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Chilli Established Member

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Been wondering about this for awhile.

 

Have you ever had a serious relationship or marriage meeting him or her in a pub , bar , clubs, whatever ?

 

Not that l do much of it these days , use to before l was married, but finding myself single again l often feel like l should be out pubbing it up.

But when l think back l never met anyone lasting ever at pubs back in the day anyway.

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snowboy91 Established Member

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I met my partner of 5 years on a walk to the pub on uni night. Uni life isn't exactly real life though.

 

It's possible but unlikely. If you randomly hook up with someone and your personalities mesh, then it's possible things may progress further. I guess it only means you can have fun in the meantime.

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I'll turn this around, if people aren't meeting people at clubs and bars where exactly are they meeting them?

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I've met a lot of people to have a good chat or share a laugh with. But no, none of my actual relationships started there. The bar scene is often exactly what it seems to be, IMHO.

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I met my ex-H in a bar, but Im not sure if it counts because I was waiting tables there. I gave him the "don't I know you from somewhere?" line, which he thought was a line, but it wasn't, he just looked very much like his brother who I knew.

 

Met my current and most awesome boyfriend in a parkinglot, so I guess I'd have to recommend that. ☺

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One of my best friends met his woman at a bar. It was a one night stand that unexpectedly turned into more (he had several one night stands at bars, so I'm not sure why this one took off as opposed to the others).

 

So it does happen, though I wouldn't be inclined to think that most people who regular bars would be going to look for something serious.

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I have. Most were on the shorter end, six months or a year, and I married one (now divorced). It's possible, but bars are a meat market, and you'll have to go through a lot of frogs, a lot of men seeking ONS and such.

 

Personally, the bar scene isn't my thing anymore, and I wouldn't choose a bar to meet men, the same way I won't join the rock climbing club or any interest that is not my interest. If you enjoy karaoke or something, then yeah, go hit the bars, but if you meet someone doing an interest that is not your own, it's going to lead to problems later - like every weekend he wants to hit the bars, and you'd rather see a movie or go to the Cultural Festival.

 

It won't hurt to go out with some friends on occasion, have some fun, but if the bars aren't your thing, it wouldn't be my first choice on meeting available men.

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It's still better than online. Also, it depends on the type of bar/pub. The ones where people are dressed up looking for casual sex, no. There is another kind of pub where the locals go, and you can have a good dinner there too. Usually people at those pubs either live or work nearby. Those are good places to meet people.

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I met my ex wife in a bar. Of course, this was 1982! Not sure what the scene is now!:p

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MJJean Established Member

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I met my DH at a goth club/bar in the fall of 1999.

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travelbug1996 Established Member

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I met my ex husband in a bar. We stayed together a total of 8 years. We had sex on the first night as well.

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I met my third most significant and third longest sexual relationship partner at a pub while we were both somewhat inebriated.

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I did when I was younger in my 20s. Met my gf's and my wife in clubs. The relationships developed from there. That was way back in the early 90s. Maybe bars have changed since then for younger people.

 

I dont go to clubs very much anymore but I do go to bars and concerts. I dont specifically go to meet people -- just hang out with friends and have a good time.

 

FWIW.. I get the impression big music festivals are the place to meet like minded people these days. At least you will know you have a taste in music in common.

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jjgitties Established Member

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Met my current and most awesome boyfriend in a parkinglot, so I guess I'd have to recommend that. ☺

 

Wow. How the hell do you meet and strike up a conversation in a parking lot?

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I met my ex wife in a bar. We had what I thought was a one-night stand, then met again like a year later and started dating. We were together for about 10 years after that.

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I have never met anyone at a bar I had any kind of relationship with, one night stand or otherwise. I don't think I've ever even kissed anyone I met while out at a bar. I have never actually gone out to a bar to meet people. I'm usually already on a date or with friends to just have fun.

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It's been a few years, but I used to have great luck at the beach. Met my wife there, in fact. Met some interesting characters at bars and clubs, but no dating prospects to speak of.

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Met my wife at a bar...In Mexico no less. lol

 

Long story so I will keep it short...I was "ditched" if you will in a bar in Mexico near the border (shady beyond a doubt) by friends that I worked with.

 

I ended up seeing her(my wife) near the entrance getting ready to leave. I recognized her from the supermarket where we live and was like...Okay, one chance to charm her and get a ride back to our town in the USA! lol

 

We dated on and off for 7 years. Then got married over 12 years ago.

So...It does happen. YMMV;)

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I met my husband in a bar. We have been married 9+ years & together for 11.

 

 

One of my friends met her BF in a bar; they have been together for 17 years, living together for 14.

 

 

My parents met in bar. They were married for 45 years until my mom died.

 

 

The friend who met her BF in a bar, her parents met in a bar & have been married for 56 years.

 

 

Another friend met her husband in a bar; she was tending it & he's a beer salesman. They have been married for 18+ years & have 3 great kids.

 

 

My college roommate met her husband in a bar; they have been married for 26 years; will be 27 in February.

 

 

It's not the location. It's the person.

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jjgitties Established Member

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It's not the location. It's the person.

 

This! ^^^

 

If you are not a meat market type of person, you probably don't want to put all your eggs in the basket of meeting someone in a meat market type of bar. I am a big believer you might meet other people with common interests and views on life at the kinds of places you like to go to. But the trick is, you do need to go out and get out and talk to people.

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Chilli Established Member

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Wow. How the hell do you meet and strike up a conversation in a parking lot?

 

 

Well, it's funny.

When l use to pub it up back when, it was actually closing time and everyone walking about outside later where everything started to happen. All the parties or women usually all started happening from there..

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Chilli Established Member

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I met my husband in a bar. We have been married 9+ years & together for 11.

 

 

One of my friends met her BF in a bar; they have been together for 17 years, living together for 14.

 

 

My parents met in bar. They were married for 45 years until my mom died.

 

 

The friend who met her BF in a bar, her parents met in a bar & have been married for 56 years.

 

 

Another friend met her husband in a bar; she was tending it & he's a beer salesman. They have been married for 18+ years & have 3 great kids.

 

 

My college roommate met her husband in a bar; they have been married for 26 years; will be 27 in February.

 

 

It's not the location. It's the person.

 

Shyt , that's quite a string of meetings there.

They ya go eh , anything can happen.

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People always say that you can't meet quality people in a bar. Then again I would tell others you can't meet quality people online either because it's a digital version of a bar when you think about it. So I would say no.

 

I have said this before but if I had an all purpose answer to this or any other question, I would tell you the answer. But I don't have it. So ... We keep doing what we have been doing in the hopes that someday, somehow it too can happen to you.

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