tanbark813 Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Maybe he was dizzy and lightheaded from motocross fumes.
quankanne Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 oooh, assclown ... that term just cracks me up! merin, just give him time to cool down. Sometimes they apologize, sometimes they still act affronted by the whole thing. Whoever posted that my husband doesn't give me the cold shoulder hours post-tantrum ... well, depends on what the tantrum is about, and how he perceives the event. if he still has a problem over the incident, tell him to grow the hell up, or to at least keep an emergency stash in the house for instances like these. You're not a mind-reader, you can't pull a pack of cigarettes (or whatever else he's missing) out of your *ss, and he WILL get over it. Just apply some of that mommy logic to the situation, eh? not sure what he's paying per pack, Alpha, but I do know that he's switched from premium smokes to "sweeps" (what he calls the cheap-o brand, where the tobacco is the stuff that's swept up leftovers from the floor). He says the price hike is enough to make him quit ... but he hasn't yet. In the meantime, the great State of Texas wants to hike the sin tax so there'll be enough money to educate its children, thus placing the burden on smokers and monkey spankers who frequent strip clubs.
loony Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale nothing...he's making a mountain out of a molehill on purpose just to show you how "bad" he is. this is typical bad boy behaviour. I've done it myself also. You know....just get pissed off for no reason just for sake of getting pissed off. I wouldn't take it personal... Man, you're not in kindergarden anymore, grow up, baby. Originally posted by Outcast After all, the salient point about being a 'bad boy' is the 'boy'. Yeah! Merin, he might have built up resentments but you'll never know if you don't talk with him. If [color=#FF99FF]ALPHAMALE[/color] was right and he just acted like a spoiled brat then give him a good smacking because that's what you do with bad kiddies.
Barby Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Could it be possible that he had something in his pack of ciggs other than ciggs? Maybe money, drgs, something important that he didn't want to have to replace? I can't see anyonegetting so upset over something as petty as that, hell he coulda asked you to go buy him a new pack last night (even though it woulda been inconvienent for you) but he didn't....sounds to me like either there was more in it than ciggs or else he used this as an outlet to release his stress/anger and honestly he shouldn't have gotten so bent outta shape..... Merin you've done so much for him, been there for him...you're an awesome chica and by now he should see that (not that he doesn't) but honestly he needs to get his sh*t together and realize that he shouldn't blow up on you like that!
Art_Critic Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by Barby Could it be possible that he had something in his pack of ciggs other than ciggs? Maybe money, drgs, something important that he didn't want to have to replace? Great Point Barby !! .. You could be right .. Might explain why Merin is so confused over the situation as it is so out of character
alphamale Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by Barby Could it be possible that he had something in his pack of ciggs other than ciggs? Maybe money, drgs, something important that he didn't want to have to replace? good point BARBY! maybe some chick wrote her phone # on one of his cigs. this happend to me once at the bar and I smoked the cig by mistake and lost her # poor alpha
Iluvsiamese Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Just puzzled about something........how did HIS cigarettes become HER responsibility? If I leave something behind, it's my screwup, my mistake and my responsibility, period. It's up to me to fix it.
Devildog Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 I waqs thinking the same thing Barby. He has ditched Merin in the past to go score some weed. Were they cigarettes, or were they "cigarettes"? And if they were made with Wacky Tabacky, and he was looking for them when he had his kids over there...
april Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale well, you know that cigs are not cheap these days. I'm paying like $5 per pack here in Detroit. Wow!!! that's cheap...here in Canada it's $8 per pack.
alphamale Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by april Wow!!! that's cheap...here in Canada it's $8 per pack. $5 US = $8 CAN
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by Mz. Pixie Hey, quit picking on Merin Alpha likes to pick on Merin. I'm still tryin to figure out why Merin got back with this guy after the Mehico fiasco. Sorry Merin, I'm not picking sides. Like me and many others here it's not always easy to take our own advice. I would have railed on him about leaving the car running. "no YOU suck...you left my f'ing car running YOU SUCK YOU SUCK YOU SUCK" Someone probly saw his cigs and stole them....hey maybe they saw the keys and started the ignition too.
alphamale Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Alpha likes to pick on Merin. it's not picking on her.... I just want to play devils' advocate and try to get her to see the other side. that is all. In all actuality i MERIN.
april Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by Merin then he text me again and says "You f'cking suck!" Merin...I find this part deeply disturbing.
Outcast Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 You know, that drug thing sounds plausible. Maybe there was something else in the cigs and he, knowing you don't want him doing that stuff, thinks you tossed them because you knew. Which still makes him a jerk IMHO.
PatientOne Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 I agree with april. This message came from an adult? Sad. And creepy.
kitkat826 Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Even if his cigarretes somehow were my responsibility, coming to me with that behavior and language would be a no-no. Thats a grown ass man and he needs to learn to keep track of his stuff, regardless of his brokeness, or dependency on nicotine, or whatever valuable the box contained. And if hes really got something pricy or important hidden in there, then hes wrong for being shady. I guess I just really have strict standards when it comes to peoples attitude with me...haha, ex-con..no problem..but leave that roughneck behavior in the bed where it belongs!
noname Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale $5 US = $8 CAN some places in manhattan... $8.50. my canadian friends hate it here. hhmmmm, maybe he bought them downtown... seriously though, i understand that women do have the knack for being attracted to the bad guy, but he kinda seems like he has some other sh*t going on. i don't care how much off a thug you are. several text messages on top of some calls over some smokes? spread that on top of the prior offenses, top it with the silent treatment and i think this guy may have a little bit of an issue. then again, he might have snuck a couple a drinks that she didn't see...
