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Rebound after 8 years??

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So me and my ex had been together for 8 years... on and off through college and what not. We lived together the last two years... rented a home together and everything. This was probably my mistake but it felt right. We were always inseparable. The last 6 months I basically brought up marriage and getting engaged all the time. He was always so hott and cold with it. Some days he would tell me he wanted to marry me and other days he would say he wasn't ready. It was so wishy washy. I became very unhappy and insecure with our relationship. This all boils down to a fight we had one night where he said he was through . He said he loved me but wasn't in love anymore. Said he didn't want to get married and so I accepted it. We broke up and I moved my stuff out. We picked out a home we were going to buy and a couple weeks after we broke up he went and bought the home by himself. He was sure that he didn't want to be together. So I tried moving on , going on dates etc. We met up several times within a couple months of being broken up . Went to dinner, hooked up, and he even texted my family saying he missed them. Also texted me of pics of us saying he missed me. We broke up beginning of August and this all happened by October. By the end of October he brought a new girl to meet his sister . Now they have been talking since the end of October. She basically lives at the house I picked out...... They aren't in a official relationship and he has only posted one photo of her on his Snapchat since.... ( I only know Bc a friend told me) he has me blocked on everything including my phone #. He will unblock me then block me. I have no went 30 days of no contact yet. I am going on 3 weeks now so I am almost there. Since we have broken up we were talking every couple weeks. Will the NC make him miss me?? Also ... this girl is very easy and most of the town has been with her. What does he see in her?? Do I just sit back?

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No you don’t sit back, you pick yourself up and move on. Focus on yourself not your ex and his partner, he is in a new relationship and he’s not thinking about you.

 

Stay strong with NC, don’t break it!

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NC will not make him miss you. That is not the point of NC. The function of NC is to help you get over him & heal. If you chase after him you lose your self respect too.

 

 

For him the relationship ran it's course. He didn't want to marry you. He probably would have muddled along continuing to sleep with you & being wishy washy about marriage but he does not see you as part of his future.

 

He probably misses you & your family in the sense that you were together for 8 years, you are familiar & it's different without out. That does not mean he wants you back.

 

 

The biggest thing this other woman has going for her in his eyes, is she's not you.

 

 

You have to stay NC. He's saving you from yourself by blocking you. Tell whoever told you about his Snapchat that you don't want to know.

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