Wobugan Posted December 18, 2017 Posted December 18, 2017 Hi, Have you as the dumpee in a previous relationship started dating someone a while afterwards and felt like you are walking on eggs with the new one? After my first breakup everysince i have felt headache and not daring to approach new girls at my fullest, is this normal? Also ofc i am kinda rusty on the dating game as i was together with my ex for nearly 4.5 years. With my best regards.
carhill Posted December 18, 2017 Posted December 18, 2017 Hi, Have you as the dumpee in a previous relationship started dating someone a while afterwards and felt like you are walking on eggs with the new one? I'd put it more as not sure of myself. Less confident than customary. I save the 'walking on eggs' description for dealing with the mentally ill ones. Usually being able to do that balance act takes skill and confidence. After my first breakup every since i have felt headache and not daring to approach new girls at my fullest, is this normal? IME, sure. Some guys aren't phased at all. For myself it takes awhile. Typically I was single and not dating for a number of months after a serious emotional attachment ended. In the case of my M, the interest hasn't returned at all but I'd say it was a good couple years after our D until I felt 'normal', whatever that is. Also ofc i am kinda rusty on the dating game as i was together with my ex for nearly 4.5 years. It'll come back, eventually. IMO, focus on self and friends and family. There's a lot of stuff in life besides romantic/sexual relationships. Sure, the need to breed is strong but it'll be there for decades so no biggie. With my best regards. Good luck!
d0nnivain Posted December 18, 2017 Posted December 18, 2017 I think everybody is or at least should be on their best behavior in the beginning of a relationship. If that is what you define as "walking on egg shells" because it's not as comfortable or easy as an established connection, of course we have all done it. If you are afraid to be yourself & scared that this new person is going to dump you, then perhaps you are not ready to date yet; you are seeking too much external validation which is not healthy.
smackie9 Posted December 18, 2017 Posted December 18, 2017 A little PTSD huh? If you are still shell shocked from the last relationship, then you are not ready emotionally to proceed with starting a new relationship. Give yourself more time to heal, and to find yourself again because right now you are letting your past experience define your emotional state....
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