Brady_to_Moss Posted December 16, 2017 Posted December 16, 2017 So I ended up getting the phone number and talking with a nurse that works at my doctors office. (She works 2 streets over from where I work.) Right away on my first visit I was taken back by her smile and laugh. We would always talk a good amount before she left the room. Sports...weather..whatever and she would compliment me on things and vise versa. I felt something so I said screw it..I am going for it. So I am in the process of txting her and trying to nail down a day/time to meet up to do something. M-F she is very busy so it looks like it would be a weekend or maybe even a weeknight. I was thinking the normal dinner and drinks but I want to do something fun. I was thinking maybe bowling or maybe even something as simple as meet at Starbucks before we both go to work in the AM since we work so close to one another.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 16, 2017 Posted December 16, 2017 I don't like bowling for a first date. As a woman, I would assume the guy just wants to check out my butt. Over and over lol. Meet for a drink after work. A M-F job doesn't make her any busier than anyone else, but this is a very low pressure first date (if you both drink).
SevenCity Posted December 16, 2017 Posted December 16, 2017 Don’t do an AM date. It’s not romantic and it is time bound. Hard to go for a kiss at 8:45 AM as well. Sets a very friend vibe. Find an evening where you are both free. As far as bowling I’m surprised a woman would think we select that to check out their butts. We check you out anywhere. Dinner is a safe bet as it will give you time to get to know each other. Bowling is great for a second date once you have built up rapport. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2017 Posted December 17, 2017 After working all day dealing with cranky sick people she does not want to go to a loud bowling alley where she has to lift heavy bowling balls & throw them. Think gentle, calming, soothing when you plan the date Flexibility is key -- without becoming an afterthought. For an early date consider a Wednesday but also realize that everything from Dec. 20 through Jan. 2 is off limits. If she's up for it fine but if she bails on you during that 2 week period chalk it up to the time of year. Do not assume it has anything to do with you.
Dis Posted December 18, 2017 Posted December 18, 2017 After working all day dealing with cranky sick people she does not want to go to a loud bowling alley where she has to lift heavy bowling balls & throw them. Think gentle, calming, soothing when you plan the date Flexibility is key -- without becoming an afterthought. For an early date consider a Wednesday but also realize that everything from Dec. 20 through Jan. 2 is off limits. If she's up for it fine but if she bails on you during that 2 week period chalk it up to the time of year. Do not assume it has anything to do with you. I agree with d0nnivain I'm going into nursing and I can tell you, the last thing I want to do after a 9 hour clinical is go to bowling alley or somewhere equally as loud or crowded I honestly think for a first date, drinks at a quiet, dimly lit, romantic bar/restaurant will be PERFECT! (reserve a semi-private table or booth) 1st dates are not the time for participating in activities and games etc etc. They're for talking, one on one with no distractions If you get to the second date, bowling or something similiar would be great! Best of luck! 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 18, 2017 Posted December 18, 2017 For first dates I always like places that serve drinks and offer something to do. Used to be a nice bar/grill near me that had a bunch of professional pool tables. The drinks help everyone relax and you can play pool while you get to know one another. It's better than sitting there looking at each other, asking questions like a job interview. The secret to a good first date is to make sure she has a good time. Booze and games usually work well. I wish more bars had board games! 1
Art_Critic Posted December 18, 2017 Posted December 18, 2017 Walgreens and have your BP checked I would think any place intimate and quiet... bowling alleys are cool for a summer night date but in this case I would nix it.. even coffee would be better
JuneL Posted December 18, 2017 Posted December 18, 2017 Is she allowed to go out with her patient? Wouldn't there be an ethical issue?
Dis Posted December 18, 2017 Posted December 18, 2017 Is she allowed to go out with her patient? Wouldn't there be an ethical issue? Good point June He didnt specify he was her patient but if he was it would be unethical for her to be involved with him outside of the office The only way she could date him is if he wasnt ever her patient or was but is no longer 1
greymatter Posted December 18, 2017 Posted December 18, 2017 I've never been an "activity date" kind of person. I'm very happy to sit in a bar (I don't drink but that doesn't stop me) and/or have dinner or grab coffee and completely focus on getting to know my date. I've gone for walks as a first meeting but that allows for less face time, though has been fine. My preference is for any scenario that allows for focus on one another without a lot of distractions. I would not like bowling (that's something I would do with my kid though) and having to deal with borrowed squeaky shoes when I like my shoes better, and trying to find a ball that doesn't hurt my hands, etc. However, recognize this is all about personal preference and that is why I'd recommend talking with her on the phone and making a plan together for where you'll meet.
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