LeaGreenLad88 Posted December 20, 2017 Posted December 20, 2017 Hey folks... Not posted on here in a while.. So hi first of all..Here goes... On Saturday evening I had been out after work.for a few drinks to kick back after a laborious and tough 8 hour shift..my office manager and I had been joking about having a drink later, during the day because she occasionally drinks near to were I live... By chance (or was it?) I bumped into her in a bar/pub in thr evening... her and her friend actually.. So myself and my friend decided to gohave a fee drinks with them...But with it being Saturday, it esculated a touch. And we got pretty pissed. My pal ends up heading home... and I end up back in my boss's flat with her.. Now I should point out this isn't my main source of income, just a bit of additional clerical work I do from time to time to help pay the bills. Lol Anyway, now I also stress the point that aside from a little good night kiss and a cuddle there was absolutely nothing of any note that happened romantically, certainly no sex. So what's the big issue you may ask?? Well basically I really do get on with the lady in question, she's cool and a sweet girl who has always have got on with as a friend.. But she's very much a career driven person and I know she isn't always well liked amongst some of the staff. Not that it's any of my business. We're basically at two very different stages, she is desperately seeking romance and a relationship (she's mentioned this before to me).. feels bit lonely, well apart from her cats and her flat mate of course lol. Ever since the weekend we've been texting, but I have been done so in a slightly more friendly nature as opposed to direct flirting and compliments etc, and have even said in 2 or 3 of my messages that I am really content and happy as i am, being single for the time being. We basically got drunk and went back to her place, but the inevitable thankfully didn't happen in this instance. And since then I have been polite and have responded with messages, but no hint of real interest romantically or sexually, but I am not sure she feels the same, even despite me saying I am happily single for thr time being. But she's a real sweet girl. And I have a lot of time for her as a person, and don't want to cause any issues in our work place or mixed messages to her. thankfully I'm not in till thr end of next week. Ps I am flattered btw, and she's a lovely lady..But it was drink fuelled, and otherwise none of this would have happened..I have been quite Frank and honest about were I am at currently. I was talking to a girl from a distance away (off internet) and that seems to have broken down recently and I just don't know were I want to be atm, certainly not in a relationship. I've got two holidays coming up mid Jan and one in March too. I was just curious if anyone else has had a similar scenario with somebody they work with, or that they are wanting to be friends but nothing more intimate, yet the other person doesn't seem to want to give up the idea! Thanks, Jay X
No_Go Posted December 21, 2017 Posted December 21, 2017 Reading this... I just thank God i don’t drink Um act like nothing happened and move on:)
Author LeaGreenLad88 Posted December 21, 2017 Author Posted December 21, 2017 Yeah I know...It's a tough one...I want to be cool with her. But not hurt her feelings or give her mixed messages.. But so far I don't think I have done.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 21, 2017 Posted December 21, 2017 Yeah I know...It's a tough one...I want to be cool with her. But not hurt her feelings or give her mixed messages.. But so far I don't think I have done. I think you have sent mixed messages, but you also have an easy out - she's your boss and you don't think it's wise for your sober self to go there.
rightondude Posted December 21, 2017 Posted December 21, 2017 I say hit it. Should make for some good sex. You actually have the power in this situation as a subordinate; she'll have to be careful about it causing issues in the workplace as she has a lot more to lose than you do. Sounds like you kinda like her too. If it's great I'm pretty sure you'll "find the time" for furthering the relationship.
Author LeaGreenLad88 Posted December 21, 2017 Author Posted December 21, 2017 I say hit it. Should make for some good sex. You actually have the power in this situation as a subordinate; she'll have to be careful about it causing issues in the workplace as she has a lot more to lose than you do. Sounds like you kinda like her too. If it's great I'm pretty sure you'll "find the time" for furthering the relationship. Yeah I think your right...But part of me thinks that even if we did that, nd kept it very low key thag it would possibly not end well.
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