Calling all tall men, question about height...

[Gr8fuln2020]

I cannot help thinking that when people constantly make comments regarding something like this that it isn't more important than they make it out to be. Just b/c someone chuckles while saying it or says 'just joking' doesn't necessarily make it a small thing. People use humor to hide. Just saying...

[Negan]

I am 6'5''. The shortest I dated was 5'4'' and the tallest I dated was 6'0''.

[Els]

 

For example, if his hair is looking scruffy or he has a spot on his face, he actually feels like he can’t go out because ‘everyone is looking at him’

 

I do agree, feelings should overcome this. It’s stilm early days, .

 

Uh, are you SURE you want to be with a man like this? Is he getting treatment for his anxiety?

 

If it's still early on and there isn't a VERY strong reason why you'd stay with him, I'd bail frankly.

[Hopeforall]

I like women of all sizes and heights but as someone who is tall myself, I actually if forced to give my preference prefer a tall woman but if she was really short it wouldn't matter. I find stuff like that kind of superficial. Who cares who is taller, stronger, etc? It is about the relationship and how you treat one another.

[Miss Spider]

Username checks out. I recommend you leave this guy if you feel you are being emotionally abused.

[Shanex]

I wanted to know if ‘taller’ men(5’10 and above) think short’(5’0-5’2) women unattractive? If so, when why?

And if you find short women particularly attractive, why?

 

Any thoughts, opinions, experiences would be great to read.

 

I’m asking this because my boyfriend thinks I’m ‘too short’, I’m 5’2 and he is 6’0 however I’ve never thought of height? Most guys who have liked me have been extremely tall. Never seen it as a problem. I do feel like it is because he has anxiety and apparently he says ‘it looks weird when a tall man and a short woman walk together’ he is very aware of how he comes across in other peoples eyes, and is very vary of other people’s opinions.

 

I am 5'11. Pretty normal or slightly taller than guys my generation.

 

I don't mind a petite woman. At all. I have had some, but do not find them more attractive than a 5'8 lady with similar traits or in the same shape.

 

However, the younger girls these days, for many of them are incredibly tall.

 

Some of them taller than me, nevermind when they wear heels!

 

I am neither turned on or turned off by a petite, shorter than me or someone my own height. A woman taller than me I guess we would get amused looks from the crowd.

[heavenonearth]

I wanted to know if ‘taller’ men(5’10 and above) think short’(5’0-5’2) women unattractive? If so, when why?

And if you find short women particularly attractive, why?

 

Any thoughts, opinions, experiences would be great to read.

 

I’m asking this because my boyfriend thinks I’m ‘too short’, I’m 5’2 and he is 6’0 however I’ve never thought of height? Most guys who have liked me have been extremely tall. Never seen it as a problem. I do feel like it is because he has anxiety and apparently he says ‘it looks weird when a tall man and a short woman walk together’ he is very aware of how he comes across in other peoples eyes, and is very vary of other people’s opinions.

 

I dont see how this difference is a lot.

 

I am 5'4 and my boyfriend is 6'2, so the same difference as you guys.

It's perfect. I fit right under his arm.

I feel super protected and safe with him.

And I think he likes that I am tiny, as well!

 

I never heard that tall men dislike short women. That's news to me.

[Highndry]

I'm 6'1". I don't consider height very important in a prospective partner, though I think 5'4" is about perfect for me.

[Chilli]

I'm a short girl, 5"1.5

I know you weren't talking to me but from my experience tall men really like short women.

 

Sometimes I secretly think its a power dynamic thing lol.

But that's just my experience. Most guys that have liked me have also been tall.

 

But bending down to kiss you might be a little tiring for him lol

 

 

And here we go again, again with the women thinking it's a power thing.

Man , this one comes up every damn week and always the same old thing every time.

WTF would a guy need a short women to feel some insane power thing for. lf he wanted to feel power maybe he'd jump into a cage fighting ring or a war or some garbage.

