Zahara Posted December 19, 2017 Posted December 19, 2017 So I still haven’t responded to his last text and he just texted me “U believe me right?” Do I just continue to ignore him or should I just come out and let him know that I’d rather just not share guys with other women? I know we owe each other nothing but I’m not looking to be involved in any drama and be just a second, third, fourth, etc option. Should I just tell him, and if so, how to word it correctly? Or just leave it as is? I'm not sure why you're overthinking this. Regardless of whether you want to be first, second or third, the reality is that this guy isn't good for you, if you're looking for substance. The latter should be why you walk away. Responding to him will likely rope you back in because he'll probably feed you a bunch of words and you'll likely fall for it. The fact that you're second guessing should be all the more reason you just walk away. As you said, you owe each other nothing. A date and some fooling around shouldn't get you overthinking this much. Your skin should be crawling. Block/delete and move on. In the future, have better boundaries. 4
kendahke Posted December 19, 2017 Posted December 19, 2017 So I still haven’t responded to his last text and he just texted me “U believe me right?” Do I just continue to ignore him or should I just come out and let him know that I’d rather just not share guys with other women? I know we owe each other nothing but I’m not looking to be involved in any drama and be just a second, third, fourth, etc option. Should I just tell him, and if so, how to word it correctly? Or just leave it as is? Honestly, I don't see any reason for engaging with him in anything further. He's only going to gaslight you for as long as it takes to get you in front of his camera lens. I'd leave it be. He got really messy really quickly... nothing like self discipline here. 1
Space Ritual Posted December 19, 2017 Posted December 19, 2017 So I still haven’t responded to his last text and he just texted me “U believe me right?” Do I just continue to ignore him or should I just come out and let him know that I’d rather just not share guys with other women? I know we owe each other nothing but I’m not looking to be involved in any drama and be just a second, third, fourth, etc option. Should I just tell him, and if so, how to word it correctly? Or just leave it as is? In this case, I'd just go crickets and block him. If anything, you'll lessened any potential damage to your psyche from this guy by chalking this up to just an experience in your life and move forward. Once again, I aplogize if I came off as totally crude, but I think my call is fairly accurate being he asked you after the fact if you were seeing someone. What this indicates is that he would have no problem cheating in you if you were to see him long term... Guys say "meh" about women they are seeing if they are looking for something on the side that might be a slam dunk on a regular basis. He literally thought you were so that's why he waited until afterwards so he could see what you will find acceptable in his Shenanigans department. This guy is a Textbook for Telegraphing his moves in a pretty pathetic fashion. I'd expect this from a cast member of Jersey Shore. Go Dark and go Silent. He will get the message in fairly short order. His Ego will force him to figure it out. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 19, 2017 Posted December 19, 2017 So I still haven’t responded to his last text and he just texted me “U believe me right?” Do I just continue to ignore him or should I just come out and let him know that I’d rather just not share guys with other women? I know we owe each other nothing but I’m not looking to be involved in any drama and be just a second, third, fourth, etc option. Should I just tell him, and if so, how to word it correctly? Or just leave it as is? I'd be honest to educate him! "Your text about wanting to video record me made me realize we are not compatible. Additionally, I am not looking for someone with multiple partners. Good luck." 3
LivingWaterPlease Posted December 19, 2017 Posted December 19, 2017 I'd respond, "It's not going to work out," then block him. To me, he seems to have bigger and more basic issues than wanting to videotape you and having multiple partners. IMO, those are merely symptoms of underlying problems that would manifest in other ways were he to agree not to videotape you and become exclusive with you. He seems to me to need lots of help that I would have no interest in tackling. 2
morrowrd Posted December 19, 2017 Posted December 19, 2017 I wouldn't ever ask a girl who I was dating....especially one I liked, to make a video. what the f is the purpose of a video? To show others. Don't do it. A man who likes you and has the privilege of having sex with you, will respect that part of the relationship by keeping it between the two of you. 2
BaileyB Posted December 19, 2017 Posted December 19, 2017 Yeah, definitely nexting this one. He just asked me if I was seeing anyone, I told him no. And he told me he is seeing someone from time to time but she’s “meh” (his words), and said if it was anything g good, he wouldn’t be going anywhere else. I asked “so do you have a girlfriend?” And he said “nooooo, far from a gf”. The fact a guy could just talk about a girl like that... I wouldn’t want him talking about me that way. And who’s to say the poor girl doesn’t think it’s something more and he’s trying to downplay it? I haven’t responded, and I won’t. Sad cause this is the first guy in so long that I had fun with until he came out with hat text, and now this. Yuck. Well, I was out at the first suggestion of a video that could be share with anyone and everyone... But, this confirms it. I would simply send him a text that said, "I'm sorry, this is not going to work out. Best wishes." And then, I would block him. What he said was very inappropriate, particularly because it was a first date. However, knowing what happened on that date makes it a little more clear why he thought it was even a possibility... I agree, only kissing (on the mouth) on the next date... 1
