crazychick Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 I finally broke free from my ex and this weird hold he had over me, and set some things straight with him. What happened was last week he and I went out on Sunday night to get dinner and a movie. Just as friends, nothing happened at all. I dropped him off and went him. Monday he calls me after work and asked me to go out for drinks. I said I couldn't but that I would probably be able to go on Tuesday, and he says that would be cool. So Tuesday I text him and of course there is no response. And I decided to make a conscience effort not to call him. Because if he isn't going to respond, then why should I chase him? So no word from him at all on Tuesday, nothing Wednesday, nothing Thursday. Thursday night I go out of town for the weekend. Friday he calls me about 6 times. Wants to know why I am not calling him, what he did, etc. Putting it all back on me. Says he left messages, which he did not. I didn't call him back until Saturday, I remind him that I am out of town. He says that he forgot, and that he will call me right back. Of course he doesn't but I wasn't waiting. To be honest, I was there with my friends and I just left my cell phone in the hotel room all weekend, specifically because I didn't want to deal with this stuff. Sunday when I was flying home, he called and left a message. Then he called like 7 times after that. I just didn't answer. I just honestly didn't feel like talking to him. I am so tired of this game, where he wants me but he doesn't want me. He didn't call me for 4 days, and then all of a sudden when he sees that I am not running around after him, he wants me. I mean what the heck is that all about? Today I just emailed him and told him that I was sorry I didn't call him back because I had some stuff going on. Which is true. There is this new guy that I am kind of interested in, and he came over when I got home. I really want to see this person seriously. In the past with my ex, he gets pissed off when I bring up me seeing someone else, so I haven't talked to him about it at all. But now I feel like its time to take the kid gloves off so to speak. If he really wants to be friends then we should be able to talk about this stuff. So I just laid it all out. Told him about the other guy, said we were getting serious and that I hoped as a friend he would support that and be happy for me. I feel better now that its out there. Of course he hasn't responded and who knows if he will. But I am tired of letting him treat me so poorly all the time and letting him walk all over me. I have been playing into his hands, doing anything he wanted, helping him whenever he needed something, letting him use me. And that has to be over at some point. We have been broken up for 8 months now for pete's sake!
lunarbabe Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Sounds like a sane thing to do CrazyChick!! Hope everything turns out well.
curiousnycgirl Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Wow - what a liberating thing to do. I'm proud of you too!
kitkat826 Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 I give you major thumbs up. A lot of people find it very difficult to separate themselves from an ex. Keep up the good work! I promise it gets easier with time.
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