Hard to Read

[Grey40]

I had a second date tonight with a girl I really like. First date went very well, we kissed at the end of it and made the plans for date 2. She texted me after Date 1 saying she had a great time and everything.

 

Date 2 was tonight and it’s been schedule for a week. I’m between the week there wasn’t much interaction on her end via texting. I texted her once or twice and she responded hours sometimes an entire day later etc. she may have imitated once, but not sure. The entire time on Date 2 she seemed different. Her body language was more closed and she seemed like she kind of didn’t want to be there, she was fidgeting s lot and kept adjusting her shirt, she could barely make eye contact the whole night and looked down most of time. Basically she just didn’t seem as excited.

 

She did however ask me tons of questions and generally seemed interested in getting to know me. We went from dinner to sit next to each other at the bar. I tried being more touchy feeling but she wasn’t very responsive. She didn’t stop me but certainly didn’t seem to really care. She ended up staying out on the date with me for 4 hours despite this and kept the conversation going, even offered to pay for drinks since I paid for dinner.

 

After the date In he parking lot we kissed a bit and she was trying to think of when we can see each other again, but couldn’t plan anything concrete since she’s going to visit her family in Florida this week for the holidays. I can’t read her. Maybe she’s just nervous? She did say it’s been a stressful week and that she was tired so maybe she was just in a bad mood and feeling crappy? She said despite how she felt she said she never would have bailed.

Edited December 18, 2017 by Grey40

[smackie9]

My thoughts? I always feel when someone is different, they are hiding something and their attention is being diverted to someone else.

 

Put her on the back burner and don't bother investing yourself in this one yet. I myself have been lied to....don't believe everything they tell you.

[FastHands]

I'd pay once for food and then ask her to cover the next round. Better yet you buy yours and she buys hers. Some girls love to be treated. You just don't want her to take advantage and expect it (she will respect you less too).

There was a time when women appreciated it by now some women look at it as a sign of weakness.

[healing light]

I think this woman sounds interested. Wait until she gets back from holiday and plan a third date. If she expressed that she would have never bailed despite how she tired she was, kissed you, kept asking questions, and hung out for 4 hours, she sounds interested to me. Probably just nervous or out of her element that night.

[edgygirl]

Sometimes I act weird on a date and it's not really about the guy... Life happens. I am quite affected by sleep, work, family.

 

Don't overthinking it. As long as she is receptive to new dates, she is still interested. Will she be back before NYE? Try to lock down the next date as soon as possible - if she's open to it, you will get your answer.