Ex is engaged

[Angie456]

So I made a mistake of looking up my ex’s facebook only to see he is engaged. I feel he must have cheated on me. We broke up in June. He already has bought a marriage license.

 

He is 31. I was 28. We were together five almost six years. We lived together 5. Started out as friends with benefits for the first six months till his therapist basically told him he should lock me down after six months or so. I was close to going exclusive wih another guy because he didn’t seem interested. Not the healthiest of relationship starts.

 

We had our ups and downs and to be honest, it was a ****ty relationship. I was depressed. He was an ass. I gained close to 60 poinds dating him that I attributed to nursing school but it was because we didn’t do much. Basically ate out and sat at home since he had a bad back and couldn’t walk. I have dropped forty pounds since the break because I have been doing stuff like ice skating, kayaking, walking, paddle boarding, etc.

 

I can remember some times that he made me cry. He always held it over my head. He had me bawling quite a few times. I had threaten to leave like six times. Sometimes he didn’t know. He would paint me as stupid to his friends even though some of the ideas were his.

 

Anyway, not sure why I am upset he got engaged so soon. He had 2 failed marriages before the age of 23. He is an ass so not sure why he thinks he will do well with a marriage again.

 

Also, he didn’t brush his teeth. Like ever. He chewed tobacco too. I couldn’t kiss him but I couldn’t bring myself to tell him why. His finacee has pretty bad tooth decay too on one of her teeth. So I guess they can not brush together or go to the dentist. He also never cleaned the house and chasdd off the housekeeper by talking about Trump with her (lower income, she is not a Trump fan). In general, he is an ass. It was really depressing he never cleaned up. Like one time he threw a hissy fit that he cleaned a month ago and the house was dirty again (didn’t clean up after his friends left).

 

I am much better without him. It does feel bitter we broke up though and he is already engaged. Otherwise, I am happy. New job, new dream job, nice to have an apartment that I clean up only after myself. I know I can do a lot better than him. I found a new guy who is sweet, caring, loves going outside, etc. kayaks too.

[Purepony]

So why do you think this is eating you ?

You have a new life and a new guy ? Whys this running Thru your mind

[stillafool]

Yep, seems like you dodged a bullet. Good luck with your new life.

[Angie456]

Just more the shock of it being new. I found out about it less than 13 hours ago. Not what I expected from him.

[primer]

Ahhh. Let the new girl have that mess of a man. You know he won't be any different with her.

 

 

Continue taking care of yourself and moving on. Good for you.

[Angie456]

Thank you guys. I know he won’t be any different. I am excited for my new guy though.

[CeciliaCylara]

You dodged a HUGE bullet. He sounds crazy and only thinks about himself. He's messed up in the head and his actions match them. You don't have to worry about how he's going to destroy his life next. Enjoy finding a better man with the time you have NOW.