RecordProducer Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 I don't like how he treats you and I don't like how you respond to this treatment. No wonder your guys are jerks. You take their crap, Merin! First of all he has no right to talk to you like that regardless of whether it's about stupid cigarettes or you crashed his car or lost his wallet with all his credit cards in it (he sounds like he has none anyway). He can be pissed off, but not curse you as if you're some street whore. How can he say "You f***ing suck" for god's sake? You should dump a guy who talks to you like that. You should have some dignity and value yourself much higher than that. And secondly, your response was defensive. You should have told him "Don't you talk to me like that ever again!" and hang up and not talk to him until he apologizes on his knees. If you don't let them, Merin, they won't treat you bad. And if they do, you leave. Don't let them hurt you and tear you apart. You're a good woman and deserve someone civilized. Quit with these bad-boy-good-girl relationships. Find someone normal who will respect you.
johan Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 About the "bad boy" theory: give me a break. He was more petulant than "bad". Just freaking out about any random thing is not "bad" in my book. It's kind of childish. "Bad" would be more along the lines of arrogant and selfish, but happy and having fun. Rather than just throwing a tantrum over something minor. In general, I don't get the impression he treats Merin all that bad. Other than some outbursts due to emotions he can't handle, it seems like he's pretty good to her overall. At least there are not a lot of posts about this stuff, and she mostly writes good things. At least about the sex. Don't hear much about the rest. Or maybe I just read what catches my eye. So what if he freaks out occasionally? They don't seem willing to give each other up. They've been through a lot. Merin, just give him his cigarettes and quit messing around.
LuvBite Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Hi Merin, some guys just don't know how to treat a lady anymore, you should dump the moron. (or send him a bill for the cost of running your car for an hour minus the cost of a pack of cigs of course - then dump him) LB
Author Merin Posted August 23, 2005 Author Posted August 23, 2005 Thanks for all the response.. sorry I couldn't get to it until today.. So he NEVER called. I called him around 6 last night, he was STILL pissed about something... I asked him if he was still mad, he said "Well are you still mad at me?" I told him I didn't appreciate the way he had acted and couldn't understand why he was so pissed about some cigarettes (BTW there were 2 cigarettes in the pack and nothing else) he said he had been tired and had wanted a cigarette and that he didn't know why he had flown off the handle... Then he asked why I hadn't called him in the morning before I went to work... BUT I had to take my Little People to school for thier first day (another story I ended up crying my ass off when I dropped my kindergarten baby off) He said he had been home since 12 that he left work sick... asked him why... but yeah he was still feeling cranky so he was snappy... I told him I hate it when he's mad... he was still being an assclown (the tone of voice) asked him if he wanted to talk.... he said no he didn't feel like talking on the phone... so I told him hoped he felt better and bye. Haven't heard from him since... Resentment... is possible... his Kiddo's (especially his boy) Love me and this has always been kind of an issue for him... he's told me before that he feels jealous sometimes of how much his kid's love me (which I think is wierd but whatever) before I left his house on Sunday his Son started crying when I told him I had to go... I had to talk him into not crying and going to sit with my BF while I left... (part of my BF's committment thing maybe I dunno) While yes we (my BF and I) have had a lot of issues in our relationship I really thought things were getting better and the reason I stayed with him had zero to do with him being a "bad boy" it's funny when I first met my BF he was amazing, very sweet and there for me... *shrugs* My Bday is on Thursday and he and I are suppose to be going to dinner with his parents and to a racing event with his family on Saturday.... I would say maybe he doesn't want to get me a gift LOL but he already got me a pimp 10 disc cd changer and had it installed... To RECORDPRODUCER... I think it's crappy to put the blame on me for his behaviour and say that it's because of me that he or anyone else behaves the way they do... ALPHA, you know I love you too... I just don't always agree with what you're saying... you are right that my BF and I have had some crazy history together but again I didn't stay with him for those times when he's being a jerkass, I stayed with him because the good outwieghed the bad and I really love him.... thought he was doing better... BARBY thanks girl... I do think something else was/is effecting his moodswings... I dunno... good to see you back around here though OUTKAST I agree with what you're saying, he (my BF) is a grown man and this is immature... DD and TAN... be on stand by for the fall out of PM's damn it's going to be a long day! EVERYONE.... thanks again... I don't know whats going to happen, it doesn't look very good right now
Mz. Pixie Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Oh my Merin! You hang in there sweetie. I'm supporting you in whatever happens. It my new hubby got upset over his kid loving me he'd be in trouble. The little guy is always all over me kissing me and telling me that he loves me- and he tells me more than he tells his dad. At times I have his wee one and my wee ones competing over who can get in my lap! Keep in mind, you are the only one who knows the insides of your R. We all know how easy it is to dole out advice but I know you really love this guy even if he is an assclown!
Neptune Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Something about this scenario just seems to indicate possible substance abuse of some kind going on. The most striking thing being leaving a car running for an hour.
fundamental Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 I just feel that there is another issue that he won't spill his guts about. So, until he explains himself, we will just have to speculate. To make things more confusing, his reasons change for being mad. He covers up his tracks because he feels so ridiculous for getting angry in the first place. Hope things get better Merin!!!
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