Ex Gf sent birthday and graduation cards with money.... uncomfortable accepting it

[johnwill1294]

Hey everyone,

 

I haven't posted here since late October, I've been doing pretty well lately from my breakup that happened this past August after a 3 year relationship. However the holiday season has been really hard. I had my college graduation, christmas is coming up, and my birthday. 3 big moments that I thought I'd be spending with her.

 

My ex (who has a new bf) brought my roommate two cards to give to me, one for my college graduation, and one for my birthday. I opened up both cards to find $30 total between the two cards. She wrote paragraphs in both cards consisting of inside jokes we had, saying things like "I wish I could be there to support you" and "Its going to be weird not being with you on your birthday this year."

 

It's just really weird to hear this stuff because she broke up me with originally, then a few months later tried to come back, only to tell me again that she didn't have feelings for me. She's put me through so much crap and I was okay with being done with all of it. But these cards have me messed up now. I feel extremely uncomfortable accepting this money she gave me and am tempted to give it back. However, giving it back might open up a new can of worms that I don't want to deal with.

 

Any advice would be appreciated. Keep in mind that I have her number blocked and have blocked her on every form of social media. But I'm finding no contact harder at this moment than I ever have in the past. All I want to do is talk to her but I'm staying strong.

Edited December 18, 2017 by johnwill1294

[HumanMachine]

Give the money to charity and burn the cards.

 

Do NOT break nc for these breadcrumbs.. don’t do it man..

[BarbedFenceRider]

You could look at it like a business side of things. She made a payment upon restitution from your past relationship. lol

 

Take the cash and toss the cards. No putting those bad boys on the fridge I'm afraid...

 

Now that you have said cash in hand...convert into ones. Go to strip bar and put them into G-strings. Very low and childish indeed. But it will work wonders for your ego. lol

 

And tell her please, just stop. It's getting silly, but thanks for the stripper money....

[dumbass2]

I can see how the money part feels odd. The cards I'd trash and money I'd just use how ever you want. Do not respond to her in any way. I think it is pretty selfish of her to do this. She came back to you for a second chance only to let you go again. She is trying to relieve her guilt and she feels bad, but does not want you back. The decent thing to do, if she cared at all about you, would be to leave you alone. This was all about her and sorry this has messed you up. If she tries to contact you again, ignore or tell her to just leave you alone.

[Marc878]

I'd never say a word. Throw the cards out and donate the cash.

 

Breadcrumbs

[usa1ah]

I would mail the cards back with a “Do I really deserve to be f’d over like this. Haven’t you done enough damage in my life. We are not friends and never will be again.”

[usa1ah]

Sorry but when someone tries to ease their own conscience like this. I say hit back in away that will put a end to to forever.