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Who would you choose, Guy A or Guy B?

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Dazedandlost

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Guy A- you have been dating him for 1.5 years

You are in love with him

He spoils you more then anyone else would and buys you things you don't need

He surprises you and is always there for you when he can be

He loves you back just as much if not more

He accepts all of you

You both have a lot in common

You hate his job cause you don't get to see him as much as you like even tho its good money for him

He brushed all your problems under the rug for to long and never wants to talk about them and it bothers you

He interrupts you sometimes even if he doesn't mean to

You have been unhappy for a while and he didn't notice till you told him

You once wanted a future with and once thought he was the one

He changing to much to late and you cant decide if hes doing it for the right reasons

Hes doing everything he can to not loose you

He tells you your the most important person in life

He satisfies your needs very well as a woman.

You have been threw so much so many fights and arguments but still came out on the right side.

He said if you left him he would wait and would be open to dating again cause you were that special

you said you would be open if you realized you made a mistake and you would try again.

Hes done things you cant picture anyone else doing for you

Hes made scarifies you don't even know about

 

 

Guy B- you haven't dated much and hes new and you caught feelings for him

He is very smart and likes you back with strong feelings

He can be there when guy A cant be and you like that.

Hes very easy going and easy to talk to

He cant spoil you like guy A

The future is unsure with him and your not sure if he will like all of you

He can be more impatience then guy A

He goes to church and is in your bible study and guy A dose not go to church and that's important to you

Hes different then guy A some parts in a good way some in a bad way

you told him you wouldn't get straight into a relationship with him cause you would need time to grieve the loss of guy A

He lives 5 minutes away where as guy A lives 1 hour away

 

 

 

 

So who would you choose? be honest

CautiouslyOptimistic Established Member

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Sounds like you're actually IN a relationship with A, so this is a no brainer. A.

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divegrl Established Member

divegrl

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Neither. You need some time alone to figure out what your core values and priorities are.

 

Choose Yourself!!! :)

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BaileyB Established Member

BaileyB

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Well that depends, what is most important to you in a relationship?

rightondude Established Member

rightondude

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I honestly think you will end up with guy B for awhile and then end up wishing you'd stayed with guy A. Which sounds OK since apparently he's fine with you leaving and then coming back. What the hell is that..?

BaileyB Established Member

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Neither. You need some time alone to figure out what your core values and priorities are.

 

This! What is important to YOU, OP?

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BaileyB Established Member

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And, since when is it all about what they bring to you in a relationship?

 

Your "evaluation" of both men seems rather self centred and entitled. What do you have to offer in return?

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Mrin Established Member

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Neither. You need to work on yourself

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AndreaRiley Member

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I think every girl would want to choose Guy A. But, I think it is not important to categorize. It doesn't matter what type of a guy you would want to go out with. As long as you know are both happy and contented with each other.

LoverOfDance Established Member

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@dazedandconfused You should have posted this under your former thread in the break up section. Apparently ppl don't even realize that you're actually GUY A.

 

I had initially said you shouldn't give up on your relationship but to be honest, you're beginning to sound desperate. Sorry if I sound rude, I don't mean to be. I think the desperation is not good at all. I know it's really tough but maybe you need to be by yourself for a while. Take time to heal from this.

 

I know you think you may never find another like this girl and you're right - it will be difficult to find another like her. You have to believe that you will find someone even better than her one day. I think you need to let this one go. It's not healthy for you and if you ask me, your emotional, mental and physical health come first.

BaileyB Established Member

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@dazedandconfused You should have posted this under your former thread in the break up section. Apparently ppl don't even realize that you're actually GUY A.

 

I know it's really tough but maybe you need to be by yourself for a while. Take time to heal from this.

 

You have to believe that you will find someone even better than her one day. I think you need to let this one go.

 

If that is the case, I hope you don't wait for her and take her back because nobody is that special.

 

It does sound like you need some time on your own to heal from this. I hope you take that time and gain a better perspective. Best wishes.

rightondude Established Member

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@dazedandconfused You should have posted this under your former thread in the break up section. Apparently ppl don't even realize that you're actually GUY A.

 

 

well, that certainly changes things. I was wondering how the girl would know he was "sacrificing things without her even knowing it"

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sdraw108 Established Member

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You have been unhappy for a while and he didn't notice till you told him

 

This particular one is a negative for the girl too. Relationships require communication. It's frustrating dating someone who won't tell you things because they expected you to read their mind.

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@dazedandconfused You should have posted this under your former thread in the break up section. Apparently ppl don't even realize that you're actually GUY A.

 

OP is Dazedandlost.

Simple Logic Established Member

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You sound like quite the princess. Hopefully guy A figures it cut you loose.

mortensorchid Established Member

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A. You are living in a fantasy world about B. If they are real people that is.

LoverOfDance Established Member

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@filtercoffee My mistake. Although he is still the same OP who wrote the thread in the break up section concerning his gf who is conflicted about whether or not to choose him over a guy she had previously met and had feelings for before him. Her feelings for the other guy went away after she met OP but came back again when she started feeling neglected by him.

 

I guess she's still trying to decide whether to choose him (OP aka GUY A) or the other guy/GUY B.

FilterCoffee Established Member

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@filtercoffee My mistake. Although he is still the same OP who wrote the thread in the break up section concerning his gf who is conflicted about whether or not to choose him over a guy she had previously met and had feelings for before him. Her feelings for the other guy went away after she met OP but came back again when she started feeling neglected by him.

 

I guess she's still trying to decide whether to choose him (OP aka GUY A) or the other guy/GUY B.

 

I’m so dazed and confused/lost lol

morrowrd Established Member

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I don't understand why guy B is even in the picture. According to your "list" the two most important things are; #1 You are in love with him #2 He loves you back just as much if not more.

 

So many people throw that word love around without even thinking about what they're saying. When two people are in love, all they see are each other. There is unquestionable faithfulness, and all the motives are right. When you're in love, the relationship is uncomplicated, it's easy.

 

So my question to you is, are you REALLY in love with guy A? I don't think you are, otherwise you wouldn't be in here with this scale in your hand, weighing in on both guys, and asking us how we feel. You'd know. People who have never been in love before, will recognize love when it happens. You won't have to ask anyone questions like this.

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GemmaUK Established Member

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I wouldn't choose either at this point but I would most definitely make sure that I didn't get back with guy A.

LoverOfDance Established Member

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The OP is GUY A people ! He is not the girl, he is GUY A.

GemmaUK Established Member

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The OP is GUY A people ! He is not the girl, he is GUY A.

 

I knew that before posting.

It was obvious to me from the first post, prior to it being stated.

It doesn't make any difference to my opinion.

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