Sunlight72 Posted December 19, 2017 Posted December 19, 2017 Do I just continue to ignore him or should I just come out and let him know that I’d rather just not share guys with other women? I know we owe each other nothing but I’m not looking to be involved in any drama and be just a second, third, fourth, etc option. Should I just tell him, and if so, how to word it correctly? Or just leave it as is?I suggest you text him back, briefly (just like CautiouslyOptimistic said). - it will make you feel it's a resolution, as you've been direct and honest instead of sneaking away. I consider it a very good exercise to take control of your life more. It's good for us to state who we are and what we like and don't when the occasions arise. This also (in my mind) gives you the foundation to expect to be treated civilly by others. - there is the chance that he will glean the impression from this that when he breaks it off with someone, he should be an adult and have the courtesy to tell them something instead of just ghosting. 1
browzer Posted December 19, 2017 Posted December 19, 2017 After only one date, the guy says he wants to video record you sucking him off and you're wondering if you should see him again?? If you want a relationship based only on sex with a clueless insensitive ignoramous who sees you as nothing more than a set of lips to wrap around his dick then go have fun. 2
RecentChange Posted December 19, 2017 Posted December 19, 2017 Yeah don't ghost him. Tell him straight, you feel like you two are not compatible, and don't let him try to talk you out of it. Remember, he is going to try to work his way into another Hummer. Tell him you are going your separate way, wish him luck, and if he tries to convince you otherwise block him. 3
browzer Posted December 19, 2017 Posted December 19, 2017 Yeah don't ghost him. Tell him straight The guy told he wants to film her sucking his dick after only one date. She doesn't owe this clueless moron the courtesy of as much as a text. 4
LivingWaterPlease Posted December 20, 2017 Posted December 20, 2017 The guy told he wants to film her sucking his dick after only one date. She doesn't owe this clueless moron the courtesy of as much as a text. I know some don't put any significance on physical intimacy that doesn't include emotional intimacy, as it seems may be the case here. But, I do, so out of respect for myself and him (as someone I got physically intimate with, not because he deserves it but because it's what I ask of myself) both, I'd respond to him that it's not going to work out and then block him. I don't believe I'd explain it any further but just leave him to think about it. Or not, probably not but that's his choice.
browzer Posted December 20, 2017 Posted December 20, 2017 I know some don't put any significance on physical intimacy that doesn't include emotional intimacy, as it seems may be the case here. But, I do, so out of respect for myself and him (as someone I got physically intimate with, not because he deserves it but because it's what I ask of myself) both, I'd respond to him that it's not going to work out and then block him. I don't believe I'd explain it any further but just leave him to think about it. Or not, probably not but that's his choice. How about "I'm rather offended because of what you said, especially after only 1 date and I don't see it going anywhere, good bye and good luck with your BJ film fantasy and perhaps next time wait until after the second date to mention it to your next potential future co-star" 4
LivingWaterPlease Posted December 20, 2017 Posted December 20, 2017 How about "I'm rather offended because of what you said, especially after only 1 date and I don't see it going anywhere, good bye and good luck with your BJ film fantasy and perhaps next time wait until after the second date to mention it to your next potential future co-star" :lmao: Yeah! Go for it, OP! (sorry, browser, not making fun of your post but it just struck me as hilarious, and I did laugh out loud, yet right on target!) 4
TheFinalWord Posted December 20, 2017 Posted December 20, 2017 So I still haven’t responded to his last text and he just texted me “U believe me right?” Do I just continue to ignore him or should I just come out and let him know that I’d rather just not share guys with other women? I know we owe each other nothing but I’m not looking to be involved in any drama and be just a second, third, fourth, etc option. Should I just tell him, and if so, how to word it correctly? Or just leave it as is? This guy is a whack job. No, it's not normal to ask a girl to make porn after one date. I would not only ignore, I would block his number. Where did you meet him? Is this some guy off tinder or someone you have to interact with in day to day life? 2
BlueIvy Posted December 20, 2017 Posted December 20, 2017 Went on a first date with a guy yesterday who appeared to be normal, fun, I had a great time with him. There was definitely some sexual tension there throughout the night and we ended up fooling around a little bit but didn’t have sex. He’s been texting me today and there was one in particular that caught me off guard... he texted “I wanna make a vid of you giving me head babe.” Is this something I should run away from now or should I wait it out- perhaps he’s just showing he’s a little kinky and not a big deal? I answered saying I was camera shy and would prefer to enjoy it just between us without the camera and he answered “ok babe.” So he didn’t push... He just wants sex. If he wanted a relationship, he wouldn't mention sex so early even IF he wants to have sex with you. That is just inappropriate. I don't know why you would even agree to it. This is the FIRST DATE:eek: If it was me, I would block him and keep it moving. I had a dude mention going down on me after the First date. I blocked him. Shows he isn't trying to get serious, also it's inappropriate considering we are just strangers.
elaine567 Posted December 20, 2017 Posted December 20, 2017 I had a dude mention going down on me after the First date. I blocked him. They have already been there, done that, got the t-shirt. ...yes, things got a little kinky and we did go down on each other.
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