Ya can't even like who ya damn like these days without women turning it into some damn drama

[basil67]

It would set my hackles off. But then, I wouldn't consider dating someone who's so shallow/insecure that they get worried about the height of a partner. (From a woman who's been same height as/taller than most of the guys she's dated)

[Shining One]

From an attraction standpoint, I don't really care about a woman's height as long as her proportions are attractive to me. From a practical standpoint, I can see why too much of a height difference can be a pain. My house is organized for someone of my height (5'11"). When I was dating a 4'11" woman, it was irritating having to stop whatever I was doing every time she needed something from a high location. It didn't help that she was afraid of step ladders. I had bought one specifically for her.

[Miss Spider]

And here we go again, again with the women thinking it's a power thing.

Man , this one comes up every damn week and always the same old thing every time.

WTF would a guy need a short women to feel some insane power thing for. lf he wanted to feel power maybe he'd jump into a cage fighting ring or a war or some garbage.

Ya can't even like who ya damn like these days without women turning it into some damn drama

 

lol xD i like rage chilli

 

but yea most men don't care about height unless it's extremes...bf just has some problems

[she'stheone]

I wanted to know if ‘taller’ men(5’10 and above) think short’(5’0-5’2) women unattractive? If so, when why?

And if you find short women particularly attractive, why?

 

Any thoughts, opinions, experiences would be great to read.

 

I’m asking this because my boyfriend thinks I’m ‘too short’, I’m 5’2 and he is 6’0 however I’ve never thought of height? Most guys who have liked me have been extremely tall. Never seen it as a problem. I do feel like it is because he has anxiety and apparently he says ‘it looks weird when a tall man and a short woman walk together’ he is very aware of how he comes across in other peoples eyes, and is very vary of other people’s opinions.

 

Hi EmotionallyAbusedBF,

 

I'm sorry you're having issues with your relationship.

 

Before I give you my answer (I'm a 6' 1" man), I think there are a few issues here.

 

First, your boyfriend has anxiety (self-esteem) issues as you already know. The challenge you face is, how he feels about you is connected to those issues.

 

If you're not the ideal height (based on HIS ideas) or his ideal everything (probably doesn't exist) he will probably have a problem with it.

 

It all ties into his own issues, so it really doesn't matter what I think about height (My love goddess is under 5'0". She's petite and gorgeous...at least to me...which is all that matters right.)

 

Second, I think you too, have some self-esteem issues. I've said this before in previous posts...

 

I believe, as a woman, you are a goddess (as I believe all women are).

 

So many of you (women) have forgotten that or never really knew it.

 

No, not every man is going to like you or love you, but, there is, most definitely, men out there who will. But...

 

If you don't think of yourself as the true goddess you are, how can a man (any man) see you that way?

 

Learn to love yourself for the goddess you truly are and you will find men who will gladly worship you (as I worship my goddess).

 

If a man does not see you as a goddess, which he does not, regardless of the reasons, then you should seriously reconsider your present relationship.

 

So, even thought I answered your question indirectly I will answer it more clearly now. As a 6' 1" man, I am dating and head over heals in love with my soul mate who is under 5' 0".

 

Would I prefer it if she was taller? Absolutely not, if she was, then she wouldn't be her and I love her as she is.

 

Do some personal development or spiritual work and discover the goddess YOU truly are.

 

Sending you much love and light

[GuitarGuy7]

Here's the thing about height:

 

 

If you're a woman, height doesn't play as big of a factor in your overall attractiveness. You will find that men are less selective about height and are more open to dating women of various heights. In fact, 50% of men would say they would date a woman their height or taller.

 

 

Unfortunately for men, this isn't the case. Being tall is an attractive trait if you're a man, so there is obviously a clear preference for men who are tall. Being a short man is a disadvantage in dating, the shorter you are the harder it's going to be considering the majority of women, woudn't even consider dating a man their height or shorter.

[Happy Lemming]

I'm 6' 1" and have dated women who were 4' 10" to 6' 1"...

 

I can say I actually didn't like dating the 6' 1" woman, she liked to wear heels and attempt to tower over me. I think it was a "power" thing with her, but I'm not sure.

 

I really liked dating the 4' 10" woman she was just a bundle of cute, although she was chunky, she was just a lot of fun and treated me great. She told me she could wear any size heels with me and be perfectly comfortable. There are days I miss her.

