ve had success I usually send something like “hey was wondering if you’d like to go out for some drinks sometime and get to know each other, here’s my number xxx-xxxx”. If they have any interest at All, they will give you some type of reply. Some will reply and say “sorry I’m seeing someone etc” but usually if you know them a little bit, they will give some kind of response. If they don’t, either they didn’t see the message or have 0 interest. My advice? Keep going to those events and hope she shows up one time. Then talk to her in person—-don’t mention the message you sent or anything, pretend like it never happened.
smackie9 Posted December 23, 2017 Posted December 23, 2017 If she was really interested she would have made an effort to talk to you a lot more one on one....she didn't so don't bother. Remember an interested girl goes out of her way to get your attention. They don't like to pass up an opportunity to be with a guy they really like. Best of luck tho Tip: confidence wins the girl....so next time you see her put your big boy pants on.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 23, 2017 Posted December 23, 2017 Well, it's possible she didn't see the message because you're not friends. Facebook has changed things so it's usually obvious if you receive a message from someone you don't know, but if she never uses an actual computer for Facebook and doesn't have Messenger installed on her phone, she might not have seen it. You said she never accepted the message request, which leads me to believe she never read it.
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