arlington Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 My boyfreind and I just recently broke up about two weeks ago. We had been together about 5 months and were friends for 5 months before we started dating. He broke up with me saying that his heart wasn't feeling anymore than friends. We got together one night after we were hanging out dancing - something just sparked. In the beginning, he came on really strong and was telling me how much he missed me when I was away, etc. When I started to recrpriocate the feelings back is when he started to back off. So after we broke up, I was hurt and flew down to FL to be with my parents for a few days. The last time I saw him was last Tuesday as I blew off his wanting to get together after that. I had to go down to a wedding last weekend and I missed him terribly and still do. He called a few times when I was down there, once saying that he was going to go hang out with a friend he has never mentioned before - I think to make me jealous. He called me yesterday an I didn't return his call until later on that evening and it sounded like he had killed himself to answer the phone. He said he was busy at that he would call me back. I was driving home and he called back and I talked to him saying that traffic was backed up. When I got home, he called and I didn't answer. He sent me a message on IM, but I had my away message on. Then he called back again and I answered and spoke with him for a few minutes. I didn't go to work today and he called to make sure that I didn't over sleep. He called again later on when I was working out, but I haven't called him back yet. What is going on???? It seems as if he is certainly up in my business a lot for someone who wants to be friends. I want him back, but I don't know what to do. I have gotten some advice from friends to tell him that I can't be friends with him right now and see if he comes running back and others who say just to ignore him and not be at his beck and call. Can anyone offer me advice in this situation. I love him very much and want him back! Thanks
crazychick Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 You know this sounds a lot like what I have been going thru lately. Whenever I would call my ex, he would sound disinterested and find a reason to hang up right away. But then when I didn't call him or contact him at all, then he would call me like crazy over and over and over until I talked to him. I think your guy is more than likely just trying to hang on to you - just in case. Like he wants to have you around, because he doesn't have anyone else, and he doesn't want you to have anyone else, even though he doesn't want you. Does that make sense? I think he is playing with your emotions and putting you on this rollar coaster where you don't know what to think. The fact that you have feelings for him is working to his advantage. Don't let him do this to you. I know its hard, but walk away if you can. Don't be like me and stick it out hoping he will want you back, because in the end he won't.
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