fred123 Posted December 22, 2017 Posted December 22, 2017 i asked a girl when she is free. she never replies but replies to other messages. i cant keep asking her to do stuff. then i go a bit cold and dont wanna invest so much. she then had a go at me for being cold to her. how do i win?!
SandyToes Posted December 22, 2017 Posted December 22, 2017 Ask her straight up - What are we doing here? I am looking for a friend, I am looking for a friend with benefits, I am looking for a relationship, commitment, etc. Tell her you like you her and you want to try something other then friendship....
alphamale Posted December 22, 2017 Posted December 22, 2017 how do i win?! you move on to the next girl 3
Gaeta Posted December 22, 2017 Posted December 22, 2017 Is it possible she did not get that one text? I would not ask her when she is free I would simply ask her out: About a movie Saturday evening? she will say yes or no.
Art_Critic Posted December 22, 2017 Posted December 22, 2017 It's a trap... women are never free If a woman doesn't offer up a day/time after she turns a guy down then it's time to move on from her to someone else.. they call that a hint 2
alphamale Posted December 22, 2017 Posted December 22, 2017 Is it possible she did not get that one text? highly unlikely 1
SpinScratch Posted December 22, 2017 Posted December 22, 2017 She has time. She either: A) is nervous about meeting you B) just wants someone to text. Find out which one.
d0nnivain Posted December 22, 2017 Posted December 22, 2017 With this girl you throw it back at her. Point blank tell her you have asked when she is free but she never is. If she wants you to warm up, she has to find time for you. In general don't ask someone when they are free as your opening Q. Invite them to do something specific: Would you like to get coffee with me on Wednesday at 7 pm. at the little place on Main Street? If that doesn't work, you then ask the person to pick another night that works better for them. If they can't or won't do that, you take the hint that they don't like you & you do something / anything else with another person. 1
GorillaTheater Posted December 22, 2017 Posted December 22, 2017 Have you actually asked her to DO something specific, or are you just asking her when she's free? Just doing the latter seems like bad tactics to me.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 22, 2017 Posted December 22, 2017 "When are you free?" is kinda weak. Ask instead, "Would you like to go out for dinner Friday night?" If she's busy, she should offer a different day and time. If not, she's not interested, so move on. 4
act00 Posted December 22, 2017 Posted December 22, 2017 If you're going to ask her when she's free, include a plan. "Are you free this weekend? I'd like to take you..." It would be better if you asked her if she would like to go out/meet for drinks on a specific day and specific time. Hopefully you have a general idea what kind of schedule she keeps, and choose a day that you expect her to be free. If she's not (and keep in mind, it's the holidays, which can be busy), if she's interested, she'll offer an alternate day. I do agree you can explain to her (nicely) that you've asked her several times when she's free with no response, but I think defining an activity and general time would be a better start, rather than expecting her to give you an itinerary.
Assassino Posted December 23, 2017 Posted December 23, 2017 If she avoids the date question and keeps talking I'd just say that you're not looking for a penpal and want to get to know someone in person. 1
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