Girls am I that ugly?

[Simpan27]

Hello

I am a 27 year old male been single all my life never got laid or got any attention from women. I live in Sweden btw. I never get any matches on tinder. So the question is am I that ugly?

 

Here is two pictures of me

Edited December 22, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Kristine]

You are not ugly but you do have a kind of a famine look to your face. Sorry if I offended you.

[d0nnivain]

It's a gender perception thing. Perhaps it's the angle, your haircut or the neckline on your shirt but you look feminine in that picture. You have a nice face, looks kind & honest & great skin.

[Calmandfocused]

You are not ugly in the slightest but I agree with the above poster that your looks are somewhat effeminate. You remind me a little of my friend who is a boyish lesbian. But maybe it's not your best photo?

 

My advice. Masculine yourself up a bit. Get some beef on you perhaps, grow some facial hair and whilst your hair is lovely you could maybe think about a more masculine style.

 

I mean no disrespect, I'm just trying to help. I repeat, you are in no way ugly. In fact you're very pleasant looking. If you ramped up the masculinity, you'd ramp up your sexiness.

 

Hope that helps x

[heartbrokenlady]

Yep. You need better photographs.

[caveman621]

Yep. It's perception by other people, but yep, you like feminine in the pic.

[1fish2fish]

Far from ugly!

 

I think a different haircut would suit you better. Longish hair on top and in front makes you look rather boyish.

 

I just re-read that you're 27 yo. I would have guessed 18 from this pic.

[Simpan27]

Far from ugly!

 

I think a different haircut would suit you better. Longish hair on top and in front makes you look rather boyish.

 

I just re-read that you're 27 yo. I would have guessed 18 from this pic.

 

I cannot change my face. I just had a haircut i had longer hair before.

[GemmaUK]

I could only see the first pic.

 

You don't have a feminine face in my opinion but the longer hair makes you look like you might not be straight.

Dress too sharply with that and you could appear gay.

 

Shorter hair and a more casual look and yeah, you look a little young but that's not a bad thing at all. You will likely always look a bit younger than you are.

You don't have a baby face - maybe a 23/24 yo face.

 

You're not at all ugly, you're good looking.

[jimbo]

Hair cut and shave will go a long way. Also, much depends on your threads.

 

[jjgitties]

You don't look ugly. You also don't look female. You look and dress European. Don't forget lots of peeps on here are north American.

 

What you may want to focus on or figure out is why you can't talk to women and chat them up. The point of dates is to talk to people and find someone who might be compatible with to get into a relationship with. It will never happen if you can figure out how to talk to people you don't know well and make them feel comfortable.

[kiss_andmakeup]

You are not ugly. But to me you look very young (I am only a couple of years older than you). I would suggest maybe a shorter haircut and you could try to grow out your facial hair a little bit. You have great skin!

[Michelle ma Belle]

I will agree with those who said you're not ugly but you do have a feminine look to you.

 

Some girls are into that while others are not.

 

Is this the only pic you're using on dating sites?

 

How tall are you btw?

[Simpan27]

I will agree with those who said you're not ugly but you do have a feminine look to you.

 

Some girls are into that while others are not.

 

Is this the only pic you're using on dating sites?

 

How tall are you btw?

 

I have another pic too. I am 5,9 feet

[Michelle ma Belle]

I have another pic too. I am 5,9 feet

 

If whatever pics you have up aren't working for you, take new ones and do something different.

 

Unlike the member who said shave, I would encourage you to do the opposite. Growing a beard or showing some facial hair that is well manicured might make you look for masculine.

 

I'd also swap your low cut tee (again too metrosexual) for something more masculine or at least neutral.

 

Better angle shot would also help. Looking UP at the camera is not a great shot, particularly with men.

 

The one pic we can see makes you look short. 5'9" isn't exactly tall for a guy but it's not horrible either. The angle of the one pic along with the outfit you're wearing makes you look petite. Combine that with your feminine looks, and that may be why you're not having much luck :/

 

Good luck.

Edited December 21, 2017 by Michelle ma Belle

[basil67]

I'm going to leave the photos alone and address other issues which may hold you back.

 

First of all, the language you use (getting laid/getting attention) is jarring to a woman. I wonder if you're so blunt in person. It seems to be more about what you can get from a woman vs making a connection with a woman. That said, I know English is your second language, so if you simply made a poor translation, ignore what I just said.

 

Do you connect with men and have a solid group of mates? Is your social group mixed gender? If there are women in your social group, how well do you connect with them? Can you talk with them easily?

 

Do you *like* women in general? May seem like an odd question, but an appreciation of the opposite sex is the first step in making a connection. Whereas people who view the opposite sex with cynicism or distrust will get poor results when trying to connect.

[jjgitties]

Growing a beard or showing some facial hair that is well manicured might make you look for masculine.

 

And OP, you got to watch where that advice is coming from. Michelle from my neck of the woods and the current trends here is the Paul Bunyan look.

 

https://i.pinimg.com/originals/f8/be/c1/f8bec13130101edfa1a481dccdf6097d.jpg

 

https://i.pinimg.com/736x/30/58/f6/3058f6c22c551988a8629e06d2171b11--paul-bunyan-tattoo-ideas.jpg

 

 

I dont mind.. I get to be lazy and not shave, but I think its a look that doesnt fit all.

[basil67]

One comment on the photos you use. Use at least one photo that shows you doing something. Selfies say nothing about who you are.

[healing light]

I agree that this photo is not at the best angle--it makes you look younger and smaller than I am sure you are. I would guess were about 20, around 120 lbs, and not taller than 5'6" or so from this pic. You seem strained taking the picture rather than happy and relaxed, and it has my eye following the room instead of your face.

 

I would use a different, straight on picture, preferably taken by someone else for a dating profile. I would only grow a beard or goatee if you can actually grow a decent one. Patchy peach fuzz that isn't evenly distributed around the face would make you seem younger to me.

 

Best of luck!

[Michelle ma Belle]

I didn't tell him to look like a lumberjack. I simply suggested he consider some facial hair and even said "well manicured".

 

The best way for a guy to dispense with the feminine features is to grow in some facial hair. If he can't, that's fine. If he doesn't want to, that's fine too.

Edited December 22, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Lorenza]

You're neither ugly nor feminine. Just get a picture that doesn't look like you took it with a potatoe and you're fine.

[LeaGreenLad88]

Your fine as you are mate. Don't let anyone tell u otherwise.. I do however agree with those saying to use a slightly better picture, and potentially not a selfie.

 

Don't worry too much about thr height thing, I'm a short guy at 5ft5. And tbh I hadn't ever really had an issue getting attention off the fairer sex..But anyway your about 5 inches taller so that's no issue anyway lol.

 

Do.u find it is easy to interact with girls outside of dating? Is there anyone you like in work? Or in say an extra curricular activity that you do? Gym? Do you have your eye on a lady atm?

[elaine567]

I have another pic too. I am 5,9 feet

 

In that pic (the only one that I can view) you do not look 5'9", you look a lot smaller, you also look very narrow in the shoulders. and I agree with others, I know there is some stubble there but if someone had told me you were a girl, a lesbian maybe, I would have bought that.

I also think the pic looks like it is taken in a bedroom perhaps a small space anyway and it also looks a bit feminine and maybe as a 27yo man of the world you need to stay away from that small feminine vibe.

I am not saying you can rock an ultra macho look but you need look a bit more masculine.

 

YOU are actually good looking, you just need a bit of tweaking

[1fish2fish]

I cannot change my face. I just had a haircut i had longer hair before.

 

Nor should you want to change your face! It's the hair making you look boyish. Go even shorter than it is now and post new pics.