I thought she was over me.

[LightNecro]

Hi! My ex girlfriend (we dated 5 years in our early twenties) posted something about me recently which has been kind of confusing. We ended on pretty bad terms and she eventually cut off all ties with me except on FB. We haven't talked for a long time but I'm guessing she kept me around on social media to show me how happy she is in a new relationship.

 

About a couple days ago she posted this letter about me which apppeared on my newsfeed. Long story short, she goes into details about our relationship about how she missed us, and how she wishes she could have me again, and feels sorry about all the bad stuff that happend. This all sounds dandy, but a couple hours later, she posts a picture of her current boyfriend, and thanks him for encouraging her to write about "what hurts."

 

Honestly, in the time away from her, I've lost most of my interest her. I've made the decision to pursue my goals and new hobbies, and I've even dated a few women before reaching the decision that I want to be single to focus on grad school. This is probably nothing, but I think she's gotten into my head a little bit. I just want to know why she posted that, and if it's so personal about "her hurt" why she would feel the need to make it public.

[alphamale]

she's just ****ing with your mind

[Young mind]

Hi! My ex girlfriend (we dated 5 years in our early twenties) posted something about me recently which has been kind of confusing. We ended on pretty bad terms and she eventually cut off all ties with me except on FB. We haven't talked for a long time but I'm guessing she kept me around on social media to show me how happy she is in a new relationship.

 

About a couple days ago she posted this letter about me which apppeared on my newsfeed. Long story short, she goes into details about our relationship about how she missed us, and how she wishes she could have me again, and feels sorry about all the bad stuff that happend. This all sounds dandy, but a couple hours later, she posts a picture of her current boyfriend, and thanks him for encouraging her to write about "what hurts."

 

Honestly, in the time away from her, I've lost most of my interest her. I've made the decision to pursue my goals and new hobbies, and I've even dated a few women before reaching the decision that I want to be single to focus on grad school. This is probably nothing, but I think she's gotten into my head a little bit. I just want to know why she posted that, and if it's so personal about "her hurt" why she would feel the need to make it public.

Dumpers regret?, it happens all the time, when she leaves thinking she’s got a better deal but really isn’t .

It’s wonderful to have first hand experience about this and you can truly see the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

You gotta wait for it, you’ve moved on and it’s normal to lose interest after a long time especially when you tried to win her back and she still cut it off.

It might just be guilt and she just wants to vent, might not mean more than that.

If she doesn’t speak to you about how she feels , you gotta do absolutely nothing, if she does you have to analyze her motives.

Posting on Facebook might just be a power trip for you to contact her, she’s still with someone and juggling around her feelings

[LightNecro]

Thank you both for a prompt reply! I agree with both your points of view. I guess the biggest thing, and you touched on it Young Mind, is that I tried so hard to reconcile with her and she really meant the world to me at the time. This letter brought back some of those wounds after months of not talking and going through the motions of pain and heartbreak and drama.

 

I agree that she still has these feelings of guilt and bitterness and maybe she's even confused, but I still don't like how she's trying to control me even now and go on this power trip as you mentioned.

 

I'm just going to ignore her for now, but if she reaches out, maybe I'll think about replying. Honestly after she shut me out, I kind of realized that I deserved better.

[HumanMachine]

She posted a letter addressed to you on her social media whilst she is in a relationship with another person. Wow.

[Fever of love]

Hi! My ex girlfriend (we dated 5 years in our early twenties) posted something about me recently which has been kind of confusing. We ended on pretty bad terms and she eventually cut off all ties with me except on FB. We haven't talked for a long time but I'm guessing she kept me around on social media to show me how happy she is in a new relationship.

 

About a couple days ago she posted this letter about me which apppeared on my newsfeed. Long story short, she goes into details about our relationship about how she missed us, and how she wishes she could have me again, and feels sorry about all the bad stuff that happend. This all sounds dandy, but a couple hours later, she posts a picture of her current boyfriend, and thanks him for encouraging her to write about "what hurts."

 

Honestly, in the time away from her, I've lost most of my interest her. I've made the decision to pursue my goals and new hobbies, and I've even dated a few women before reaching the decision that I want to be single to focus on grad school. This is probably nothing, but I think she's gotten into my head a little bit. I just want to know why she posted that, and if it's so personal about "her hurt" why she would feel the need to make it public.

 

 

That is so messed up. I mean we all know by now that people use social media to play these crazy psychological games such as posting happy couple pics, even though they may be fighting and bickering 24/7, but this posting letters all about an ex is a new development.

 

To be honest, if my ex had embarrassed me like that, I would embarrass her back by commenting directly on her feed and posting my correction and/or criticism of her one-sided story, pointing out her very many flaws.