 

In the end, I'm comfortable with any height, just be good to me.

[Jj66]

6'-2" here. Being 5'-0" is apparently not a deal breaker based on my history.

[newyorker11356]

Here's the thing about height:

 

 

If you're a woman, height doesn't play as big of a factor in your overall attractiveness. You will find that men are less selective about height and are more open to dating women of various heights. In fact, 50% of men would say they would date a woman their height or taller.

 

 

Unfortunately for men, this isn't the case. Being tall is an attractive trait if you're a man, so there is obviously a clear preference for men who are tall. Being a short man is a disadvantage in dating, the shorter you are the harder it's going to be considering the majority of women, woudn't even consider dating a man their height or shorter.

 

I'm around 5'6-5'7, and with average at best looks and a bit of a receding hairline. I've never had issues dating.

[GuitarGuy7]

I'm around 5'6-5'7, and with average at best looks and a bit of a receding hairline. I've never had issues dating.

 

How old are you? Was dating harder when you were younger?

 

A lot of factors can go into play into how good at dating you are, not just the physical.

 

Being extroverted, being good socially, being confident and charismatic, having access to lots of women, being rich also plays a big factor.

[newyorker11356]

How old are you? Was dating harder when you were younger?

 

A lot of factors can go into play into how good at dating you are, not just the physical.

 

Being extroverted, being good socially, being confident and charismatic, having access to lots of women, being rich also plays a big factor.

 

I'm 27. Hard to say since I didn't really start wanting to date till I was like 22-23. However, before then, I was pretty much invisible to the opposite sex (but didn't care since I wasn't interested in really dating anyone at that time). I also mainly go out on dates from online dating apps.

 

I was definitely more introverted in my younger years, but I'm more a mix of both nowadays. I always say that I'm a social introvert, haha.

 

I'm not rich and don't have access to lots of women.

[Andy_K]

I'm 5'11. Ideal height I like is around 5'3"-5'4", but last girlfriend was 5'1", the two before that were around 5'7" and 5'8". So not a particularly big deal either way.

[SpecialJ]

I have a 6'3" guy friend who started dating a 5' tall woman who looked really young. It bothered him at first, because he imagined people were looking at them funny. But then he fell in love with her, never has mentioned it to me as weird or problematic again, and married her.

 

I'm on the small and petite side and started dating guys a foot taller than me the last few years (I moved somewhere that happens to have tall people). Only one talked about this being an issue. Interestingly, it was really only an issue when he wasn't feeling confident in his feelings for me (at the very beginning, before he knew me well, and then at the very end, when he was distancing himself to break up). We've since reconnected, and there has not been one comment about my size, joking or otherwise, because he's grown up and realized what's important and what isn't.

 

I've dated 3 short men (5'6" range). When I was young, it did bother me. The last one I dated I was really, really into, and it didn't bother me at all.

 

The other posters have already told you this is his problem. Is he getting treatment for his anxiety? Have you done any research on having a partner with anxiety? In my specific experience, anxiety makes relationships more difficult but I've encountered two types: nice people who have it and know their doubts are going to bleed into their relationships but try to control it, communicate about it, and never take their issues out on others through personal attacks. And types who are not nice people (or at least are more immature which can make them selfish) and put others down and blame them for their own anxieties and insecurities. I've had friends date the first type and am friends with some people who fall into that first type, and they get in their own way but are never mean about it. If anything, they tend to be overly apologetic about their issues. My friends dating that type have had challenges but are in happy, long-term relationships with their anxious partners. I've dated the second type, and it's been terrible.

 

So, this depends on how much responsibility he takes for himself and his issues, whether or not you feel like he's taking things out on you in a mean way, and what you're comfortable with and can tolerate (in a healthy way). What works for you and what you can feel good about. The height piece is just a symptom.

[Sm12345]

I’m 5’10” and I usually date taller women. But tonight I went out with someone who is around 5’4” and the date went really well. So in the future I’m going to be more accepting of interest from shorter women.

[Sharpshooter]

Polling evidence has shown that men by and large prefer shorter women to taller ones, not overwhelmingly so but I would say if they had to choose a majority would.