justcallmesnug Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by HokeyReligions my husband had already told me that he wouldn't blame me if I did have an affair and that he just didn't want to know about it---basically giving me the go-ahead. Good for you for not giving in. I wish my MM's W would say what your husband said.
BoatingBabe Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 "what wife?" "she's not there anymore" "we only married for convenience, I was young and stupid and in the army and lonely" "I'm your future man" "you're my type, someone like her could never be my type"
BoatingBabe Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Originally posted by newbby i did not realise the same lines were used by practically every mm. Isn't that something? this site is great for recognizing the snake....It has helped me so much in fighting off MM in my life.
guest Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Originally posted by newbby i just thought it might be helpful for some ow to hear similar lines that their mm fed them. lines that were later discovered to be untrue. [bold]"it's okay baby, she'll never even know"[/bold] Like that should make a difference!
califlorgian Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 "I have never been in an honest relationship. I could just never do it. You are the only person I have ever truly wanted an honest relationship with." "You are, without a doubt, the most incredible lover imaginable, seriously!" "I have never lied to you." "My wife feels like she pressured me into getting married.... and I think she really did." "I have never felt this way about anyone." "I do not want to hold you back from anything in life. If you can't wait for me, I understand." "We ARE getting divorced, I just don't know when it will be." (there were also several "promises" that it was this week... no, next week.... next month....etc etc...." "I can't leave my little girl. I am only staying for her." "We sleep in seperate rooms." "We haven't had sex since you and I started seeing each other." then when his wife told me they had just made love the other night (a while back) he said "All I did was use toys on her and I received oral... and that's the only time we have done anything." "I know I will not be married much longer. I can't say how long because it has to be a mutual divorce." "I don't expect or even think you will wait for me." "I know in my heart I will never feel for anyone the way I do when I just look at you." "I will think about you every day for the rest of my life." "I never misled you" "I will always love you." There's tons more. A lot have been posted previously by others. He says he is not like other men... of course. He is very different from any other guy and not to categorize him with other married men that have affairs.... blah blah blah blah. *sigh* I dont know.....
califlorgian Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 What I love the most is when he always says "Just be patient... all you have to do is have patience."
ReluctantRomeo Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Originally posted by califlorgian What I love the most is when he always says "Just be patient... all you have to do is have patience." So my question is, why do you fall for these lines?
Author newbby Posted August 25, 2005 Author Posted August 25, 2005 i think we fall for it because theres a combination of really far fetched lies and also emotion and huge amounts of risk to the marriage they are in (so how much do they care about it). we see the emotion and feelings for us and we see the risk taking and we hear these words and it doesnt make sense, some things you know are not true, but the combination of all of it together is confusing.
ReluctantRomeo Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Originally posted by newbby some things you know are not true, but the combination of all of it together is confusing. Fair enough. It seems sad somehow.
lynnered Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Originally posted by califlorgian What I love the most is when he always says "Just be patient... all you have to do is have patience." I LOVE THIS ONE !! then they act like u havent been patient WTF mine left &now on top of patient , i have to be understanding (like i havent for 4 years 2 months) because"Sorry but this b**** is threatening my job and my life and i am not myself now i am so worried but we talk later because W is acting psyco so now its worst then when he was staying there because hes paranoind about being followed, heres some more actull quotes !! "Thanks as always you always treat me good and i treat you like S**" "Bye til later baby thanks again as usual you come through and i never do bye" "You have always been there for me and i never there for you when you need me" (ok so why do u keep doing it?) "So please and bear with me" like i havent been?
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